Well, here you are.
You're getting ready to move into your dorm or apartment for the first time. Or maybe, you're starting year two, three, or four. At this point in your life, you're realizing that your friends seem to know what their plans are, and everything is perfectly laid out. Seamless. Problem-free.
And then there's you: The Girl Who Doesn't Know
Let me be the first, but certainly not the last, to tell that not knowing is completely okay. It's okay to be lost. It's okay to take life one day at a time, and spend a Sunday here and there wondering what Monday will bring. It's okay to say, "I'm a teenager or twenty-something and I have no idea what I'm doing!", just as it's okay to say, "I'm a teenager or twenty-something and I have it all together!"
It's okay to never change your major, and know from freshman year what you want to do. It's okay to change your major three times and start all over as a junior. It's okay that you failed a class. Sweetheart, it's not the end of the world that you got a 1.0 in Biology. I promise.
Now, let's talk love.
To some, it's the be-all, end-all of everything, always. To others, it's a benefit in amongst their already-fulfilling lives. After all, who doesn't thrive on having someone to share their success with? And then, there's you: The Girl Who Doesn't Know. Maybe you're certain that you will never find love. Or maybe you're certain that the guy you're with now is The One. In any case, you're allowed to feel whatever it is you are feeling. But please, don't allow it to consume you.
Speaking of love, it's okay to believe wholeheartedly that The Boy (you know, that boy) had your best interest in mind when he left you. It's okay, instead, to believe that he felt nothing at all, too, and to dislike him with every part of you. It's okay to have days where you miss him, but it's okay to have days where you don't. You are allowed to feel okay without him. You are not meant to be broken forever. It's acceptable to admit that, maybe, you are fine, against all odds. It's okay to believe that he was The One, but it's acceptable to admit that, in reality, he wasn't. It's okay to have days where you wonder how you'll handle your life without him there. But darling, you'll still handle life without him. You're allowed to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move forward. I promise.
To The Girl Who Doesn't Know: You will be okay. You are not a lost soul. You will eventually graduate with the perfect degree in your favorite major (even if it took you three years to figure out that major). Eventually, you will wake up next to the love of your life, and laugh at the girl you were in college: The Girl Who Believed She Would Never Love Again.
To The Girl Who Doesn't Know: It's okay. You are still incredible, unsure or not. You are still something, with or without a boy in your life. You are still something, with or without a plan for your future. You are still smart, beautiful, funny, courageous, successful, perfect.
You are still you, and that will always be enough.
