Some days, bikinis, shorts, and mini-skirts are my enemies. Want to know why? I’m insecure about my curves. I have large thighs, broad shoulders, and ice cream hips. I’ve never had a thigh gap and I’ll never have one. Occasionally I complain to God and throw myself a pity-party. Then the little devil appears on my shoulder to whisper, “Look at your stretch marks, your flabby arms, your thick thighs -- go and starve yourself!”
I don’t know who you are or what you’ve been through, but I’m a curvy girl, too. Let me tell you a secret: You’re not the only curvy girl in the world. In fact, there are more curvy girls than skinny ones. Here are a few thoughts from girls just like you and me:
“We all want to change something about ourselves. But, even if I were a skinny girl I might want to be a curvy girl instead.”
“Your jean and bra size don’t matter; it’s what’s inside that lasts.”
“It’s easy to encourage other girls to accept themselves, but it’s even harder to take your own advice.”
There are girls everywhere who know the struggles of curves. Each person needs to figure out how to overcome insecurity and doubt. For me, it’s wearing my favorite Star Wars t-shirt, reading Bible verses, or talking to my sisters. Here are six ways to deal with your curves:
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1. Ignore the Media
How many times do actresses or runway models look nothing like you? Often or never? I’ve left countless movies depressed because I didn’t have an actress like Angelina Jolie’s tiny waist. When did it become a social norm to say skinny was the only beautiful? Just look at Adele, Marilyn Monroe, or Kate Winslet. They have wholesome figures and are still elegant.
2. Develop Character
You could go through Lipo-Suction and plastic surgery, but still feel dissatisfied. This is proof that who you are as a person is more important than your external flaws. When you focus on developing your character, you’ll change your life for the better.
3. Choose Modesty
Modesty is completely underestimated. It has power. By being modest you communicate you know your worth. No longer do you have to rely on skimpy clothing to receive attention. The right guy will appreciate your modesty because it will keep his priorities straight. You’ll also protect yourself from a wrong relationship and extra baggage.
4. Be Grateful
Honestly, there are worse problems than being curvy. Your body is a blessing just the way it is.
5. Accept Yourself
Do you want to walk with confidence? Then start by accepting yourself. You are an original. No one has your stretch marks, hips, or waist. Whether you believe in God or not, you’re not a mistake. You’re supposed to be just as you are.
6. Be Capable
The world needs you to be capable of anything and everything. We don’t need 10 million bikini models parading the boardroom, college campus, or local burger joint. Society needs women with fuller figures. Forget the toothpick body and discover what you’re capable of! You can be the girl described in Proverbs 31:25 of the Bible: “She is clothed in strength and dignity, she laughs without fear of the future."
