There is a lot I wish I could tell my high school self. Looking back, high school was a rollercoaster that I was barely tall enough to ride. There were constant drops that caused my stomach to bubble with anticipation but then flip and flop on the way down.
Don’t get me wrong, high school wasn’t a horror movie that never ended, I had some great times. No one gives advice on what to do when things are going well though.
I’d tell myself not to worry so much about what people think about you. I’d make sure to inform my younger self to be more outgoing and involved because looking back I regret being so reserved. Make friends in high school because no one likes feeling alone.
I’d tell myself that one bad grade isn’t the end of the world. There is always a next time to make up for a not so great job. Don’t be embarrassed by not doing so hot, everyone has their moments. Just keep your head up and study a little harder next time. One of my college professors always says “it’s better to study too much rather than not enough”.
I’d tell myself that there’s hope after a breakup and high school relationships are overrated. Take a breakup as a learning experience and realize that you aren’t you yet. There is so much to learn about yourself after high school, when all the pressures and judgements of your peers are eliminated. High school is a time for learning and being yourself so don’t worry about finding a relationship; worry about finding yourself.
I’d tell myself that friendships end and it’s okay. Just like a romantic relationship, the ending of a friendship is an opportunity to learn. People are meant to come and go in your life even if they seem like they will be there forever. After you leave high school you’ll be immersed in a sea of eligible friends. It may seem hard to make new friends but just give it time.
I’d tell myself that even though college seems scary at first it’ll be some of the best times of your life. College is where you will meet new people, learn new things, and be immersed in so much. College is where you leave your comfort zone and really blossom as a person.
So to my high school self (and my high school readers) stop worrying. Live in the moment and always keep your chin up. Always remember to not let life get you down.
