Valentine’s Day is approaching quickly and we all know what that means. Flowers, chocolate, and couples that may or may not make you want to gag. Now, if you’re in a relationship or you’ve got something special with someone special planned for Valentine’s Day, that’s great! But if you’re single, or if you’ve just been broken up with, this holiday might seem a little harder than others.

According to Bustle, the start of the new year is the most popular time to think about breaking up, peaking up until arch. Which, at first thought, sucks. Going into Valentine’s Day alone after just ending a relationship can be a real bummer, especially because all around you are reminders of love and happy couples, and there’s basically no way to escape it until at least the 15th of February, if not the beginning of March.

After the break up, things might seem pretty crappy for awhile. You might feel heartbroken, like it’s the end of the world as you know it, nostalgic, lonely, unmotivated, or even guilt. These emotions, or any others ones are perfectly normal. There’s no right way to respond to a breakup. Let yourself grieve the end of what might have been a great relationship, but then try to move on.

It doesn’t always have to be bad at all. Maybe this breakup was a blessing in disguise, or maybe you’re relieved that you’re finally out of it. It was probably horrible and heartbreaking at first, as expected, and oftentimes we need to take a moment to just think, but not necessarily about your past relationship.

Take this time to think about yourself. Your self worth is not determined by a significant other. You do not need another person to make you whole. You are whole all by yourself, and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of this. It’s easy to get wrapped up in another person or a new relationship, and that’s okay. It’s okay to be completely infatuated with this person, but it’s not okay to forget about yourself.

Make sure to give yourself some closure from your recent split. Do all the typical breakup things. Create a playlist to suit your needs and lift your spirits (make sure they’re not all sad songs!), delete and get rid of old pictures no matter how good the old memories may be, write a letter to your ex that you’re never going to send, eat ice cream straight from the carton, post a killer picture on social media. Basically do anything that might make you feel better and help the healing process.

This Valentine’s Day (and the rest of the year) let go of other people’s expectations of you. Pamper yourself. Go out and buy yourself flowers and chocolates. Go see a movie with your bestie. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not. February 14th is just another day on the calendar.

Girls and guys, a breakup near or on Valentine’s Day is not the end of everything, believe it or not. Make this holiday one of the best, despite everything you’ve gone through recently. Eat that ice cream and chocolate and remember to love yourself.