I’m a needy girlfriend. Not super needy, but decently needy. It’s not something my boyfriend calls me, but I’m pretty sure he thinks it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful he doesn’t react to my insistence on saying goodnight every night as needy, but I’m sure there have been times where he simply wanted to go to sleep, but instead fills my need to hear his voice before we go without speaking for eight or so hours.
My neediness isn’t an insecurity thing, it’s an 'I like attention thing.' I am perfectly and blissfully happy in the relationship that I am in. I trust my boyfriend and he trusts me. We both are the happiest we have ever been, which makes me crave his attention. I don’t disrupt his day or bother him for the sake of his attention, but as soon as he gets out of football practice, you best believe he’s texting me. If you’re a needy girlfriend, you understand this.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, you like to talk to your boyfriend as much as possible. Not because you demand his attention, but because you crave it. You love how he makes you feel and you love your relationship, so you like to be reminded of that through talking to each other as much as you can.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, you like to be validated of your relationship and the feelings your boyfriend has for you. It’s not because you doubt his feelings and need reassurance, it’s because being reminded of how much he loves you is something our needy minds like to be reminded of.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, you’re a fan of public displays of affection. Not the groping and overly sexual public displays of affection, but the public displays of affection that allows for contact. This contact can be as simple as a finger in his pocket, your hand resting near his, or sitting close to him.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, you really, really, really like to cuddle. This kind of goes with the PDA thing, but it’s obviously better. Cuddling with your boyfriend makes you feel warm, protected and loved, something that feeds your needy tendencies. You don’t command that he cuddles with you, but you have your own ways of not so subtly hinting to your boyfriend that you want him to hold you in his arms.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, chances are, you’ve been badly hurt by someone before, hence, the desires of your neediness. You have finally found someone who doesn’t call your neediness annoying, a result of insecurity or a burden to him. Your needy for your boyfriend because you have been wounded, something that makes you ache for a sense of security, a sense of protection and a sense of additional love. While this may bother other guys, your boyfriend takes it as a wanted challenge, a challenge to make you feel as loved and as protected as previous boys hadn’t.
If you’re a needy girlfriend, you are loved, for your boyfriend loves and accepts you for who you are, regardless of how needy you may be. He takes your obnoxious sighs as a cute excuse to put his arm around you. He takes your pouty look as an invitation to kiss your forehead and he takes your love of hearing how much he loves you as an excuse to again remind you of how much he loves you.
