If Music Is Your Friend, Choose Your Friends Wisely

If Music Is Your Friend, Choose Your Friends Wisely

Why music is more than just a catchy beat.

You may find it strange for me to personify music and call it a "friend," but it's true: music is my friend.

Music goes with me everywhere. It's the alarm song I wake up to every morning, it's the song that's playing when I'm stuck in traffic, and it's my Spotify playlist that's running when it's slow in the office.

Music throws me a catchy beat when it knows I need a little kickstart. When I'm feeling nostalgic, throwback music reminds me of the good old days. If I'm ever feeling afraid, music will pump me up and tell me I have nothing to fear. Listening to the right song even makes me feel a little cooler when I'm cruising down the 101.

The best part about music is that it understands me. When I find the right song that picks up on all the words I'm feeling right then and there, I have it on repeat for the next five days. No lie. I guess it's comforting to know that somewhere out there, someone knows and understands what I'm going through.

My favorite part is the feeling you get when your song comes on. You know it's your song when it starts playing and something inside of you just comes alive. Kind of like when you see your best friend after a while of being apart and you can't help but feel really happy about being together again.

That's why music is my friend. And it's your friend, too.

So, just you would select the right friends to "hang out" with, be selective of the music you "hang out" with.

For most of us, there isn't a day that goes by where we don't listen to music - we "hang out" with music so much so it has become a habit.

Many of you may feel as though music isn't that significant, or it's just there to act as background noise and provide a good beat so your brain is more stimulated than if you weren't listening to anything.

But if that were true, then why is it that music is such a big part of our culture, and has been for so long?

That's because music has the power to affect our psyche, permeate our subconscious, and influence the way we think and feel.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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