To The College Freshmen Who Don’t Understand The Party Scene Either

To The College Freshmen Who Don’t Understand The Party Scene Either

Honey, you're not alone. I get it too. And we're gonna be just fine.

My first few days on a college campus have been, needless to say, extraordinary. College life is crazy. It’s fun, it’s exciting, it’s incredibly overwhelming. Your first few days before classes start are all about getting to know campus; your classes, the people around you, the dining halls, your dorm room. Some people right now are having the literal time of their lives and they couldn’t be happier. Others are miserable and just want to go home or go back to high school. A lot more, like me, are a complete mix of the two; you’re happy and really enjoying yourself but you also miss home and are a bit overwhelmed.

But one thing for sure is that coming to campus can mean getting quite a culture shock.

By this I mean, the culture of frat parties, darties, drinking and being all-around lit af all the time. To be quite honest, I knew this stuff existed and I was actually kind of excited to be a part of it; I just didn’t expect for it to start so soon, and I definitely did not expect to end up hating it.

The night we got here, everyone seemed just like me and ready for the ultimate college experience. As soon as I said goodbye to my parents, I got busy decorating my room, because I thought that was what you were supposed to do. My hall mates, instead, got ready to go to frat parties. I was a little surprised, because I didn’t even know how they found out about these parties and I wondered how they had the stamina to go to them that late at night, because I was quite honestly exhausted. But they all had an amazing time, and it sounded like a lot of fun. The next couple nights, people were going out all day and all night, and it sounded like I was missing out by not being there.

Me being me, with my incurable case of FOMO (the fear of missing out), I decided that I should check out the party scene too. It was much earlier than I was really expecting to go to parties; I expected that I would go at a time in the semester when I knew more people at the party than just my roommate and another friend. But I decided to go anyway, because clearly, everyone else was having so much fun.

So, my roommate, our friend and I ventured out to the frat scene. We walked the streets of Ann Arbor until we found ourselves off-campus and slightly lost, and little bit (okay, very much) impatient. It took us about an hour to even find a frat house that was open and would let Freshmen in, because of course, Freshmen are the bane of all upperclassmen’s existence. When we finally found one, we walked around to the back of the house, where we could see the basement lights flashing and hear the base pumping. We stepped inside the house and the first thing I felt was the awfully sticky floor. Then, the smell of alcohol and vomit hit me. Disgusting. All three of us did not look like we were enjoying the moment at all.

But it’s college!! This is what you’re supposed to do. Isn’t it? I could sense that this was the thought process in all of our heads. We stood there for a while in the doorway of the frat house, just kind of staring at each other. We asked each other if we wanted to go downstairs, and everyone’s answer was the same “I don’t care, whatever you want.” Typical of college freshman and the lackluster peer pressure of trying to fit in, of course. I decided the best option was to literally flip a coin. Heads, we go in; tails, we leave. I asked Siri to flip a coin for us.


Thank God.

Siri looking out for us. We all looked so relieved. We walked back to the dorm and had a night in with some really cool people from our hall playing x-box. I definitely enjoyed myself so much more just hanging out in a small group setting than being in a room full of strangers dancing with people I didn’t know at all.

At least I discovered early on that the frat scene isn't for me. While it’s probably super fun for many people, I just don’t enjoy it.

And that’s OK.

College is a lot of things, but most importantly, it’s a place for you to finally be you. That means figuring out what you’re into and what you’re not into. That means finding people who are into the same things as you. That means not being judgmental of other people’s choices, but not feeling pressured into participating in them either. So, even if it seems like “everyone’s doing it,” you have to remember, especially as a college freshman looking to fit in and find a place, you do not have to do what “everyone else” is doing. It’s completely acceptable, and in fact encouraged, to do your own thing, be your own person.

If all else fails, remind yourself of your priorities. You’re there to learn and to get a degree, right? So, if what you’re doing is going to make you unhappy and have a tougher time with that goal, it’s probably not the best idea.

Whatever you do, just have the courage and conviction that what you’re doing is what you want to do and is right. If the voice in your head is telling you no, you should probably listen, because no one else, not your parents or professors or friends, is going to. Just make smart choices and do what makes you happy.

Cover Image Credit: Total Frat Move

Popular Right Now

10 Puppy Gifs To Get You Through The End Of The Semester

Puppies are good for the soul

The spring semester is coming to an end and finals are a lot closer than they appear. To keep spirits up and anxiety levels low, I thought I would compile a few puppy gifs that always serve to lift my mood. This is completely inspired by the puppy I cuddled a few days ago. She was two months old and a golden ball of soft fur - she truly cleansed my skin and raised my GPA, and I hope this post does roughly the equivalent for you too!

1. This adorable bean

2. The cutest wink I've ever seen

3. This dog just doing its best

4. A good representation of my motivation levels for April

5. This pimpin' pup will bless you with increased finances

6. Racing towards summer like

7. But first we need to rock finals and not get wrapped up in test anxiety

8. This puppy did not succeed and sometimes that's okay. Remember to be kind to yourself and get back up again!

9. Bad day? Here's a bucket full of puppies

10. Spend time with some friends to destress, a little bit of healthy interaction never hurt anybody!

Remember to keep up with your mental well-being as well as your studies as you gear up for finals season. Take breaks while studying during dead week and treat yourself every once in a while to avoid burning out. Stray strong, it's the final stretch!

Cover Image Credit: pexels.ceom

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

5 Things I Want To Thank My Best Friend For

Because I don't say it enough.

What would life be without friends by your side to enjoy moments with? We often times forget how special people are to us. It is difficult to remember how important appreciation is to show.

Not only to ourselves but to other people. Life gets so chaotic and we get so involved in ourselves and just enjoying friendships that we don't stop enough to give a shout out to the people that mean the most to us. That's what this article is all about: giving appreciation to my best friend, who I don't let know enough how much I appreciate her.

1. Thank you for making golf so much better

There is not a single time where I pick up a golf club that I don't think about our fun times together. A game that is full of so much stress, mentally and physically, you were always able to make it so much more fun. Some of our stories are not appropriate for either this article or the golf course, but they continue to bring me so much joy. Thank you for pushing me to be my best on the course and off. Our journey from high school golf to college golf was one that I wouldn't trade for anything. Now, I get to be your biggest cheerleader on the sidelines and I cannot wait to see everything that the game brings for you.

3. Thank you for supporting me, good and bad

Freshman year of college when we were roommates and exploring a whole new world. From nearly tripling the amount of students at our schools to making terrible decisions, it was all new. We got the joys of exploring it together!

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Stoneburner

Related Content

Facebook Comments