Go out and socialize.
Just because you aren’t looking for a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t meet new people. You will meet some of your lifelong friends (male and female) in college. Don’t hold yourself back. I knew that I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but that didn’t stop me from going out with my friends to meet new people. That’s how I found the relationship I have today and I have absolutely no regrets.
Forget your past.
Nothing else that has happened in the past matters. College is a new start for you and you can start fresh. Don’t let something from your past blur the thought of your future. Put on a brave face and take life by the reigns.
If someone shows interest in you, don’t write them off.
If someone pursues you, don’t throw them to the side. It takes a lot of guts to show feelings towards another person. If the worst thing that you get out of it is a free meal then what’s the problem? You could be missing out on a great conversation and a good time. I made the mistake of doing this and lost out on a month and a half more of a relationship that I could have had.
Just look around.
College is finally a place where you get away from the same ol’ high school classmates (for most people). It’s a time where you meet a new group of friends and discover a part of yourself that you didn’t know existed. Take in the new experiences around you and the new faces you meet. Nothing is worse than being closed off from trying new things. Don’t do that to yourself. College only lasts four years and it goes by in a flash, so don’t waste it.
I came into college determined to be single and just have me to take care of, but sometimes life throws you a curveball. If I would have been closed-minded and completely against getting to know new people and experience new things then I would have never met the boy who has become such a big part of my life. Don’t just stick with what you think you want at a moment in time, life is always changing.
