Confessions Of A College Introvert

Confessions Of A College Introvert

I'm that nerd who sits in my room alone every night. Here's why.

If you Google the word "introvert," you get "a shy, reticent person." Reticent means "not revealing one's thoughts or feelings readily." That's not what an introvert is.

Sure, introverts can be shy, but not all of us are. You can be outgoing and still be introverted. To be introverted means to prefer one's own company over the company of other people. This means I highly prioritize my alone time. This is the time I take to "recharge" after a long day at work, or several hours of social interaction.

Being introverted doesn't necessarily mean antisocial. It doesn't mean I don't like people. It just means I like my quiet, alone time more than I like being around others with whom I feel like I have to constantly converse. Having a bunch of friends over is an introvert's nightmare, because we feel so much pressure to entertain them, when we know that when we're alone, we don't have to entertain ourselves. We can do whatever we want, whether that be laying in bed, reading a book, or watching Netflix, in no one's presence but our own- and that's all an introvert wants to relax at the end of a long day.

Introverts like having friends. Don't get me wrong, I love going to grab dinner in the dining hall with friends. But when it comes to my free time, I like to be alone. Sure, I like to socialize once in a while, but constant social interaction is easily draining. And alone is the only way I can be productive and get anything done.

So my confession is this: I like being alone in my room. Some people may find that sad, and try to drag me out to parties, but the truth is is that's where I'm happiest. I don't sit alone in my room because I'm sad- in fact, it's just the opposite. It because that makes me happy. And many people will frown at the idea and encourage me to get out and socialize more, or perhaps claim that I am wasting the college experience. But for me, being alone is being productive, calm, and happy. And I can always choose to go out with friends if I want to. But most of the time, I like to be alone, where I am most comfortable.

So my lesson learned as a resident college student introvert is this: do what makes you happy. You are the person who knows yourself best, so don't let anyone else try to tell you how to live your life. If sitting alone in your room makes you feel sad and lonely, then you should definitely go out with friends to cheer up. But if being alone in your room doing homework on a Friday night is your cup of tea, like it is mine, (call me a nerd all you want, my grades are fabulous) then no one has the right to tell you not to do it. Do what works for you. Because you cannot depend on anyone else for your happiness except for yourself.

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2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

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20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

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33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

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39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

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A Rant About Cutting Negative People From Your Life

I just don't seem to get the logic, or maybe I'm just a nice person.

I've seen it on every social media outlet I have. It's the common tweet with thousands of favorites, the Facebook status with hundreds of shares, and even the Instagram caption to the ordinary selfie. For a while now, the idea of removing negative people from your life has become all the rage just about everywhere. Because who wants to hang out with someone who is gloomy all the time? Or complains all the time? Or doesn't see the glass as half full?

Well, as someone who can often see the glass half empty, I couldn't disagree more with such ignorant encouragement. What kind of person finds it so easy to abandon someone when they don't have a smile on their face? You don't know what they're going through. They need someone to talk to, and for that, one is encouraged to isolate them due to their negative attitude? I just don't seem to get the logic, or maybe I'm just a nice person.

When I see someone is not having the best day, I try to talk to them and cheer them up. I try to empathize and sympathize whenever I can because I don't like to see somebody upset. I wish nobody was upset, but the fact of the matter is, people aren't always happy all the time. And the last thing they need is to worry about is isolation from a friend, family member, or anyone because of how they feel.

Now, I believe there are several ways to interpret a negative attitude from someone, and when to truly isolate them from one's lives. Maybe you have a toxic boyfriend who consistently doesn't treat you well. For that, I would say adios. To the friend who always excludes you or the family member who has caused you harm time and time again, I would show them the door.

But there's a difference between these instances and a crying baby or an anxious toddler. There are friends in your life who may be upset about a bad grade or a family member who often complain, but these aren't the types of negative people you should put on the chopping block. These are the people you should accept for who they are - not always happy. And when they're not always happy, it's best to be the shoulder to cry on or the attentive listener.

They need people to go to and talk to, and so do we. Heck, everyone does. We can't survive without having someone to laugh, smile and have fun with, but we especially can't go on without someone to cry, rant and scream with. We can't shun those who are negative, because then we would be just trying to get rid of an emotion, and that's simply impossible. We're all going to be unhappy at one point or another, so we might as well live with it.

I could go on and on about my enmity for this type of lifestyle. There are few things more ignorant, incompassionate and heartbreaking to do to someone. But I think it's just important to stress that we be mindful of others and how they feel. Be aware of those around you and not just you. Be open to talking to others who may not be wearing the biggest smile. Most importantly, be the person you would want to comfort you when you're not happy. You might just be making their day.

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