We’ve all been in “that” situation before. Yes, that one where we’re crushing on a certain someone, but it always seems as if they don’t notice you/even know you exist.     

This is probably one of the worst, most stressful, most heart-wrenching feelings there are.  You want to be able to say something, but you can’t. So what do you do next?   

Oftentimes, you recruit the help of your friends. Being in a sorority, you always have your sisters who know plenty of boys on campus, including your mystery one. I found that one of the best ways to deal with a situation like this is to use reinforcements (a.k.a. your sisters). Send them out on missions to discover who this boy really is and if he’s right for you. This may seem a little far-fetched but trust me, I’ve seen it happen. Anything can happen in the bubble you call your college campus. You even often find yourself friends with other people in different sororities who know your “mystery boy” and can talk to him. Honestly, any help you can get counts for something.   

It’s also important to realize that that one “hookup” you had that “one weekend” at that “one frat” does not mean that the two of you are “automatically dating” or that it is “true love.” It’s college. This happens ALL the time, it’s only natural in this type of environment. It is important to go in with the mindset of not getting “attached.” There are countless of stories that I have heard, even some with my closest friends, where they got a little “too involved” and “overthought” a certain situation. It only drives you crazy. College is a time to make mistakes, learn from them, and become a wiser, more knowledgeable person.   

College is a time to be independent. You have the rest of your life to spend with your “special someone.” Enjoy being able to get to know different people. Also, take your academics very seriously. It is the foundation for the your entire future, basically. But in your free time, do not take yourself so seriously. College is like the last time you have to act like a kid. After that, whether it is grad school or the real world, you have to act like the mature, responsible adult you are. No, I am not encouraging any risky, dangerous, or irresponsible behavior (obviously, no college student acts like that anyways!) but do have fun and don’t take life so seriously. Put all your seriousness towards your work and just make the most out of your short time in college.  

Most importantly, do not stress out about “mystery boy.”  When the time is right, everything will fall into place. Nothing is worth it if it needs to be forced. Don’t be that creepy girl who stalks the boy, it’s just a waste of time. It’s not worth the heartache and pain you’ll get once you work up a fantasy just to see it come crumbling down right before your eyes.   

Live college life to the fullest and most importantly, leave “mystery boy” a mystery.