There Are Many Things That I Could Change So Slightly

There Are Many Things That I Could Change So Slightly

But why would I succumb to something so unlike me?


Jess Glynne and Ed Sheeran paired up late last year to write and record Thursday. The first time I heard it, I loved it and couldn't stop listening to it. Why? Because it's incredibly relatable. Aren't we all tired of not feeling like we're enough? Aren't we all sick of being fake and "covering up"? Don't we all want to embrace and accept those specific flaws and character traits that we hate about ourselves? Below, I typed out the song lyrics, going through the first set of verses, into the chorus, and then the second set of verses. I added my own commentary below each picture in hopes of encouraging you and bringing you to hope. Wanting to stick with the theme of "beautiful" from the song, I found an article that has pictures of women from all over the world. They all look different, but they are all truly beautiful. It's as if we are all made in the image of our Creator.

1. I won’t wear makeup on Thursday.  I’m sick of covering up.


Makeup can be a ton of fun, but for some women, it can be a hassle. Maybe you wear makeup on a regular basis, but just want to change things up. Go for it! Go a day bare-faced and see how it makes you feel. Personally, I like to go one day a week without makeup, just to give my skin a rest. It makes me more appreciative of makeup when I put it on the next day.

2. I’m tired of feeling so broken.  I’m tired of falling in love.


Feel stuck in a rut? Feel like nothing is ever going to change? I saw this on an anonymous Facebook post several months ago: "The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that nothing will ever change." Step out and make a change in your life, no matter how small the change may be. The first step isn't the whole journey (duh!), but it's a step in the right direction.

3. Sometimes I’m shy and I’m anxious, sometimes I’m down on my knees.  Sometimes I try to embrace all my insecurities.


This song is an open book: No matter how perfect someone looks, no matter how wonderful their life seems, there is something (or possibly many things) they struggle with. You don't see all the nights they cry themselves to sleep. You don't see their inner scars. Stop comparing yourself to them. The only person that gets hurt in that situation is yourself.

4. So I won’t wear makeup on Thursday, cause who I am is enough.  There are many things that I could change so slightly.


Yes, there are many things that you can change. Look for ways to improve yourself. Learn a new skill. Reach out to the lonely. Laugh at the little joys of everyday life. Who you are is enough because God knitted you together, perfectly imperfect.

5. But why would I succumb to something so unlike me?  I was always told to just be myself.


At some point you're going to have to be okay with yourself. You can run, but you can never escape yourself (believe me, I've tried). Your life is going to suck if you try to be someone who is not you. Be yourself. Yep, that's it.

6. Don’t change, for anyone.  I wanna laugh, I don’t wanna cry.


I used to think that if I wore certain clothes, talked a specific way, acted in a proper manner, and smiled at just the right moments that people would like me more and I'd have more friends. After trying this several times, I realized that changing myself just so people would like me (for someone I'm not) was a total waste of time. Ain't nobody got time to be someone else! Live in your own shoes, not someone else's.

7. Don’t want these tears inside my eyes.  Don’t wanna wake up and feel insecure.


Wouldn't it feel so nice to wakeup and be secure in who God made you to be? Guess what? You can! It takes effort and strength to walk in confidence, but knowing who your Creator is and why you're here on Earth is a huge confidence builder. Sometimes you have to fake it because you won't always believe it, but once you start living with this confidence, it'll become much more natural to wakeup and feel secure.

8. I wanna sing, I wanna dance, I wanna feel love inside my hands again.  I just wanna feel beautiful.


Say nice things to people, don't be afraid to be honest, laugh out loud, and be kind to those who don't show you kindness. Beauty is not about how look, but about how you act. While looks play a role, they certainly aren't everything.

9. I’ll wear my sweatpants on Thursday.  And I’ll drink sloe gin from a can.


We all know how good it feels to come home, put on comfy clothes, and chill. While I personally don't drink, some people find that relaxing. I like drinking herbal tea or decaf coffee when I'm chilling. The nice thing about "just chilling" is that you can be you, all wrapped up in your comfy clothes.

10. I’ll build my own independence.  I don’t always need a man.


Now ladies, for those of us that are looking for a relationship, know that you don't need a man to be satisfied and happy in life. As annoying and cliche as it is to say, the right guy will for sure come along when the time is right. There is only one man that you do need, though, and He is the only perfect man to have ever lived: Jesus. You don't need to pull some silly line when you find yourself to be single again on Valentine's Day: "Jesus is my boyfriend." No, quit that nonsense. Jesus is your savior, not a boyfriend replacement. Be independent, but don't demean men. Everything is better when we work as a team.

11. You know sometimes I feel lonely, could do with the company.  Oh I get high when I’m down, but you know that’s alright with me.


Yes, sometimes you'll be lonely. And that's ok. Lean in to God's word when you're lonely. As cheesy or dorky as it sounds, get back on "high" knowing that God never leaves you. It's us who walk away from Him. Come back to Him because there's no better place to be.

12. So I will do nothing on Thursday.  Sit alone and be.


You're going to feel down, feel worthless, and feel like you're not enough. We all have those days. How do you pull yourself out? By telling yourself that it's not true. By sitting alone sometimes, writing it all out, and being ok with yourself. It's going to be a lifelong battle of fighting our fleshly desires and feelings, but we have the right tools thanks to our loving Father.

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As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

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3. I look up to...

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4. This art speaks to me because...

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5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

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9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

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13. My guilty pleasure is...

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

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15. Talk about your best friend...

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16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

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17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

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19. I volunteer at...

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20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

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If He Says 'You Make Me Want To Be A Better Person,' Remember It's NOT A Compliment

No one should be relying on another person to make them better people.


A lot of us have been there; he smiles at you sweetly, gives you a look that could melt your heart, and you let yourself fall into the kindness.

He tells you, "you're such a good person; you make me want to be better."

Your heart is a flutter, you're drowning in the sickly sweetness of what you take as one of the nicest things someone has ever told you. It's so easy to read it as though it's an admirable thing for anyone to say, but the reality is, no one should be held liable for making you want to be a decent human being except yourself.

It's one thing for people to bring out the best in each other.

When you find your happy place in the company of the people you love most in life, that's one of the greatest things in the world. That example of the "bettering" of one another comes organically. But to only find a desire to be kinder, more selfless, more decent because another person is kind, selfless, and decent is putting way too much liability on the other person, and it means not taking responsibility for yourself.

By telling me that I'm the reason he wants to be a better person, he's putting me on a pedestal that I cannot possibly live up to all the time.

He's holding me liable for his desire to stop his negative behaviors rather than it coming from a true desire to be better. If being with me or around me is the only reason he's decided he needs to get his act together and start being a decent human being, I'm here to tell him that he should really reevaluate.

Because what happens when we break up?

What happens if we have a falling out for some reason or another, and I'm not longer in his life to "inspire" him to be better? His desire to be better disappears alongside me, because his desire never really came from his heart anyway. He go back to the same negative behavior that he had in the first place unless he came come to the realization that being a good person has to come from a real desire within.

I don't have the time to pander to people who can't take responsibility for their actions.

It shouldn't have to be my job to show anyone what being a decent human being looks like. His parents should have instilled that in him when they were raising him, and if not that, he should have been able to recognize elsewhere what kindness and decency looked like in other people so that he could emulate it himself. If he's a grown adult who says he didn't recognize what being good meant until he met you, that says more about him than it does about you.

The point of all of this is simple; it is an extremely important life lesson to learn that you are not responsible for anyone's actions and feelings except for your own.

You are not accountable for the decisions someone else makes, and that's the truth. No one is dating someone with the intent on raising him and teaching him how to behave or exist as a functionally member of society, and no one should have to.

I'm not saying it's a red flag to hear it. Often times it is said with good intentions and sometimes it is meant in the organic sort of way I mentioned before. But my advice if you're ever told this; think about it. Consider it a pink flag, one that makes you do some evaluating before you smile bigly and accept the comment as though it is a badge of honor.

Above all, hold people responsible for their own actions and don't let them make you feel responsible instead.


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