Today's day in age, the term "relationship goals" is looked upon in many different ways. However, there is an actual difference between these suggested relationship goals, and just being wrapped up in each other and not being involved in your friendships anymore. Too many girls focus on the "we" in a relationship and not the "I".
Females often forget about their friends when they're in a relationship whether they mean to or not. It is one of those things where focusing on your significant other more than yourself, and your friends will bite you in the butt. When an adult tells you, "girl friends are forever, boyfriends are whatever," they are not completely wrong. What happens when you and your boyfriend break up? Who is going to be there to pick up the pieces if your friends aren't your friends anymore? There is a happy medium you should exert in a relationship between balancing your friends and your boyfriend. Dropping everything and everyone to be stuck with only each other is not a "goal". That is crazy. A relationship "goal" should be the about loving each other while you're not with each other. It should be based off of trust and respect.
Needing to know what your significant other is doing every second of every day should not be needed. Being clingy is not only bad for your relationship, but also yourself. Having to worry constantly about what is going on in someone else's life will drive you crazy. You cannot control what they do, but you can control what you think. If you cannot trust your boyfriend around girls he has known longer than he has known you, then you should not be dating. Even if you don't trust the girls, you have to be able to trust him enough to know when to get out of a situation that could be bad. Sometimes not knowing is a better choice. Trust is taught at a young age for a reason and if you cannot trust him, DO NOT DATE HIM. Know your worth. If he chooses to disrespect you, then he does not deserve you. Constantly fighting and breaking up is not okay and most of the time it is time to let go. It should not be "the usual" for any relationship to begin and end more than once.
Next time you think about always wanting to have relationship goals, please know the true meaning. Don't be a stage 10 clingy relationship. Keep it spacious. Keep it between the two of you. Keep it mature. Love each other and have a healthy relationship.
