How Complaining Constantly Can Affect Those Around You

How Complaining Constantly Can Affect Those Around You

Is there such thing as complaining too much?


If we don't complain how can we voice our dissatisfaction? I do believe it is important to share your opinion but there is a line people should draw in the sand when it comes to how much you're complaining and about what. It really bothers me when people whine about the same thing over and over again. We have all had that friend who complains constantly about how much their significant other sucks but ignores your relationship advice and then complains about them again the next week.

You can even make friends through complaining, if you're in a super long line and you turn to the stranger next to you, next thing you know you're bonding over the dreadful wait. Living in Arizona, I hear people whine about the weather all summer long, as do I. It any easy way to break the ice or just avoid awkward silence. Think about it you walk up to your friend who you sit next to in class and go "man its freezing out." Complaints can come naturally.

Some people could argue that those complaints about the weather or a long line are positively associated because we can start a convo or even make a friend out of it. I'd say that there is really no point in complaining about silly little things you can't change. I think it's pointless to focus on negative little things like that and it just wastes your energy. But hey, since I am someone who complains to break the ice, it would be better to say that we should just do it less.

There's also that redundancy in people complaining about things they can change. We complain constantly about something that we could do something about in order to change it, so why not just do it. I always like to live by the motto; You are what you do, not what you say you'll do. It's pretty easy to complain about things that we want to be different instead of just making it different. You have the power to change your life and complaining isn't the answer, the action is.

Even if we can't change things that we don't like sometimes, like how long a line is or how hot it is outside, we should be more mindful of our attitudes toward it. If something is bothering don't focus on it as much and try and revert your attention to something more positive. Life can make it pretty difficult to have everything be to your liking but something you can control is your mindset. Too often when people get upset by something minuscule, whining about it can quickly turn into getting excessively upset over the situation. I'm not saying that people shouldn't complain all, that will never happen. What I am trying to get at is that people should be more mindful of the negativity they feel because complaining could affect your happiness and also those who listen to your complaints.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Shoutout To My Parents For Giving Me My Best Friend In The Form Of A Younger Brother

He's not as bad as I first anticipated.


This is a story about my best friend.

I was lucky enough to have a built-in bestie from the day he came home with my parents and I immediately questioned who they stole the "creature" from.

My brother's name is Andrew and he and I have always had a catty but close relationship, which has developed into something I wouldn't trade for the world.

When we were younger we were the most jocular kids you could find and spent our days running around with our school friends shooting each other with nerf guns, hiding in every corner to leap out and give the other a heart attack.

We would hang out for hours until someone antagonized the other (Andrew was always the trouble maker) and yelled for our mom to intervene, or took out our ager by practicing our yellow belt karate skills on each other until our fake punches got to be too much and we would die laughing.

I never realized how special my relationship with my brother was until I heard how my friends talked out their siblings. My friends would endlessly complain about how much they hated their brother or sister and wished they were never born; and me, being who I am, would be shocked that they used the h-word, and tell them that they must still love them which they would relentlessly deny.

Seeing these failing relationships taught me to cherish what my brother and I have, and that is honestly the most important responsibility, and gift, I could've ever been given.

Looking back, the best childhood memories I have include him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. From founding the science club (his closet that we would do experiments in, and give our friends golf balls with their name on it as a key), to sledding down a three-foot hill in our neighbor's backyard for hours, to surfing and boogie boarding until we turned to prunes, to the endless games of HORSE we played (I don't understand how I'm still terrible at basketball), he's been with me.

Since then, our relationship has blossomed into much more than snow wrestling and movie binging; now as an adult, coming home from college is the most stress relieving and exciting time, because I know I get to hang out with my brother and talk about the most obscure things until he makes me get out of his room (because teenage angst, you know!!).

Thankfully, the required familial love has turned into a never-ending love for my best friend and little brother, and I can't wait to keep growing up side by side and to see what the world has in store for us.

ANDDDD HE'S 17 (as of the 15th)

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