When people use the term “Daddy’s Girl,” it is often in a negative context. I’ve gotten the following statements many times:
“Did your Daddy buy that for you?”
“How spoiled are you?”
“You obviously get anything you want just because you’re a Daddy’s Girl.”
Let’s get some things straight. Being a Daddy’s Girl does not mean that I mooch off of my father for all he’s worth. It does not mean he gives me his credit card whenever, it does not mean he buys me everything I want, and it certainly does not mean that I’m a spoiled brat. Being a Daddy’s Girl means that I have a relationship with my Dad that I cherish more than anything. We click on so many levels and I consider him one of my best friends.
I can go to him with my problems, my fears, my successes, my boy problems, my friendship problems… And he listens with an open mind, ready to give advice if I need it. He keeps me in check when I start to get ahead of myself and he boosts me up when I feel low. My father knows me better than anyone and we have a bond that’s special between only us.
We have our own adventures together, such as getting milkshakes late at night and taking road trips to see his alma matter. He taught me how to punch, how to play chess, and how to build up my standards for men. He taught me to never settle for anything less than I deserve. He taught me the value of a hard-earned dollar. He taught me that there’s no use crying over something that’s happened in the past, but to look forward to the future with a learning experience in mind. He taught me that I can be anything I want – and he’ll be there to support me through it.
Being a Daddy’s Girl is not a bad thing. I am not spoiled because I’m close with my father. I’m not a brat because he lets me get my way all the time (because he doesn’t). I don’t get everything I want because he taught me that there’s more to life than materialistic things that I really don’t need and shouldn’t waste my money on. I am not allowed to go anywhere anytime because my father taught me wisdom on how to spend my time and who to spend it with. I am not disrespectful because my dad taught me that when someone says no, it means no - and I don’t argue.
My dad is one of my best friends. I go to him with anything and everything; whether it be school questions, financial questions, or how to deal with a guy being a jerk. And he’s always there for me because that is how a father is supposed to be.
If all of those things makes me a Daddy’s Girl, then so be it. I won’t feel bad for having a great relationship with my father just because of a derogatory term you throw at me. My dad taught me to brush those things off, because if you have a problem with the way I relate to my dad, then that’s your issue, not mine.
