I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

It is OK for me to not want to be equivalent with a man.


To start off, I am not writing this to bash feminists or get hate messages. I am simply writing this to state why I do not perceive myself as a feminist.

March is International Women's Month and that is what has got me thinking about how I view myself as a young woman in the 21st century. I enjoy every day getting to soak up the world as a young lady, particularly in the South.

If you know me, then you know that I love and utterly adore Jesus. He is so perfect. He is everything. He is my whole life. Some people might say that I am a "Bible-thumper" or someone who has had too much Kool-aid and maybe I am, but I know who my Creator is and that He died for me, and that is all that matters.

In my young age, I loved to just sit in church with my parents and absorb all that God would deliver. As I have grown up, I have ventured off and joined a church that is different than my parents, so the responsibility falls more on me, but I love that. Since this era of independence began, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking ownership of my faith.

I spend a lot of time chatting with God, worshipping Him in all kinds of ways, and just diving deeper into His Word. Through all of this growth as a Christian, I have learned a lot, but something I have learned is a concept that some may not agree with, which does not surprise me.

I do not believe God meant for women and men to be equal.

There, I acknowledged the elephant in the room.

It is a shocker, I know, but I have some Biblical evidence to back up this belief that I have.

Let us begin in Genesis. God created man and then he created woman. This was two separate occurrences and order is key. He created Adam and then Eve.

Jesus treated women with grace and kindness, do not get me wrong. I mean just look at how He treated the woman at the well, the one who used all of her expensive perfume to cleanse His feet and not to mention His own biological mother! He has a truly unique place in his heart for women, but He also has special intentions for us in the world and in the family setting.

We are to submit to our husbands.

We are to be energetic, strong, and a hard worker.

We are to be busy and helpful to those in need.

We are to be fearless.

All of this is explicitly laid out by God in Proverbs 31.

We are not to be equal to our male counterparts. Jesus does not lay out the Proverbs 31 man, but He rather lays out the Proverbs 31 woman.

A husband or man is to be the head of the household as Christ is to the church.

A man is to love a woman so deeply that represents how he loves himself.

A man is to leave his father and mother.

Women and men are not equal in God's eyes, but they each represent Him in their own ways that the other needs.

If we were all equal, we would not need one another and therefore we would not need God. I am so thankful that we were not created equal. I am so thankful that God is so great that He could not just create only man or woman to represent His image. He is so perfect.

So, you see I am not a feminist, and it is OK.

It is acceptable for me to have this belief that God intended for men to lead women. It is also okay for people to have differing opinions. Writing this was not easy, but I know that not all people agree.

To feminists and those that are not, you are allowed to believe whatever you wish but have evidence to back it up.

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Just For Clarification, It Is Possible To Be BOTH A Christian Woman And A Feminist

A clarification of God's intention for men, women, and their value.


I read an article recently about a young Christian woman who said that she didn't believe that God intended women to be equals. Here was the Title, "I'm A Christian Girl, And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals."

I read the article, mostly because the title was a little unsettling, and understood where she was coming from. It held a great intention and standing in Scripture coupled with a passionate affection for Jesus, which I adore. However, the language and word choice could be used to reinforce the notion that Christians and God view women as lesser than men.

And so, I wanted to clarify a few things to ensure clarity. The idea that God views women as less valuable than men is truly and wholeheartedly not true. There is so much significance, value, intention, meaning, and need for women. And men, equally are as vital, so valuable, full of meaning, and so uniformly needed. And to put both of them on a scale to weigh out our equality in significance and value almost feels... completely unnecessary and out of place. Both men and women hold an equal degree of worth as persons, as they have both been made in God's image and are heirs together of eternal life.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1: 27
There is neither Jew nor Greek, thee is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:38

We cannot reproduce one without the other. We depend on each other for the very carrying on of our beings. And we depend on each other in a lot of other contexts too.

I'd like to open this up to a little bit more of a dialogue because I think there's some disconnect between how feminism and equality are understood and defined as in today's context. So just to be clear on exactly what we're talking about, here are some definitions from dictionary.com of the key terms that this topic revolves around:

The definition of equal: being the same in quantity, size, degree, or value.

The definition of equality: the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.

The definition of feminism: the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.

The definition of a feminist: A person who supports feminism.

Just a quick disclaimer, people have adopted various definitions of these terms in today's culture. For my purposes, I will be referring to the definitions listed above.

So, essentially a feminist is someone who supports the state of equality in status, rights, and opportunities relative to men. Under that definition I, a Christian woman, would define myself as a feminist. In a general view, I support and encourage the state of being provided the same opportunities, rights, and status as a woman, and essentially as a human being.

With that being said, however, I also believe that men and women are different, and have been given roles within the family setting to fit those differences. Here is one passage that describes a woman's particular role in a marriage.

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands." Ephesians 5: 22-24

I think the word submit immediately scares us as women. It scares me a bit, to be 100% honest. But after being married and realizing that leadership is so important, and us working as a team together is hugely vital to our marriage, the roots of this message are being realized and understood further in my own life and as a wife.

The type of submission described here is not the obedience children owe to their parents. Nor is it stating that all women should submit to all men. This submission is in a specific marital context for the work of a harmonious and healthy marriage. It goes on to command the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. The husband is to be a leader that loves, cherishes, listens to, and protects his wife. We have both been given a responsibility and a role to ensure that our marriage is working toward one common goal. That we are on the same page because ultimately we are on the same team.

So although men have been granted a role of leadership within a marriage, this should in no means imply that we are not equal to them. Equal in quantity, quality, degree, or value. There are millions of angles and coatings to this subject, so please forgive me for the gaps that I haven't addressed in this small fragment of writing.

I feel like there are millions of layers to how God sees us as people, too. He has created us, putting pieces of Himself of infinite worth and value into our the heart of hearts knitted in each of us, both male and female.

I hope you know that we are valuable.

You are valuable.

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5 Ways To Be A Better Feminist

No matter if you are just dipping your toes into the waters of feminism or consider yourself to be a rather seasoned activist, there are always ways to be better allies within our communities.


As a feminist and as a woman, there is something so magical about International Women's Day and the whole month of March in general. I am so proud to be able to champion for women's rights and gender equity in my daily life and so much of my identity is wrapped up in the label of "feminist". But as I have progressed on my journey of labeling myself a feminist, I have also realized that there is always room for improvement. Many people are content in the influence that feminism has on their daily lives but if you are looking to bring more feminism into your daily life, here are five things that make me a better feminist.

1. Be an intersectional feminist

For many of you, this is an obvious and seamless facet to your definition of feminism. When I first started learning about what it truly means to be a feminist, I was surprised to see just how far I had to go on my journey of societal enlightenment.

To me, intersectional feminism means advocating for the rights of all people, not just women. Yes, women's rights are absolutely one of the forefronts of my feminism but I would be doing my community a great disservice if I failed to recognize the great need for intersectionality in modern feminism. Intersectional feminism focuses on advocating for women, people of color, the disabled community, the LGBTQ+ community, and all other marginalized identities.

When we fight, we fight for all.

2. Support local feminist/social justice organizations

Now I realize that this is easier said than done, but I'm going to give you a few ways that you totally can support your local feminists even if you think that you can't. I know in high school, I lived in a very small town and thought that I just had to keep my feminism under wraps until I moved to a city with a more liberal presence. Supporting local change can manifest in a variety of ways. If you are able to attend marches and rallies, absolutely go for it!

But if not, support your local social justice organizations even if that is just buying a sticker and putting it on your laptop. And if you truly cannot afford to support monetarily, support via social media by being an active follower. In our digital society, an active social media presence is vital.

3. Support Women Operated + Owned

Similar to the last point, if you are able to, support women/minority operated and owned whenever possible. It is extremely hard to run a business, more so if you are already at a disadvantage because you are part of a marginalized community. By purchasing goods from their businesses, you are validating their identity and existence within your community.

I truly believe that you vote with your dollar. And every time you purchase a sticker from Culture Flock or get eco-friendly goodies at the Soap Refill Station, you are directly supporting badass, women entrepreneurs in your community. Not to mention, you are supporting your local economy and getting higher quality products than buying from large corporations!

4. Attend Local Marches/Rallies/Events

Although this one isn't very original, it's SO important. I know that when I lived in a small town, marches were nonexistent. But if you are at all able, even if you do have to travel a bit, support at these marches really does make a big difference. Especially if you live in a smaller or more conservative town.

The first rally that I ever went to made it on the news! And it was a relatively small rally that reached a little over 50 people. And I have to tell you, I was terrified when I went to my first protest. I was new to the area and knew literally nobody there.

But, I did the scary thing and I met some amazing people and was immediately welcomed with open arms. Little did I know that my nerves and mild discomfort would lead to me meeting someone who I would eventually intern for and amazing friends that will last a lifetime.

5. Educate yourself

This is one aspect of feminism that never ends. As I have become more aware of the world around me, I have realized just how much more I have to learn. And while that can seem disheartening to some, I find it more humbling than anything. There is always more to learn about the history of marginalized groups, current events, and how we can be better allies and citizens. I often encounter many people who say that they aren't into politics because they are uneducated and while that is understandable, it's not an excuse.

The thing about being a feminist is that while you don't know everything, you try to make the world a better place. I noticed this a lot with lobbying. People were not at all confident and felt ill-equipped but our politicians are not experts on every issue. And when you are talking to people with adverse opinions to you, there is a good chance that you have the upper hand with just a little bit of research.

And, to quote a beautiful woman, writer, and feminist, Maya Angelou "When we know better, we do better".

No matter where you are at on your feminist journey, I applaud you. It takes such courage to stand out in what you believe regardless of if that is putting a planned parenthood sticker on your water bottle or protesting loudly on the steps of the capitol. My dear feminists, we see you, we love you, and we need you; now perhaps more than ever.

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