To Change Or Not To Change

To Change Or Not To Change

Sometimes, change is hard to accept

Do some people change? Do some never change?

It’s funny how both phrases are tossed around so often. As soon as someone does something out of character or very much in character, people are so quick to take notice and comment.

If I think about it in terms of myself, I think I’ve changed in a lot of ways over the years. But, I think I’ve kept a lot about me the same too. I think it’s easy to feel a little lost during your young adult years, so questions of whether or not people change can be difficult to answer. While I’m constantly being exposed to new situations or new people, I often revert back to ways of thinking or behaving that I’ve grown up doing. And when those approaches don’t work or don’t go as expected, I usually try to change my actions. I think changes are sometimes needed as life continues to throw different shots at you.

The other day, I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends. I’ve known her for years. It was so interesting to see in what ways we have both changed and both stayed the same. During this conversation, it was apparent that our 2nd grade-selves wouldn’t have faced the same issues we were currently facing. It’s easy to say that things and our environment change too. But we change in response. As time goes on, I think it’s natural for people to change a little; it’s healthy to continue to strive to be the person you want to be even if that means changing things. I think acknowledging that we change, why we change, and how we change helps us grow.

On the flip side, there are certain things about myself I never want to change, things I don’t think I need to. For example, I have never thought about changing the core group of people around me. I think for a long time, especially when I was younger, I took the people I cared about for granted many times, since they were always there. But, I think as I’ve gotten older and distance has played a factor, I’ve found that this core group of people is very precious to me because they help make me who I am.

I strongly believe that you are who you surround yourself with, so I truly value those around me and how they shape or influence me.

Additionally, I never want to change or forget the values my parents have taught me, especially when it comes to how I should treat others.

Ultimately, different aspects of life may have various effects on who I am as a person. But I think changing who I am and staying the same in many aspects is the only explanation I have for whether or not people change. I’d say that people change but stay true to who they are if it’s important to them. I don’t think people change unless the change seems valuable to them.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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