To Change Or Not To Change

To Change Or Not To Change

Sometimes, change is hard to accept

Do some people change? Do some never change?

It’s funny how both phrases are tossed around so often. As soon as someone does something out of character or very much in character, people are so quick to take notice and comment.

If I think about it in terms of myself, I think I’ve changed in a lot of ways over the years. But, I think I’ve kept a lot about me the same too. I think it’s easy to feel a little lost during your young adult years, so questions of whether or not people change can be difficult to answer. While I’m constantly being exposed to new situations or new people, I often revert back to ways of thinking or behaving that I’ve grown up doing. And when those approaches don’t work or don’t go as expected, I usually try to change my actions. I think changes are sometimes needed as life continues to throw different shots at you.

The other day, I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends. I’ve known her for years. It was so interesting to see in what ways we have both changed and both stayed the same. During this conversation, it was apparent that our 2nd grade-selves wouldn’t have faced the same issues we were currently facing. It’s easy to say that things and our environment change too. But we change in response. As time goes on, I think it’s natural for people to change a little; it’s healthy to continue to strive to be the person you want to be even if that means changing things. I think acknowledging that we change, why we change, and how we change helps us grow.

On the flip side, there are certain things about myself I never want to change, things I don’t think I need to. For example, I have never thought about changing the core group of people around me. I think for a long time, especially when I was younger, I took the people I cared about for granted many times, since they were always there. But, I think as I’ve gotten older and distance has played a factor, I’ve found that this core group of people is very precious to me because they help make me who I am.

I strongly believe that you are who you surround yourself with, so I truly value those around me and how they shape or influence me.

Additionally, I never want to change or forget the values my parents have taught me, especially when it comes to how I should treat others.

Ultimately, different aspects of life may have various effects on who I am as a person. But I think changing who I am and staying the same in many aspects is the only explanation I have for whether or not people change. I’d say that people change but stay true to who they are if it’s important to them. I don’t think people change unless the change seems valuable to them.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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