In 2019, those looking for a date have perhaps the easiest time finding someone. With the multitude of dating apps (tinder being the favorite among the younger crowd), the vast expanse of the internet in general, bars, parties, and even mutuals in common, one could argue there would be no reason someone looking for a little romance couldn't find a partner! For an old soul, however, things aren't quite that easy.
Tinder, the seemingly go-to method for nabbing a date, has transformed from it's original purpose of meeting others looking for a date to a monstrosity used as the sure fire way to secure a hookup. Tinder makes it easy to swipe on a face with a short few sentences of a bio and maybe stalk their Instagram if it's listed.
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In the 2 weeks I entertained the idea of tinder, the amount of nudes requests I got was equally surprising and not at all, especially when some guy told a story about his mom and then used her as a way to ask for them (shudder). For a millennial, the occassional - as my very funny and very suave friend calls it - "tasteful nude" is a good way to test the waters to see what the other person has to offer. You may want a trip down Rainbow Road but maybe the company of a Donald Trump worthy Toad ain't your thing
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This kind of thing doesn't appeal to the old soul, though; and therein lies the problem. I'm not a fan of sending you nakey pics of myself, especially to someone I don't know.
If you're an old soul, you may find that texts between you and the opposite sex often turn to flirting and then hinting about dating (when you've made it clear you're not interested about a thousand times). Casual flings aren't appealing to you, blind dates seem more terrifying than fun, and the amount of guys that flip a lid when you politely turn them down is staggering. Sometimes you think it's just better to stay at home with your nine cats for the rest of your life rather than deal with all the craziness out there.
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80s movies held all the magic of an honest to god relationship; and I know that's the movies and they're too good to be true, but is it too much to ask for a partner that is actually interested in getting to know you rather than shuffle you off straight to the bedroom? As an old soul, I'm not looking for a Jane Austen romance because lord help me, if I have to deal with all the runaround from a JA love interest I'd rather shoot myself in the foot.
I'm talking about staying in on a Saturday and being lazy, talking about everything and nothing and getting to know little things about one another. I'm talking about going to a restaraunt with your love and selecting a couple having a conversation and coming up with the silly things they might be saying to each other. Something as small as taking the initiative and planning a date without them having to consult you and just dragging you along for the ride is great. Even better, surprising you with something small that you mentioned a long time ago but never really emphasized, or picking up your favorite snack 2 for a dollar shows they LISTEN; and in my opinion that's romantic as hell.
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That being said, just because this dating generation is apt to go at turbo speed doesn't mean you as an old soul have to. Keep holding out for that one person that gets it, respects your need to keep things cool for a while until you're ready to take the necessary steps. It's totally fine to take your time and not rush into things just because everyone else seems to have someone. Don't sacrifice yourself for the sake of someone else. As the song says, "Mama said you can't hurry love, no you'll just have to wait."
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