Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

A behind the scenes look at what wedding planning is.

Fall has officially appeared and so has wedding season. When all the beautiful brides will be walking down the aisle to say I do. It’s an exciting season and most often, you’re sitting in the aisle wishing you were the bride or at least part of the wedding party. It seems thrilling, getting your makeup and hair done and getting pampered all day to enjoy the festivities that are going to take place later. It’s a different way of getting to celebrate the marriage taking place and it’s amazing to be a part of.

Growing up, I was extremely into detail. I believed that everything had to be over the top (or at least perfect) and often times I was OCD about it all. I wanted perfection in my school projects and work, so naturally I saw myself debating the idea of being a wedding planner. What’s more amazing than getting to help a future bride on her most important day? It’s filled with food tasting and flower picking right? Wrong. Although being in a wedding and getting to help plan one is an amazing experience (one I would gladly still do whenever asked), it’s exhausting and time consuming. Imagine how the bride feels. She’s stressed out the entire day of her wedding (even if she claims she hasn’t been nervous for the time leading up).

I was recently in my sister Danielle’s wedding and struggling to find time for both her and my school work. I wanted to be as involved in her wedding as I could as I was not just a bridesmaid but her sister, (this weighing heavily on my bridal duties).

One duty in particle being the dress. Now, this isn’t just an ordinary dress, it takes time and precision to pick out the perfect one and I wanted to help make sure she was happy with it. Now I know you see in the television show Say Yes to the Dress where they go to one store and immediately fall in love with the second or third dress they try on. While this is possible, it’s highly unlikely. With Danielle, we went to five different stores just to end up at the beginning buying the first dress she tried on. It was the one from the start but she needed to be certain. Sometimes, you have to try all your options before committing (we all can understand that). It wasn’t drama filled, partially because Danielle has no problem explaining her distaste for a certain fabric or look. She is opinionated and in this case it worked perfectly.

Being a sophomore in college and taking my science prerequisites, I wanted to make sure all my homework was done before heading down to the location for the wedding. I knew I had two midterms the Monday after and was terrified of not getting any studying in. I headed down Thursday to help with finishing touches and making sure my dress fit one last time (you can never be too careful when you live in a different city).

When the day finally arrived, I felt myself getting nervous (which is funny considering I wasn’t the one getting married). I had never seen my sister cry until that day. She was surrounded by infinite love and the location couldn’t have been any more romantic. Of course, no wedding goes completely perfect. The location had to be accommodated for the weather and I knew she was getting a bit nervous about it, but the woman in charge handled it quickly and effectively.

Being a bridesmaid is stressful. It’s waking up at 7 or 8 in the morning to prepare for a day that you’ll be up until 3 AM for. It’s making sure the bride’s dress is in tip top shape and making sure her makeup doesn’t run from crying. It’s attending every party and meeting with her to help pick everything out. Being a bridesmaid is scary and yes, it can be challenging to manage; however, nothing beats getting to support her on her biggest day.

Bridesmaid dress, $300, bachelorette party, roughly $400, watching your sister walk towards the love of her life and the beginning of her next journey, priceless.

Cover Image Credit: Joelle Giudice

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"What would I do without you guys???"

1. "Can I wear your shirt out tonight?"

2. "Does my hair look greasy?"

3. "We should probably clean tomorrow..."

4. "What should I caption this??"

5. "Is it bad if I text ____ first??"

6. "Should we order pizza?"

7. *Roommate tells an entire story* "Wait, what?"

8. "How is it already 3 AM?"

9. "I need a drink."

10. "McDonalds? McDonalds."


12. "Okay like, for real, I need to study."

13. "Why is there so much hair on our floor?"

14. "I think I'm broke."

15. "What do I respond to this?"

16. "Let's have a movie night."

17. "Why are we so weird?"

18. "Do you think people will notice if I wear this 2 days in a row?"

19. "That guy is so stupid."

20. "Do I look fat in this?"

21. "Can I borrow your phone charger?

22. "Wanna go to the lib tonight?"

23. "OK, we really need to go to the gym soon."

24. "I kinda want some taco bell."

25. "Let's go out tonight."

26. "I wonder what other people on this floor think of us."

27. "Let's go to the mall."

28. "Can I use your straightener?"

29. "I need coffee."

30. "I'm bored, come back to the room."

31. "Should we go home this weekend?"

32. "We should probably do laundry soon."

33. "Can you see through these pants?"

34. "Sometimes I feel like our room is a frat house..."

35. "Guys I swear I don't like him anymore."

36."Can I borrow a pencil?"

37. "I need to get my life together...."

38. "So who's buying the Uber tonight?"

39. "Let's walk to class together."

40. "Are we really pulling an all-nighter tonight?"

41. "Who's taking out the trash?"

42. "What happened last night?"

43. "Can you help me do my hair?"

44. "What should I wear tonight?"

45. "You're not allowed to talk to him tonight."

46. "OMG, my phone is at 1 percent."

47. "Should we skip class?"

48. "What should we be for Halloween?"

49. "I love our room."

50. "What would I do without you guys???"

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The Glory Of Moving Far, Far Away

There is beauty in new beginnings.


In this day and age, people everywhere seem to have wanderlust. I like to say that July is when it is at its peak, especially for me. I am now adjusting to life in Coatesville, Pennsylvania with my family after moving from our previous home in Greensboro, North Carolina.

This is not my first time moving away, and it will certainly not be the last one either, but it still feels different to me. The main reason for that is because this is my last summer before I graduate from college.

It not only marks the end of my entire childhood, but it symbolizes the end of freedom. While I am still familiarizing myself with my new home, I want to take the time to write down how I feel right now.

Finding New Places

I am originally from Blacksburg, Virginia. I spent most of elementary school there, and I managed to stay for all four years of high-school as well.

So, it is safe to say that I know it pretty well. I loved living there, but I fell into this routine of frequency. I knew where I wanted to go out to eat and what movie theater I liked the most.

However, all of the places in Coatesville are new to me right now. Who knows what kind of memories I will have from all of the restaurants and stores here?

There is beauty in new beginnings, and I am already looking forward to stepping into a Wawa.

Happiness At Home

Fortunately, the moving process went very smoothly from the beginning for all of us. I kept the necessary belongings with me for the car ride and reunited with my other belongings quickly since the movers arrived the day after us.

One of my favorite things about coming to a new house is having a different room. I like sorting all of my stuff and thinking of crafty ways to arrange everything. The yellow walls actually closely resemble my dorm room which helps me think of ideas for the upcoming semester.

Plus, I have two side-by-side windows which give me a gorgeous view to our front yard. The first observation I made was all of the green surrounding us. The trees and grass just paint the entire neighborhood. It must be a sign for me to relax and enjoy the outdoors from time to time.

Make It Count Every Day

Like everything else in life, summer does not last forever. Even though it is not always easy to live in a new place, I am determined to make the most of it.

On one of our first nights at our new house, my sister chose the movie "Titanic" to watch that night. This is my most beloved movie and it made me feel more at home.

I cannot finish this section without giving credit to Jack Dawson. He once said, "I figure life is a gift and I do not intend on wasting it."

Since it has been almost a week since our journey here started, we have become accustomed to our family rituals including walking the dogs around the circle and watching the weekly showings of "America's Got Talent."

I am so glad that I have the chance to live in Pennsylvania and I am looking forward to the future. I am now more inspired to explore the area around me and learn more about myself.

Cover Image Credit:

Danielle Neron

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