Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

A behind the scenes look at what wedding planning is.

Fall has officially appeared and so has wedding season. When all the beautiful brides will be walking down the aisle to say I do. It’s an exciting season and most often, you’re sitting in the aisle wishing you were the bride or at least part of the wedding party. It seems thrilling, getting your makeup and hair done and getting pampered all day to enjoy the festivities that are going to take place later. It’s a different way of getting to celebrate the marriage taking place and it’s amazing to be a part of.

Growing up, I was extremely into detail. I believed that everything had to be over the top (or at least perfect) and often times I was OCD about it all. I wanted perfection in my school projects and work, so naturally I saw myself debating the idea of being a wedding planner. What’s more amazing than getting to help a future bride on her most important day? It’s filled with food tasting and flower picking right? Wrong. Although being in a wedding and getting to help plan one is an amazing experience (one I would gladly still do whenever asked), it’s exhausting and time consuming. Imagine how the bride feels. She’s stressed out the entire day of her wedding (even if she claims she hasn’t been nervous for the time leading up).

I was recently in my sister Danielle’s wedding and struggling to find time for both her and my school work. I wanted to be as involved in her wedding as I could as I was not just a bridesmaid but her sister, (this weighing heavily on my bridal duties).

One duty in particle being the dress. Now, this isn’t just an ordinary dress, it takes time and precision to pick out the perfect one and I wanted to help make sure she was happy with it. Now I know you see in the television show Say Yes to the Dress where they go to one store and immediately fall in love with the second or third dress they try on. While this is possible, it’s highly unlikely. With Danielle, we went to five different stores just to end up at the beginning buying the first dress she tried on. It was the one from the start but she needed to be certain. Sometimes, you have to try all your options before committing (we all can understand that). It wasn’t drama filled, partially because Danielle has no problem explaining her distaste for a certain fabric or look. She is opinionated and in this case it worked perfectly.

Being a sophomore in college and taking my science prerequisites, I wanted to make sure all my homework was done before heading down to the location for the wedding. I knew I had two midterms the Monday after and was terrified of not getting any studying in. I headed down Thursday to help with finishing touches and making sure my dress fit one last time (you can never be too careful when you live in a different city).

When the day finally arrived, I felt myself getting nervous (which is funny considering I wasn’t the one getting married). I had never seen my sister cry until that day. She was surrounded by infinite love and the location couldn’t have been any more romantic. Of course, no wedding goes completely perfect. The location had to be accommodated for the weather and I knew she was getting a bit nervous about it, but the woman in charge handled it quickly and effectively.

Being a bridesmaid is stressful. It’s waking up at 7 or 8 in the morning to prepare for a day that you’ll be up until 3 AM for. It’s making sure the bride’s dress is in tip top shape and making sure her makeup doesn’t run from crying. It’s attending every party and meeting with her to help pick everything out. Being a bridesmaid is scary and yes, it can be challenging to manage; however, nothing beats getting to support her on her biggest day.

Bridesmaid dress, $300, bachelorette party, roughly $400, watching your sister walk towards the love of her life and the beginning of her next journey, priceless.

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18 Things You Can Only Understand If You Are An Only Child

It has its pros and cons along with everything else.

Being an only child definitely has its pros and cons. If you are an only child, you know exactly what I mean. People are either always asking you questions, or just assume you are a specific way because you're an only child.

Here are some things associated with being an only child:

1. You are the oldest, middle, and youngest child of your immediate family

If you're an only child, you are basically every type of child all in one. You are not only considered the trial and error of the family, but your parents hold on to you so tight since you will always be the “baby”.

2. You are known to be spoiled


Yes, you probably get designer clothes or maybe get more money in your birthday envelope than everyone else. But, who else would your family spoil then?

3. People think you are selfish even if they don’t know you

The truth is, everyone has their own selfish tendencies. It really does not matter if you're an only child or not, it could just be the age of the person or the way the person was raised.

4. Everything is always your fault

If something goes wrong, you are immediate to blame. No more toilet paper in the bathroom? Your fault. The lamp is broken? Your fault. Too bad you can’t blame it on anyone else because there is no one else.

5. You have to do all the chores in the house

There are no siblings to share responsibilities with….including things like doing the laundry, setting the table, etc. You have to do each and every single thing by yourself, which can get very stressful at times when you have other things to do.

6. You always receive all the attention

As an only child, you are so used to all the attention being on you, that when it is not, you most likely get upset. Let's not forget, everyone in the family knows what you are doing at every moment because you are always in the spotlight.

7. You are always around adults, even from a very young age

It's hard not being around adults all the time when you are an only child. Especially since you can’t hang out with any of your siblings’ friends because you don’t any, so you are always around your parents’ friends.

8. You are close to your parents

Your parents are your life. You are always with them. It's just the way it is.

9. You are VERY family-oriented

Your cousins are basically your siblings. Without them, life would be boring. You most likely look forward to all family functions so you are around people your age.

10. If you have a pet, your pet is basically your sibling

You probably spend a lot of time with your pet(s) because they are always around when you are home like siblings would be. You talk to them like they are a sibling or a friend.

11. You always have to find a way to entertain yourself

Being an only child means always finding a way to always keep yourself occupied. Who else is going to occupy you when you are in a room with all adults?

12. Your parents are on top of your every move

Your parents know who you go out with, when, where, and why. Then, they need to know how you are getting there too. They know all your friends and your really close friends are basically part of the family.

13. You don’t have to share with anyone because everything is yours

No siblings? No problem. You are allowed to spend as much time as you want on the television or doing whatever (as long as it is ok with your parents).

14. Your pictures are all over your whole house

Who else would your family put all around? Your face is just everywhere!

15. You usually get what you want, when you want it

If you need a pair of shoes or some money for that school trip, the majority of the time you get it when you ask. There is really no need for your parents to buy anything for anyone else except you and themselves.

16. People are always telling you how lucky you are not to have any siblings

Like I said being an only child has its pros and cons.

17. Everyone always questions if you are lonely

Sometimes lonely, but always blessed. But in all seriousness, people don’t need to ask this. It's like asking if you're single and lonely.

18. When people ask in a room full of people who has siblings, you are the only one or one of few not to raise your hand

This is when you feel lonely, but being an only child is being different than the rest.

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