Dear Mom, From Your Daughter In College

Dear Mom, From Your Daughter In College

Here are all the things our phone calls aren't long enough to say.

Dear Mom,

Do you remember when I was three and we would play together? It was the age of princesses and carpet that was actually lava, and you were the prettiest woman in the whole wide world. Do you remember when I was in high school and the world seemed too big and scary? You would know exactly when to take me on a mother-daughter date and have me laughing about anything and everything, and you were the smartest woman in the whole wide world. Now, I'm buried in homework and deadlines hours away from you and we don't get to talk as much you want, but you're still the prettiest, smartest woman in the whole wide world.

I'm sorry that I don't call you as much as I should, and you know a lot of what goes on in my world via posts and pictures. Our schedules just seem to never line up so we can have the three-hour conversations about everything like I want to. I know we don't agree on absolutely everything, but I cherish every piece of advice you give me, even though it probably seems like I'm hardly listening. I know that sometimes we get on each other's nerves, but thank you for putting up with me for all of these years. Thank you for listening to me cry, complain, question things and go on and on about how everything in college is. I know I don't come home as much as I used to, but I think about you all the time. After all, you're my first friend, and therefore, my best friend.

Thank you for celebrating my successes with me, and not downing me too hard for my failures. Thank you for knowing what mistakes I shouldn't make, but letting me make them anyway because you want me to live my life and be my own person. Thank you for knowing when to ask about the boy I've been talking about, and when to stop without any questions. Thank you for letting me be my crazy, weird, sometimes know-it-all self.

Thank you for sitting back and watching me spread my wings and fly. There is no way I could have known how to grow into the woman I am today if I hadn't watched you while I was growing up so I would know what kind of person I should aspire to be. Thank you for being the first (and the best) role model I ever had. You continue to inspire and amaze me every day with all that you do, and all that you are.

I don't know how I got so lucky to have a person in my life like you, but I thank the Lord every night for blessing me with the smartest, prettiest person to be my best friend, my role model, my confidant, my person and most importantly, my mother.


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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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How To Lose A Guy In 10 Minutes

A take on the men of Michigan State University inspired by everyone's favorite rom-com.


Most of us can agree that thinking about the early 2000's triggers a sense of nostalgia.

The best music, movies, and fashion still fill our throwback playlists, Netflix cues, and possibly even closets.

I've always been a romantic comedy aficionado-but I realized a few weeks ago that I hadn't seen one of the staples from the early 2000's: "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days." Strangely enough, I didn't have a clue what it was about, but after my friends insisted on my watching it, I knew I had to conjure up a modern-day version of Andie Anderson's famous article.

Crashing poker nights, girly apartment decorations, and a love fern wouldn't exactly match up with today's campus culture, but a year at MSU has given me pretty solid ideas on how to lose a guy in not only 10 days, but 10 minutes. Just so we're aware, I wouldn't expect any guy in 2018 to remain interested for 10 whole days.

1. Invade his personal space.

You know the drill. The massive lecture hall has hundreds of seats, and you're there early. In order to really make a guy you're interested in uncomfortable, sit directly next to him.

This reassures that you are clingy and proud, because the rows and rows of empty seats in a silent, morning lecture fails to intimidate you. If you want to throw in a little extra, lean onto his arm-rest and even face your laptop towards him so he sees you shopping for that formal dress and texting your friends about not having a date.

2. Remind him that IM sports don't make him a student-athlete.

Being a student-athlete is a definitely a serious commitment.

Playing Intramural dodgeball does not. So if he asks you if you are coming to support his "big game", or makes excuses about not doing homework and other obligations because he's too focused on his team, remind him bluntly that he was not good enough to play sports in college.

This will be a low-blow to his athletic confidence, and he will surely be done with you.

3. Scream when Mr. Brightside plays at a party.

It's almost midnight, and whoever has aux at the party has already gone through this month's favorites: "Mo Bamba," "No Brainer," maybe "Jackie Chan." The DJ knows they have to play a solid throwback to get the party going, so naturally they choose "Mr. Brightside."

If you want to draw attention to yourself and let everyone know you know all of the words, scream as soon as that first note plays. Your target guy will be scared away by your "basic" favorite party song, your scream, your intensified dance moves, or a combination of all three.

4. Social media stalk him. 

To really let him know you're thinking about him, you must resort to social media.

Like all of his old Instagram pictures (especially ones with girls), poke him on Facebook, DM him on Twitter, and make sure you are snap chatting and texting at the same time at all times. Your name will appear on every social media platform, and he will fear seeing it pop up again.

To push him over the edge, follow all of him family members on social media, and comment on their pictures of him as a child.

5. Expose him on VSCO.

Make sure you really advertise that one time that he called you "baby" over text. Screenshot it and put it on VSCO, and of course add the VSCO link to your Instagram bio. Repost multiple pictures of adorable relationships, just so he's sure that's exactly what you want from him.

6. Ask for the attendance code.

If you're not ready to sit right on top of him in lecture-pester him for the attendance code every week. Let him know you can't make it because you were still getting dolled-up, and he will despise the fact that he's doing your attendance for that reason. To top it off, do better than him on the exam by studying lots while you're missing the class.

7. Pull out the headphones.

No matter where you are: the library, walking to class, the cafeteria, or the gym, utilize this method to really piss him off. Get his attention by pulling out his headphone and starting a super-enthused story.

He will be angry that you interrupted his song, and then even more heated when he becomes trapped in your story. Really be a distraction-make him late, let someone take his weights at the gym, or push his plate of food away. This certifies that what you have to say is far more important than what he's doing, and he will go crazy.

8. Send him 10 outfit options.

Whether you're just going to class or going out on the town, let him know that you look amazing in way more than one outfit.

Try on every variation of your favorites, and send them his way, even if he won't be able to tell the difference. Ask him to choose, and he will be forced to form an opinion on your jean skirt versus your black jean skirt. Then, wear the one he did not choose, and post a picture in it, just so he knows he wasted his time.

9. Wear a cheer skirt to meet the family.

Just like in the movie, he takes you to his hometown to meet everyone. To make a good impression, he tells you to dress your best. You could wear a nice sweater or dress, but why not reveal the crazy even sooner? Wear your MSU cheer skirt with your best tailgate outfit, and you will have his head in his hands 10 minutes into family dinner.

10. Replace the SAFTB flag.

This one may be the most deranged.

Remove his "SATURDAYS ARE FOR THE BOYS" flag, along with any other stray signs referring to beer or half-naked models, and in their place, hang up pictures of yourself and you two together. He will have to look at your face all of the time, and be reminded that you got away with that somehow.

But the worst part for him would probably be explaining the situation to his roommates, who didn't prefer the new decorations. When he attempts to take them down, say all the crazy things you've learned from our favorite movie, and by this point, your relationship's fate will surely be out of your hands.

I'd love to test these theories out some day like Andie Anderson, but I'm not sure it would go exactly like a classic rom-com does.

However, if you are in a sticky situation and need to get out, these modern-day nuances will surely come in handy. 2003 was pretty different than 2018, so Andie's procedure needed a bit of altering, but overall, she inspired me to highlight the ways to drive away an MSU man even faster than she could.

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