Getting Rejected From Something You Applied For Stinks, But Everyone's Faced Rejection Sometime

Getting Rejected From Something You Applied For Stinks, But Everyone's Faced Rejection Sometime

How to deal with rejection


Something that I have learned being a freshman at an extremely competitive public university is that I will get rejected from multiple things that I apply to, and that is okay!

Even if you aren't a freshman, maybe you're a sophomore, junior or even a senior that recently faced rejection from a job, graduate school or even a super cool hands-on club that you have at the school you are currently attending; it sucks. I'm not going to sugar coat it, but life goes on!

Go out with your friends, have a nice dinner! I promise you, it is not the end of the world. I remember being a senior in high school, and I thought getting rejected from my dream school would be the end of the world but now, I could not be happier. I am a true believer in the phrase, "everything happens for a reason", a phrase that my high school AP Language teacher would constantly reiterate every day.

You have to believe in yourself if you want to cry, scream, or punch a pillow go do that! However, do not ever think that you are not good enough. For every one success there were probably four or five failures; take this experience as an opportunity to improve your skills, and update your resume. Take what you have learned from your failure and create something amazing from it.

Although getting rejected from something that you are extremely passionate about may seem like it is the end of the world, that maybe there is nothing better for you out there in the world, but you are wrong. Everyone who has faced rejection in their life is strong, intelligent and brave because you adapt to the circumstances. Never give up. Just remember this: everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) happens for a reason.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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7 Guidelines For Effective Reframing

There is a positive intention behind every thought.


Events or situations do not have inherent meaning; rather you assign them a meaning based on how you interpret the event. Every thought has a hidden "frame" behind it. The frame is your underlying beliefs and assumptions that are implied by your thoughts. Here are 7 main guidelines to effectively reframe your mindset:

1. Shift from passive to active.

Example: Someone says, "I really doubt that I can do anything about this." You may respond, "What is one small step you might take?"

2. Shift from negative feeling to positive feeling.

Example: Someone says, "I don't want to work on that now because it makes me angry." You may respond, "What small part of that might you work on for now that might leave you feeling a bit better about it?"

3. Shift from past to future.

Example: Someone says, "I've never been good at public speaking." You may respond, "If you imagined yourself successful at public speaking, how would it look?"

4. Shift from future to past.

Example: Someone says, "I can't seem to get started on achieving this goal." You may respond, "Has there been a time in the past when you achieved a goal and what did you do to achieve it?"

5. Shift from others to oneself.

Example: Someone says, "They don't seem to like me." You may respond, "What do you like about yourself?"

6. Shift from a liability to an asset.

Example: Someone says, "I'm such a perfectionist." You may respond, "How has being a perfectionist helped you in your job and life?"

7. Shift from victimization to empowerment.

Example: Someone says, "That always seems to happen to me. I'm an easy mark so they blame me." You may respond, "Sometimes we even do that to ourselves. Perhaps it would be useful to look at if you are doing that to yourself too?"

"If more students use self-compassion to reframe their failures, they may discover more nourishing sources of motivation and healthier strategies to pursue their goals." – Rachel Simmons

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