For years I've been told that I'm complicated and have a "wall." The reality is, most people are complicated and will have their guard up. No one is born complicated. There is no "hard to figure out" gene. But once you've been hurt, it's hard to be open with new people. People are complicated because their lives are.
Now I know what you're thinking. How could anyone want a complicated, difficult person? It would be too much work to date them. The truth is, it's better to date someone who isn't so simple.
Here are three reasons why this is true.
1. You'll never be bored.
One perk of dating someone who is difficult is that they will always entertain you. Between the fun craziness and the stubborn mentality, you will never know what to expect. One minute they could be indecisive about what coffee to order and the next they could be some other thought. There isn't a single dull moment. You're significant other will be amazed by what you do because they will never know what's coming. Dating a difficult person will always leave you speechless, shaking your head and laughing.
2. The challenge.
It's not simple. Dating a complicated person is nowhere near easy. Some might say it's a pain and not worth the trouble. But easy is boring and humans, by nature, like a challenge. If someone is easy to figure out, we lose interest, The beauty of a difficult individual is there will always be some mystery. Even when you learn what there is to know, you will still be left with surprises. The best things in life don't come without any effort. That includes people.
3. You learn a lot.
When dating a difficult person, you'll learn about yourself and people. You learn how to more patient when you're fighting or when your significant other is moody. You become more understanding and know how to communicate better. Also your tolerance level increases. You start to be able to deal with anything that is thrown at you. Little annoyances become no big deal. Overall, you grow as a person and become better for it. A complicated person will make you work. You'll work to get them and to keep them. You learn that the only way to keep a relationship alive is by seeing the relationship as a reward that requires constant maintenance to hold on to.
