College Taught Me How To Fail

College Taught Me How To Fail

College is full of surprises. Get ready for the most ruthless of them all: failure.

It's no secret that college, job and internship searches, and life, in general, requires a certain level of failure tolerance. It's inevitable; sometimes you just won't get into the college of your choice, the program of your choice, the club of your choice, the team of your choice. Especially now, as life goes from your small world at high school where you were the best at what you did, to the not-so-small world of college where everyone around you is the best at what they do. Sometimes people are better than you, and that's just the way it is. Sometimes you pull far out of your comfort zone and get slapped on the wrists because you reached farther than you were ready for. Sometimes failure is just inevitable. But it most certainly isn't and shouldn't be the end of your world. So, you need failure tolerance. You need resilience. You need to be able to bounce back from it and keep striving on.

But the suckiest part about it is that in order to build failure tolerance, you inherently have to fail.

Many of us, getting to this point, we never really failed at anything. So to hear, "Sorry, you weren't good enough," for the first time can be soul crushing. Especially after you put so much hard work into it, especially after you thought you were a sure shot for the job.

I applied to a club recently, and I went to their networking events, did research, worked for hours on my resume and wrote a cover letter, dressed up, learned what a case interview was. Worst of all, I set my sights really high. I thought I was good enough to get in. I really, really wanted to get in. I made it all the way through to the last round, but I wasn't good enough. For any number of reasons, I just wasn't good enough to make the cut. I was upset over it. I was mad at how it was such a waste of time, how I had spent so much energy on this one club, and ultimately got nothing out of it.

A few hours of thinking later, I realized that I actually got so much out of it, out of the experience. This was a solid learning experience. And no, that's not the most cliché thing to say. It's real. I learned so much from this experience. I learned what business professional and business casual mean. I learned what is a case interview. I learned how to write a proper resume (thanks to my awesome brother). I learned how to follow up and maintain relationships, how to network. And, yes, I learned how to deal with failure.

The important thing to remember is that it happens, to everyone, and the best thing to do is pick up and keep going on. "Just keep swimming," like Dory says. It's not the end of the world. Plus, this is the time for us to make mistakes, to go down the wrong paths, to tank interviews, to say the wrong thing, to build that failure tolerance. Right now in these first years of college, everything is low-risk and very, very high return. There's no other time like it. We have to take advantage of it. I'm glad I went out for that club, because even though I was rejected, I learned so much.

And when I come back next semester, I'll dazzle them. Because failure is nothing I can't handle.

(Shout-out to my brother for the inspiration for this article, for picking me up when I was down. You make me who I am, and I would be nowhere near where I am if it weren't for you.)

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Keeping Up With The End Of The Spring Semester If I Was A Kardashian

"I'm over it." - Kylie Jenner

It's everyone favorite time of the year! Who am I kidding though. I am drowning in assignments, papers, final exams, and trying to maintain my society. Good thing the Kardashians are here to help put into picture every single motion every college student is feeling as there are only two more weeks of classes!

1. You just don't have motivation to do anything anymore.

If I could rest in my bed for the rest of the semester, that would be great.

2. And waking up for that first class of the day is the worst.

You just kind of lay there, hoping all of it is just a dream. Sometimes waiting till 5 minutes before class before actually getting out of your bed.

3. When your professors keep giving you assignments.

I'm sorry, but do you want me to prep for your final or focus on that paper you want me to write?

4. Seeing kids who are already prepping for finals while you're busy procrastinating to the very last minute on that paper you've got to write.


5. Or that one person that just keeps bragging about how they have no final exams, just papers and projects to turn in.

Just stop talking to me. Please.

6. Not wanting to spend money on groceries or laundry since you've only got a few weeks left of classes.

What's the point of buying food if you're just going have to throw it out in two weeks. I mean, money doesn't grow on trees!

7. When the university's final schedule comes out and you are already dreading the day that you have two midterms.

This is just cruelty. Nobody should have two midterms on the same day especially if they are back to back. I'm already crying thinking about it.

8. Looking at yourself in the mirror after pulling that all nighter studying for the final exam.

9. All you want to do is hang out with your friends because there's a good chance you won't see them till August since they live far away.

10. But also excited to be going home and spending time with your friends there.

Especially if you're the one who moved away from home while all your friends stayed close and hang out with each other every weekend. Now you can finally be a part of the fun! (Or at least up into you have to go back for the fall semester).

11. The moment you take your last final and know summer can finally begin.

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5 Stages Of Dealing With Finals

I feel heartburn coming on.

There are good, effective, healthy ways of dealing with finals. And then there's what actually happens. These are the stages all college students deal with when finals are coming up.

1. Procrastinating

Oh, I still have two full weeks before it's due? Why am I even worrying about it.

2. Distractions

Party? Concert? I have so much free time!

3. More procrastination...

Wait, I only have three classes until it's due. Well, when you put it like that...

4. Acceptance

Stress eating, online shopping, and binge-watching reality tv.

5. I'm not quite there yet.

Still in the process of figuring out if I'll survive. I'll get back to you.

Good luck!

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