An Open Letter To Some Ex-Best Friends

An Open Letter To Some Ex-Best Friends

You might be able to relate or you might not, but here is an open letter to some of my ex-best friends.

Whether it was middle school, high school, college or beyond, we've all had a best friend who no longer is our best friend. Relationships can end in a million different ways and I've seen a good chunk of those options first hand. You might be able to relate or you might not, but here is an open letter to some of my ex-best friends.

1. My high school best friend

I'm sorry we lost touch. College sucks. Freshman year we kept our promises. We talked on a regular basis and saw each other on almost every break. I knew about the boys in your life and I kept you up to date on my relationship as well. I knew you hated the major you chose and you were the only one I told when I failed chemistry. I thought the summer after freshman year would be just like high school..but it wasn't. You had an internship and I had a job.

You had new friends and so did I. And I'm not really sure how it happened but we stopped talking. Now I don't know what your major is or if you're talking to anyone. You don't know that I'm planning on going to grad school or that I've fallen in love. But I'm thankful for the things you taught me and for the memories we shared. You saved me more times than I can remember and I'm forever grateful for that. Even if we're not close anymore, I'll always love you and if you need me, I'm here.

2. My college best friend

I'm sorry we were immature. We grew so close so fast and we didn't really get to know each other. We didn't even know each other for a year before we decided to be roommates. I didn't know your quirks and you didn't know mine. We thought living together would be fun and although it was a first, we got tired of each other really fast.

We didn't communicate and that was partly my fault. I'm sorry I hated your boyfriend. I'm sorry I shut you out. If I could start over I would. But now its too late and we don't talk anymore. You have new friends and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous. You were the first person I ever went to a college party with but now I avoid seeing you when I go out. Its funny how things can change so fast. I miss you and I hope you're doing well.

Growing up is weird. You never really know who is temporary and who isn't. And it's hard knowing who will be worth the fight and who wont. If either of those friends read this, I hope you agree that we changed each other's lives for the better!

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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