You read that right. Yes, being bisexual means being attracted to both males and females but once you get into a relationship with one it is as if you have to stay with that one. It is hard telling someone that you are bisexual when you are in a relationship with a male.

It is often looked at weirdly, I get confused responses. As well as bisexuals that are in female-female relationships, those outside of the community feel indifferent when you are then seen in a male-female relationship. It is almost as if one cannot be gay and straight at the same time.

There has been a negative stigma around the bisexual community. We are looked at as greedy or desperate because we supposedly want both genders instead of one. That is what’s wrong. You can not just “pick one.”

Bisexuals have been outcasted and shamed for their sexual preferences because others outside of the community do not see bisexuality as a real sexuality. It is seen as an easier way to score a date.

For me, it is sad to see that on special occasions like National Coming Out Day I have to deal with those who will comment on my post to tell me that I can not come out or celebrate this time because I have a boyfriend.

This is not the way it should be. The LGBT community is home to several different types of people with different labels and pronouns to match, it is disappointing to be told that I can not join certain social media hashtags involving the LGBT community because I am in a straight relationship at the moment.

The relationship I am in right now is not my only relationship. It does not define what the rest of my relationships have to be like. My current relationship is being judged by my past ones. If I want to be in an intimate relationship with a female that is my decision as well if I wanted to do so with a male.

That is what the term bisexual was created for, those who simply love both.