Confessions Of A College Introvert

Confessions Of A College Introvert

I'm that nerd who sits in my room alone every night. Here's why.

If you Google the word "introvert," you get "a shy, reticent person." Reticent means "not revealing one's thoughts or feelings readily." That's not what an introvert is.

Sure, introverts can be shy, but not all of us are. You can be outgoing and still be introverted. To be introverted means to prefer one's own company over the company of other people. This means I highly prioritize my alone time. This is the time I take to "recharge" after a long day at work, or several hours of social interaction.

Being introverted doesn't necessarily mean antisocial. It doesn't mean I don't like people. It just means I like my quiet, alone time more than I like being around others with whom I feel like I have to constantly converse. Having a bunch of friends over is an introvert's nightmare, because we feel so much pressure to entertain them, when we know that when we're alone, we don't have to entertain ourselves. We can do whatever we want, whether that be laying in bed, reading a book, or watching Netflix, in no one's presence but our own- and that's all an introvert wants to relax at the end of a long day.

Introverts like having friends. Don't get me wrong, I love going to grab dinner in the dining hall with friends. But when it comes to my free time, I like to be alone. Sure, I like to socialize once in a while, but constant social interaction is easily draining. And alone is the only way I can be productive and get anything done.

So my confession is this: I like being alone in my room. Some people may find that sad, and try to drag me out to parties, but the truth is is that's where I'm happiest. I don't sit alone in my room because I'm sad- in fact, it's just the opposite. It because that makes me happy. And many people will frown at the idea and encourage me to get out and socialize more, or perhaps claim that I am wasting the college experience. But for me, being alone is being productive, calm, and happy. And I can always choose to go out with friends if I want to. But most of the time, I like to be alone, where I am most comfortable.

So my lesson learned as a resident college student introvert is this: do what makes you happy. You are the person who knows yourself best, so don't let anyone else try to tell you how to live your life. If sitting alone in your room makes you feel sad and lonely, then you should definitely go out with friends to cheer up. But if being alone in your room doing homework on a Friday night is your cup of tea, like it is mine, (call me a nerd all you want, my grades are fabulous) then no one has the right to tell you not to do it. Do what works for you. Because you cannot depend on anyone else for your happiness except for yourself.

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Parties are hell if your only wish in life is to be left alone with your own thoughts.

We've all seen the movies where partying is the roots of everybody's college experience, but I'm here to say that partying blows when you can't stand the sight of another human being. For those of us who thrive on silence and solitude, we know what it's like to feel the pressure to go out and "have a good time," as they say.

However, we'd never give up the luxuries of staying in and doing things our way, because we all know we do things a little bit better.

1. Actually studying on the weekends

I highly doubt you're studying by spending all night livin' it up, and all of the next day recovering.

2. Not blowing money on nights out

I once overheard a conversation of a girl whining to her roommate about how she only has $9 left in her bank account after paying for 3 Ubers and alcohol the night before.

3. Speaking of Uber, there's nothing worse than drunk people in the back of your car.

Try not to embarrass yourself too much to somebody who just wants some extra cash on the side.

4. SLEEP

I don't think I need to explain this one.

5. What's a hangover?

Sunday mornings are characterized by slow sips of tea, not begging for mercy while clinging to a toilet seat.

6. Not risking being caught drunk by your RA

Ah, the sweet sounds of whispering as I hear the stampede of partygoers return to their dorm rooms without waking our RA who will write them up for any signs of being drunk.

7. Not having to stand in line in the dining hall on Sunday mornings

I once got extra beans in my breakfast burrito because there weren't enough people to eat them all.

8. Not having to worry about those tricky deadlines that the professors set on purpose

Do you think my professor scheduling a test on November 1st was a coincidence? HAHA.

9. Being able to enjoy the silence on Saturday nights

Whether it's studying, reading, relaxing, or sleeping, college campuses become a ghost town on Saturday nights — and is heaven for introverts or those who are simply tired.

10. I can look back and remember doing things MY WAY.

Frank would be proud.

So there you have it — my reasons why sticking to my guns and spending Saturday nights at my own discretion kills going to some party, disappointing my liver, and throwing away my Sundays.

If you party and genuinely enjoy it, fine, but there's something freeing about kicking expectations in the ass and doing things your way.

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25 Things That Make Me Happy

2. My dog

With a new semester starting, it's hard to feel like I'll ever be happy so to help with that, I've decided to make a list of 25 different things that make me happy.

1. Dogs

Can you even be around a dog and not be happy? It's impossible. If you ever need a pick-me-up, find the nearest dog and let it love you.

2. My dog

Not to brag, but my dog is the best dog. Whenever I come home, it's like we haven't seen each other in years and it's the best.

3. Pizza

Pizza is my favorite food and I can not be in a bad mood when I'm eating it.

4. My tan flats

Yes, they are starting to wear down but when I wake up late, I don't have to tie them. I can slip them on and go.

5. Throwback playlists

It's nice to listen to songs I used to jam out to in middle school when times were simpler. My favorites are "Beautiful Soul" by Jesse McCartney, "Dirty Little Secret" by The All-American Rejects, and "Closer To The Edge" by Thirty Seconds to Mars.

6. Road trips

The best ones are ones without a destination and great playlists.

7. Laptop Stickers

I have a glass of lemonade, a golden retriever, a sunflower, Jesus, "I'm fine. It's Fine. Everything is fine.", "It is well with my soul" inside a ring of flowers, and "breathe" on my laptop and I love them.

8. Jesus

I don't think I need to explain this one because if you've ever experienced His love, you know.

9. Pens

The really good ones that you never buy but always seem to find,

10. Poems

Ther's a lot of emotion in just a few lines that always seem to steal my heart.

11. Writing

Writing is the one thing I can do that helps me escape the real world. Writing is something that I can do when I need a break.

12. The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

I had to read this book in my 11th-grade history class and it's easily my favorite. The main character doesn't let himself be defined by how he is supposed to be.

13. The Perks of Being A Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky

This was my favorite book for years and is still my favorite movie. Logan Lerman and Emma Waston are my favorite.

14. Chicken nuggets

These are a college students staple.

15. Memes

Memes are a great way to waste time when I should be studying.

16. Lemonade

Chick-Fil-A's lemonade is hands down my favorite thing ever.

17. Christmas

Anyone who knows me knows that I start to wear my Christmas socks in September and listen to Michael Bublé in July. Christmas is my favorite holiday and I wait all year for it.

18. Floral

Anything with flowers automatically makes it 10 times better.

19. Peppermint Mochas

Christmas in a cup. Need I say more?

20. Hot Chocolate

Whenever I have a bad day, just making a cup makes me feel so much better.

21. Adventures

I consider a trip to the store an adventure and it's even better with people I like to adventure with.

22. Nicholas Sparks Books/Movies

They all make me cry but they also make me feel all warm inside.

23. Cardigans

My mom often calls my favorite one a grandma one but it's like my tan flats and it goes with everything.

24. The beach

Something about the ocean makes all my worries and anxiety go away.

25. Disney movies

I'd be lying if I said I didn't sing all the songs at the top of my lungs.

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