Cutting Toxic Family Members

It's Totally OK To Cut Toxic Family Members Out Of Your Life

Sometimes, blood isn't thicker than water.


You're almost always taught that, after every battle and every conflict, after every situation, every up, and every down, your family is supposed to have your back. We are told this at a very young age so, of course, we are going to believe it.

Family members make promises that they will always be there for you. They will laugh with you and make sure you're satisfied. What is really annoying is how they don't stick with their word. What sucks is that they are two-faced, stuck-up, and cruel.


Every family has its problems. It's natural. Unfortunately, some families go through worse. Members may choose to stay the same, keep their promises, and be nice and kind to you. Others, however, may choose to delete you.

I know from experience.

Some may choose to make you feel like you're in the wrong. Some may leave and never come back without telling you. Others may just stab you with words and enjoy it. That is why it can be inhumane.

Sometimes, blood isn't thicker than water. Friends can tend to be there more than your family can. I wish it was the other way around. In some cases, it is.

When shit starts to go down, you are allowed to cut toxic family members out of your life. When you are old enough to make big decisions for yourself, you should be able to control who should and who shouldn't be involved. Hey, if they've pissed you off too far for too long, start blocking.

Believe me, it is extremely liberating, and it feels so good knowing they are out of your life. They won't be able to knock you down anymore. They won't have you at arm's length and backstab you.

You deserve to eliminate them when they won't accept you for who you are.

You deserve to cut them out when they call you a "money grabber" or when they think you only enjoy their company because of the gifts that come along with them.

You deserve to cut them out when they have two faces.

You deserve to delete them when they call you derogatory names.

You deserve to walk away when they treat you like straight shit.

Hanging around with the people who just make you miserable is so super bad for your health. It makes your head spin and hurt. It makes you want to punch things. It makes your anxiety go insane. It can break your heart.

And then you'll snap. We don't want that, you don't want that, and I certainly do not want to flip my lid on Facebook on someone who doesn't even deserve a place in my life.

Everything will be alright in the end. Of course, it's certainly going to be a big change, and you're going to have to get used to it. But it's not something bad. It couldn't hurt that bad because they definitely were already gone before you officially kicked them out.

Don't think this is a loss because it isn't. Even better, you may find someone nicer, prouder, and sincere who could replace the toxicity. You could make friends who treat you like family. See, sometimes a negative doesn't always equal a negative, and a positive doesn't always equal a negative.

Get rid of the toxic. I know how you feel.

Feel relieved. Feel better.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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