Families are strange. Whether we admit it or not, it's a fact. In the typical family scenario, there's one side you love and one side that radiates feelings of indifference. Nonetheless, they're still considered family, right? Is it really necessary to text them "Merry Christmas" when you and your immediate family aren't a part of their Yuletide festivities?
I can't remember the last time I was invited to a holiday on my dad's side. I try not to have hard feelings, but it hurts. Holidays are the times in which we are supposed to gather together in order to express the pride we have in our family unity. If you're a one-sided party-goer like myself, you don't expect an invite from that side of the family. You just hope a change of mind and heart urges one to appear.
Family segregation typically occurs after a petty fight. These petty fights are usually something you laugh about, but your family, a herd of stubborn Irish mules, takes them to heart. Why, you ask? Because they have nothing else better to do with their time and energy.
I know it sucks, and it will continue to suck until they continue to change their ways (if they ever do). First things first is don't take it personally. You didn't do anything, and neither did your immediate family. You're good people, and after all, you can't choose your family. God chooses them, and it's for a reason that we won't initially understand. Luckily, you have your other side of the family. They're fun, classy, and would never stop associating with you over something ridiculous and juvenile. In addition, reach out to non family members. They can be just as loving and welcoming as your biological family, if not even more. Also, always remember that you're not alone in the battle of crazy families. There's always someone who has it worse. Enjoy the holidays. Don't let the haters stop you from doing your thing.