How To Conquer Self Doubt

How To Conquer Self Doubt

My biggest fear is meeting the destiny version of myself and not recognizing her

at all.


Do me a favor and think back to the first time you ever doubted yourself, and I mean the very first time.

The truth is, you weren't born with doubts about yourself and these thoughts that engulf you about not being strong enough, skinny enough, smart enough are not your thoughts, they are thoughts that were given to you in an external source. It was something that someone put in your head, something that someone made you feel insecure, or self-conscious about. The minute you start to doubt yourself, your mind races to find a scenario that has occurred in your life where that doubt reigns true and it finds multiple references that prove that you in fact, have a reason to doubt yourself.

Here's an example: I was feeling overwhelmed because of an upcoming test in a subject that has proven to be difficult for me. I know that I am smart and capable of performing well, but I think back to the time my accounting professor told me to shoot for a grade much lower that I was capable of because she didn't think I could test at a higher standard. As I sat in a tiny café, studying for the exam that was approaching, her voice echoed throughout my head, and I sat and analyzed all of the times I didn't perform to the highest of my potential. I thought back to the exam sophomore year that I failed because of miscalculations, the lab practical that resulted in a D because I didn't know the specific organisms to the best of my ability, and the list went on and on. I sat there and confirmed the doubt I had in my head by finding scenarios in which my accounting professor was right.

Here's the deal, self-doubt is one of the most toxic things in the entire world. It causes people to not chase after their dreams and say no to opportunities because they don't feel worthy of receiving such things. Honestly, I believe self-doubt is impossible to overcome, so instead you must build something bigger than the doubt. You need to build trust with yourself, and a reputation within yourself by doing the things you say you're going to do.

I can't even begin to count the amount of commitments that I didn't deliver on long term. Promises made to wake up earlier, study harder, and workout more were broken before they even began. So, step one to conquering self doubt is to make a promise today, right at this moment, that you can keep to yourself. Beginning today, stack the game so that you can win and acknowledge when you meet milestones, complete goals, and earn achievements. Build up a confidence momentum, and every time you find that self-doubt is creeping in, immediately say, "That's not my thought, that is someone else's," and move on with being a badass.

Step two to conquering self self is realizing that every day we are met with misconceptions and flawed beliefs that aid in building up our self-doubt. The three main flawed beliefs that I have found to reign true in my life;

1. I am my accomplishments

I won't ever be confident until I receive an A on this test, lose this much weight, graduate from college, secure a job when is actuality this crippling mentality will leave you seeking more and more while finding less and less until you feel the satisfaction that you are seeking.

2. I am what other people say I am

Good or bad, stop letting that dictate your self-confidence. You are not the bad things and you are not the good things that people say about you. Stop living your life for likes and comments and please don't do things to solicit someone saying nice things about you. This belief is cheap, shallow, hollow and fleeting, ultimately causing short term confidence and satisfaction.

3. I am what I look like

How many times have you said, "If I don't look like her, like him, like them, I won't ever be happy." We live in a world that is doing everything in its power to get you to believe that you aren't good enough. Please realize that you are so much more than what you look like. You have beauty in your soul, your spirit, your gifts and your intentions, and no one can take that from you.

When you realize that the flawed beliefs and self-doubt that have been pushed into our minds are not true, you will soon realize that you are the only person holding yourself back from a world full of opportunity. Imagine making it to the end of your life and meeting the destiny version of yourself and not recognizing her at all, make a promise to yourself today to chase your full potential.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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10 Ways To Keep Your Workout Motivation According To A Personal Trainer

"ALEXA play 'Work Bitch' by Britney Spears."


Keeping your motivation for working out is one of the number one reasons why I think people fail to achieve their fitness goals.

Now I am no "fitness guru" by any means, and I have lost my motivation many times and worked back up.

No one is perfect when it comes to working out, and everyone can have different methods that are successful but from what I have seen, and talking to a few personal trainers, these are some of the best ways to keep your motivation and not lose track of your goals.

If you stick to these 10 ways, you will definitely have a better mindset when it comes to working out, and that will help you push yourself hard because you know that you are capable of much more than you think!

That is the last piece of advice I will leave you with, you are so much more capable of than you think. I recall so many times in the gym, I've thought I was gonna just collapse or crumble cause I was so tired, but time and time again I persevere and finish a set, and see that I can really push myself to the limits, and this is when I've seen the best results.

1. Talk about your goals.

You have to speak your goals into existence. Also speaking about them to others can help hold you accountable and you are working so hard for them, don't give up and let what you accomplished so far go to waste!

2. Get a consistent workout buddy.

This is something that I have found helps me out a lot, my roommate Jordan and I are always checking in on each other to make sure that we've worked out!

3. Want better for yourself, not to impress someone else.

This is also very important, if you have fitness goals solely to impress someone else, you will never be satisfied, or never feel like enough.

4. Want it more than you say.

You really have to want your fitness goals more than you are saying. If you have this goal that is driving you constantly in the back of your mind, your motivation will keep coming from within.

5. Have a scheduled workout plan.

If you have a workout plan that a professional or yourself has constructed, it gives you something to follow and not break. Having a plan for yourself will help keep yourself on track.

6. Take pictures every week!

Seems cheesy, but taking photos of yourself every week can hold you accountable but more importantly, you are able to see results, big or small, if you aren't seeing them in person, you'll be able to tell through the photos.

7. Know what your plan is before you go to the gym.

You should know what your plan is before you go to the gym, try not to just wing it. If you are winging it, who knows if you are really pushing yourself and constantly challenging yourself every gym session.

8. Try your best to maintain a healthy diet during the week.

This can be difficult of course, meal prepping is someting that can always helps! BUT if you don't have time to meal prep, then just go to the grocery store and buy a bunch of healthy snacks to eat throughout the day to keep your motabalism working. Get foods to fuel your body so all your hard workouts don't go to waste!

9. Stick to a plan, it'll be hard at first, but it only gets easier.

Once you get into the swing of things, get into a routine, you'll get used to it. And then you will truly enjoy it, feel great, and have more energy!

10. Surround yourself with others that also have the same goals as you.

As cliche as it is, you do pick up the traits of the people you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with overachievers, hard workers, who have the same fitness goals as you, you'll all work hard together and encourage each other along the way!

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