"The Notebook," "Titanic," "Gone with the Wind," "A Walk To Remember," "Pride and Prejudice" and so and so forth. You get the point, Hollywood and romance had been pumping out love stories for decades. They catch our attention and tug at our heart strings, even empty our wallets. Recently I've really thought about what they say about love. I've come to the realization that they often portray an unrealistic and false sense of what love means. Usually full of hyper-sexualized love and over the top romance. Now before I go to far, let me just say that I know we all love a good romance movie and they are great to watch! However, we have to be careful what we take away from them and how they influence us.

The movie industry has taken love and crafted it into something no longer recognizable by chivalry and compassion or understanding. Instead, it has become about lust, sex and getting what you want or else it becomes disposable. Love has gone from a deep connection between two people to a single action that has becoming highlighted by a culture that pressures us every day.

Since when has love become about yourself? When has love become all about self-indulgence? When did love become disposable just because a disagreement? What is love anymore?

The problem with this glamorized view is that we begin to idolize this perceived version of perfect love. Love becomes focused on what we can get from the other person and how we can satisfy ourselves instead of care for the other person. Love, two people together who do anything and everything together for each other because they are connected at the heart level. No matter what comes they are strong and support each other and do everything it takes to grow and become more mature in their relationship.

Love is raw. Love has ups and downs. How about a movie where a couple struggles to fully understand one another's views on something in their relationship? How about telling us the story of a couple who didn't find love until they found themselves? Love is so complicated and inclusive of so much more than a sweet story and a one night stand that creates it. A true relationship of love is when one becomes dissatisfied or hurt and works through it with the other to understand and amend the struggle. Guys and gals Hollywood love isn't real! Love doesn't come with any strings attached! Love isn't without pain and trials, but love does have romance and it does have fun and excitement.

Love can't be simplified to sex and cliche romance scenes. Real love and real life with someone has so much more. It's this mash up of fun dates, lasting memories, crazy stories, wonderful feelings and intimate moments that make you feel this emotion. Don't let the high-end movie industry tell you that love is perfect and that love is about you. Love is about each other. Love isn't blind its open and trusting. Love isn't found it's built. No film tells you that.

The movies can tell you whatever they want and they do. All because the perfect story puts money in their pockets. But to all of you, remember there is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect story that starts a perfect love-filled-life with someone.

Hollywood may have lost its grip of real life love. We as people still know real love in our hearts when we find it. True love does exist!