Why I Decided To Go To College With My Sister

Why I Decided To Go To College With My Sister

I wouldn't have it any other way.

It’s senior year. It’s the moment you’ve been dreading since you walked through the doors of high school. It's the moment you thought was years away, but snuck up on you faster than you expected.

You guessed it: it’s time to start applying to colleges.

This process is much more than sending in an application. Before all that, you have to first decide how far away you want to be from home, if you want to commute, what kind of things you plan on majoring in, and in most cases, the amount of money it will cost you to go.

Of course, I thought about all these things, but another important part of going away to school was deciding if I wanted to spend the next four years with my twin sister.

When I first began the process of trying to figure out which school was right for me, I wondered where my sister and I would end up after we graduated. Would we be together at the same school, or miles apart?

At the time it seemed a bit uncertain, but in the end, we both knew there was no way we would be able to survive the next four years without each other. A lot of people told my sister and I that we needed to expand our horizons and experience college by ourselves.

I’m sure they said this mainly because you don’t see me without her or her without me. I guess they had a point, considering we are together pretty much 24/7. Regardless, here’s what I say to all of that.

For starters, we had already been roommates for the first 18 years of our lives, so why not add on four more? We were already so used to living with each other, and the thought of getting a random roommate freaked me out a little.

Having her with me made it feel a little bit like home. Another benefit of having her as my roomie meant more clothes for me to wear. That is always a plus.

Although we were away from home, it was nice to have my sister there while I adjusted to my new life as a college student. When away at school, we all get those moments of homesickness. This is inevitable, no matter how close or far you are from home.

If I ever got overwhelmed or felt that I was swamped with work, she always reassured me that I’d be fine. It was always nice knowing we were going through the college struggle together.

Of course, there will come a time in our lives when we must separate from each other and go out into the world following our own paths. But until that moment, I plan on taking full advantage of the friendship I was given from birth, a friendship that is unlike any other and one that I will clench onto for my entire life.

My sister is my support system, cheerer-upper, and one of the only people in my life that will tell me the blatant truth whether I want to hear it or not. Why would I ever choose to give that up when I was able to have it so close to me for a few more years, before starting our careers and going in different directions?

Now, I’m not saying that once we graduate from college our relationship will never be the same. But once we get into the real world, I know it’s possible it can change.

There is no one on the planet who gets me like she does. I mean that’s obvious, right? She’s my identical twin for crying out loud. Of course, she is going to understand me better than anyone else.

But the relationship we have is one that would suffer greatly if we were too far apart. There is just no way I would be able to survive the crazy world of college without her experiencing it with me.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

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Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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An Open Letter To Older Brothers, With All The Things Your Younger Brothers Won't Admit

This is what everyone with older brothers won't admit, so I'll do it for us all.


Older Brothers:

As we get older, we definitely begin to grasp at the importance of our relationship with each other. More specifically, the path of substantial growth that develops and unfolds as we get older bewilders us, yet we find ourselves elated with the direction that it is taking. Although we used to unconditionally hate each other, times change substantially the older we become.

We all truthfully appreciate the weight of the growth more than you do, and we'll explain why further in this letter alongside the stages of our relationship.

Ironically, it is very hysterical to think as far back as we can remember to when we were little kids. We definitely caused our parents to be overwhelmed with extraordinary stress, but it did not matter to us. The first stage of our relationship was as innocent and peaceful as could be, at least before the storm arrives later on. We truly appreciate engaging in nothing but fun with you. You were our first tour guide in the world, and your hobbies became ours. We could often be found disappearing into endeavors, on a life or death mission as we saw it.

Simply put, we were in it together, whatever it was.

Even with small and insignificant bickering every once in a while, it never amounted to anything terrible. All we cared about was exploding with our energy and breaking the ornery meter with you. Thank you for embracing this first stage of enjoyment with us. It seemed to pass by incredibly fast, especially with stage two of our relationship on the horizon.

Stage two was a huge love-hate time. It was also by far the most growthful and helpful time for us, even though it certainly did not seem that way. As we entered into our pre-teens and then into middle school, all we cared about was undermining you. For some reason that we really do not know how to explain, we attempted to find an edge.

Stage two of our relationship was filled with fighting that usually ended in us losing. This specifically helped us to learn how to deal with crap. You also had all your high school friends more or less beat us up. You also always expected us to be at our best. As you progressed through high school, we were beginning to learn it all. This is where the love of love-hate came into play. Although we also never explicitly understood or acknowledged it, you inspired us. Being older, you had already experienced a lot and helped us through the worst.

Stage two was definitely a rollercoaster of love-hate (more hate in our minds), but we later learned you were dope.

In the final stage of growth in our relationship, we learned that we had and have a built-in forever best friend relationship. In our late high school years, college, and beyond, we finally realized the impact you had on us. You are honestly probably happier than us that we finally grew up, but we never admit we were and are the perfect duo, two peas in a pod. We grew up together and experienced a lot. So here's to us, even though we will always be better than you.

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