14 Things To Tell Our Past Selves

14 Things To Tell Our Past Selves

If only you knew the things then that you know now.

Over the years, there have been things that I cringe thinking about. With technology the way it is these days, it’s even easier to remember the old photos, and now thanks to Timehop, old tweets and Facebook posts. In light of this, I’ve thought a lot about what I wish I could stop myself from posting. For example, I posted on Facebook four years ago on November 11, “It’s 11/11/11 and it’s been a normal day, so far…….. ;)”, and looking at that now, I’m wondering why I thought I should post that.

I also thought about the number of things I wish I could stop myself from doing, saying, or even wearing. (A sparkly purple skirt and terribly tie dyed shirt would be on the list.) Here are the list of things I wish I could tell the old me.

1. Facebook is a public thing, and yes your crush does read what you post.

Please don’t ask the world how to tell if a guy has a crush on you, because as you’ll find out later in life, he’ll let you know one way or another. Plus, not every guy is worth it, you'll know when he's worth it.

2. I know you want to wear those short jean shorts, but yes, your butt is hanging out of them.

I’m all for wearing what you feel good in. I mean I wear oversized t-shirts and jeans or leggings to class daily now, something middle school me would cringe about. But, honey, as you'll learn later in life, the Lord put a lot in that trunk of yours and if Mom says that your butt is hanging out of those shorts, it probably is, and no it’s not attractive.

3. And while on the subject, wear what’s comfortable, but please learn how to match things together.

No, those clunky Ugg boots and running shorts are only acceptable when you’re leaving the dance studio after a long night of class, not for wearing to school every day.


That’s really all there is to it, not every guy on the plant is a sweetheart and not every guy on the plant needs his head examined when he doesn’t like you back. Also, maybe don’t chase that boy across the soccer field that just makes you look really weird and desperate.

5. Also on the subject: Do not ask a guy out by text message.

Yeah, no, it isn’t just guys who do that. Once upon a time I asked a boy to a school dance via text message on my flip phone, and didn’t understand why he didn’t respond. That’s just the easy way out, and yes it’s a little shallow. If you truly care about this boy, just ask him out in person. Trust me, I’m sure he’s terrified too, especially if he does like you back.

6. Not all the friends you make, are here for life.

It’s a hard lesson to learn, but it’s true, not everyone is meant to stay in your life. Not everyone is meant to stay forever, and it’s okay. It might hurt now when they stop talking to you randomly, but your life does not revolve around them.

7. Just because your dance teacher yells at you, doesn’t mean she hates you.

Really she doesn’t, she just knows you aren’t giving it 100% and knows you can. Want her to stop yelling? Maybe give it 100% and practice your dances and she'll stop yelling? At least yelling at you anyways.

8. Also on the subject, don’t be lazy.

Just don’t, that’s all there is to it. Give it 100% every day, because it does pay off in the end. And in the grown up world, no one rewards laziness, unless that's a character in a show you're in.

9. Going out and partying all night? Totally Overrated.

Sure, go and have fun with your friends, but not getting invited out all the time is okay. Your friends aren’t purposely excluding you, they probably just forgot to shoot you a text. Plus, spending that night watching movies with your mom isn’t lame. In fact, you’ll miss that the most in college.

10. Don’t blow off every family thing that comes up.

There is going to come a time when the same family members you grew up with aren’t there all the time anymore. Speaking from where I am now, enjoy the random times Grandma wants to play cards with you. You won’t always have that chance

11. You are going to fail sometimes, it’s not the end of the world.

Failure is good for you. Ignoring your mistakes will result in you making the same mistake over and over again, and you don’t want to do that. Learn from your mistakes and move forward.

12. Time management is important.

Yeah, procrastination is bad. Please break the habit now, it's not healthy for you to be in tears every other week, because you don't understand how it's midnight and you still have three pages of math to do, a paper that's due in the morning and a 9:30 a.m class. Learn how to manage this now, you'll thank yourself for it later.

13. Do not let your judgement be influenced.

Like Mom always told you, trust your gut and let your conscience be your guide. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't and you shouldn't let others try to convince you it is. Also if these friends don't understand why you decide to not do the thing that's making you uneasy and continue to pressure you into it, they aren't real friends.

And finally...

14. Don't let your life pass you by.

You spend a good chunk of focusing on the future, usually because you're stressed out about a teacher or wanting to grow up faster so that Mom can stop yelling at you, but you're also missing some of the best, care-free years of your life. Yes, high school isn't a grand and glorious place, and not every subject should be required, (Why not teach me how to do taxes instead of focusing on teaching me logarithms, because unless I continue in that field, I will never do that again.), but those are the years where you have way less responsibility than you have in college currently and will have in the future. Enjoy your time instead of focusing on the big picture all the time.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

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