Dear Girl Who’s Considering Dating A Guy With A Child,

If you ask any girl today would they date a man that has kids, most of them will look at you as if you are a complete nut-job and that it was absolutely out of the equation. But in the reality if they were in the situation, they probably would feel an entirely different way? I was one of those girls. I vowed never to date a man with a child because of the extra “baggage” that came along with dealing with a child. But I turned out to be completely out of line with my judgmental nature, and I would soon eat my words.

I began dating my boyfriend and I knew he had a child, and I was complete scared of what I had got myself into. What if his son didn’t like me? What if this caused unnecessary drama to my life? What if the baby’s mother and I didn’t get along? These were all of the things that ran through my head, but I went along and started the relationship in spite of my lurking fear.

I couldn’t have been more wrong! I honestly believe this has been the most fun I’ve ever had in a relationship. I feel like I’m a kid again. When we play, I love seeing the smile that comes across his son's face or even when I act as if I’m a cat and do my tickles that he loves so much! Or even the innocent kisses on the cheek that make you feel so loved! I never in a million years saw myself in this position, and yes, it has it stressing points but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

I hate to be kind of a cheese ball, but I believe my boyfriend is a great dad. And as our relationship has grown stronger, he has learned to balance being a dating parent as well as a present father, which I will tell you is not the easiest thing to do. But he wears both hats amazingly. And girl who is considering dating a guy that has a child, it is one of the most selfless things you will go through. I didn’t say it would be an easy thing, but you always should put the child first and seeing a man with his child and being so active in his child’s life will make him even more attractive. I promise you!