Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

Confessions Of A Bridesmaid

A behind the scenes look at what wedding planning is.

Fall has officially appeared and so has wedding season. When all the beautiful brides will be walking down the aisle to say I do. It’s an exciting season and most often, you’re sitting in the aisle wishing you were the bride or at least part of the wedding party. It seems thrilling, getting your makeup and hair done and getting pampered all day to enjoy the festivities that are going to take place later. It’s a different way of getting to celebrate the marriage taking place and it’s amazing to be a part of.

Growing up, I was extremely into detail. I believed that everything had to be over the top (or at least perfect) and often times I was OCD about it all. I wanted perfection in my school projects and work, so naturally I saw myself debating the idea of being a wedding planner. What’s more amazing than getting to help a future bride on her most important day? It’s filled with food tasting and flower picking right? Wrong. Although being in a wedding and getting to help plan one is an amazing experience (one I would gladly still do whenever asked), it’s exhausting and time consuming. Imagine how the bride feels. She’s stressed out the entire day of her wedding (even if she claims she hasn’t been nervous for the time leading up).

I was recently in my sister Danielle’s wedding and struggling to find time for both her and my school work. I wanted to be as involved in her wedding as I could as I was not just a bridesmaid but her sister, (this weighing heavily on my bridal duties).

One duty in particle being the dress. Now, this isn’t just an ordinary dress, it takes time and precision to pick out the perfect one and I wanted to help make sure she was happy with it. Now I know you see in the television show Say Yes to the Dress where they go to one store and immediately fall in love with the second or third dress they try on. While this is possible, it’s highly unlikely. With Danielle, we went to five different stores just to end up at the beginning buying the first dress she tried on. It was the one from the start but she needed to be certain. Sometimes, you have to try all your options before committing (we all can understand that). It wasn’t drama filled, partially because Danielle has no problem explaining her distaste for a certain fabric or look. She is opinionated and in this case it worked perfectly.

Being a sophomore in college and taking my science prerequisites, I wanted to make sure all my homework was done before heading down to the location for the wedding. I knew I had two midterms the Monday after and was terrified of not getting any studying in. I headed down Thursday to help with finishing touches and making sure my dress fit one last time (you can never be too careful when you live in a different city).

When the day finally arrived, I felt myself getting nervous (which is funny considering I wasn’t the one getting married). I had never seen my sister cry until that day. She was surrounded by infinite love and the location couldn’t have been any more romantic. Of course, no wedding goes completely perfect. The location had to be accommodated for the weather and I knew she was getting a bit nervous about it, but the woman in charge handled it quickly and effectively.

Being a bridesmaid is stressful. It’s waking up at 7 or 8 in the morning to prepare for a day that you’ll be up until 3 AM for. It’s making sure the bride’s dress is in tip top shape and making sure her makeup doesn’t run from crying. It’s attending every party and meeting with her to help pick everything out. Being a bridesmaid is scary and yes, it can be challenging to manage; however, nothing beats getting to support her on her biggest day.

Bridesmaid dress, $300, bachelorette party, roughly $400, watching your sister walk towards the love of her life and the beginning of her next journey, priceless.

Cover Image Credit: Joelle Giudice

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The Views at Sunset Ridge opened in December 2017. Our grand opening event will be held on February 11, 2018 from 2-6 p.m. Vendors from across the Chattanooga area will be set up to showcase their services. If you are a bride taking on the stressful, yet fun ride of wedding planning, this would be a great time to knock some of the items off of your to-do list.

At the venue, there are three floors and a crow's nest at the top. The first floor upon entering is Row Hall, a 40x100 room aquipped with beautiful staircases, where ceremonies are primarily held. The room gives an elegant, yet rustic industrial feel.

The Groom's Quarters is the ultimate man cave for the groom and groomsmen. TV, Xbox, bar; what more could you want? The Groom's Quarters is a great place to relax and get ready for the big day, or unwind and stay the night after it's over.

The Bridal suite on the second floor is perfect for any bride and her entourage. The bridal party also has the option to stay overnight in the suite. The vanity stations make it easy to do hair, makeup, and touch-ups throughout the day.

The Loft "caters" to all your reception needs! With custom farmhouse tables and a bar (not pictured), it is the perfect celebration spot after you say, "I DO!"

If you are engaged, looking for a wedding venue, or a spot for various other events, you can check out The Views at Sunset Ridge online.




-Kaitlyn H. Evans

Cover Image Credit: Madison Carter Photography

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There are so many pressures that we feel as we enter the stages of even thinking about college. All throughout high school, we hear those words. “Get ready for college," “start applying," “start touring." Everywhere you turn you’re encouraged to seek a college education and put in classes that are labeled as “advanced." This is so that by the time we get to college we basically are supposed to know what we are doing for the rest of our lives.

Wrong. Never believe this.

People spend their whole lives searching for their calling and what they are truly meant to do and sometimes don’t find it until way later in life.

And that is okay.

Go to college as undeclared and search for what drives you and pushes you to be passionate. Or, change your major four times because at the end of the day college is about finding the career path that will make your life abundantly happy and go for it. Life isn’t about following a set of rules that society has always said are “right," it’s about the things that make us who we are and that isn’t always what is considered “normal” because we are all unique.

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And I did it. I had to. For my sanity and for settling the possibility of a what if in my life, I had to.

Now, I am happy and successfully chasing my dreams. I am nowhere near reaching my goals yet but the passion I have for it will carry me and will keep me from burning out.

All this to say, don’t let anyone tell you that you have to do what society has pinned as “right”. There is no “right time” to finish college or to get engaged/married, or to change careers even. Life is different and exquisitely beautiful for everyone because we are all different. It would be so incredibly boring if we were all the same.

That’s all for now loves.

As Always,



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