'Do You Have A Daughter?' And 13 Other Things I Want To Say When A Guy Thinks Catcalling Is OK

'Do You Have A Daughter?' And 13 Other Things I Want To Say When A Guy Thinks Catcalling Is OK

I don't blame your mother, I blame you.

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Listen, catcalling is NEVER OK... ever. It doesn't matter how someone looks, they're not "asking for it." Please, just keep your inappropriate, degrading and disgusting comments to yourself... if you must have them at all.

1. "Would your mother like hearing you talk like that?"

I really don't think your mother wants to hear you cat-calling a girl. Any lessons she taught you about civility would be lost.

2. "And that's why you don't have a girlfriend."

This is probably a pretty safe assumption about any guy acting like this.

3. "I feel bad for whoever marries you."

Any guy who objectifies women like that will only continue to do so.

4. "You're exactly the reason why girls blame themselves when things happen."

Guys like you are why girls think they are always the problem, why they "deserved" what happened to them. Newsflash: the only thing that is deserved in this situation is some soap in your mouth to clean it.

5. "Be gone witch, you have no powers here."

Alright, this one may be channeling my inner "Dance Moms" fan, but still, seriously, boy bye!

6. "Don't let the door hit you on the way out."

Because that's the only direction you're going.

7. "You're the reason why 'Law & Order: SVU' is going into its 20th season."

They base that show on REAL CASES, people! REAL CASES!

8. Like the headline says, "Do you have a daughter?"

You know that if a guy talked to your daughter or future daughter the way you just talked to me, you'd go after him if you ever met him.

9. "What if I did that to you when you walked down the street?"

Funny how it feels when the tables are turned, huh?

10. "Do you kiss your mother with that mouth?"

I certainly hope not...

11. Or, even better "... your grandma?"

Again, I really hope it's a no on this one.

12. "And how many times have you actually gotten a girl speaking that way?"

Ah, that's right... zero, none, zlich... you get the point.

13. "Thanks for the compliment! Unfortunately, I only date guys with class."

Keep trying... or don't.

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6 Things You Should Know About The Woman Who Can't Stand Modern Feminism

Yes, she wants to be heard too.

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2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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7 Ways Today's Young Women Are Hindering Gender Equality

The future is in our hands, ladies.

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For the first time in history, women have the opportunity to obtain full equality, but it may be us females who are preventing this from happening. As a young woman who's just started her college career, I've been exposed to the many ways my female peers encourage sexism, and whether we are aware of it or not, some of our everyday doings as women are holding us back from obtaining complete gender equality and positive attitudes towards women. If you're a woman fed up with our current situation, then this list may help you reevaluate your efforts in the women's rights movement and inspire you to make changes in areas you never realized were problematic.

1. We support sexist media 

Our culture is filled with media that objectifies and devalues women. Whether it's rap music with references to rape, movies about women who can only find happiness by falling in love with a man, or TV commercials featuring scantly dressed women, we are exposed to sexism on a day-to-day basis. What's worse is that many young women buy into these sexist references. Many college girls have playlists that are filled with rape-related songs and spend hours watching TV shows and movies that focus on women finding their worth through men.

While it's hard to avoid many of these forms of media, young women are still making a conscious decision to let these sexist forms of media play a role in their lives. This type of sexist exposure certainly impacts the way young women view themselves and the ways they should be treated; their support of sexist media demonstrates female compliance with what they see and hear, making men feel like the objectification of women is acceptable when it indeed is not.

2. We diet and exercise to be thin 

Even though we speak for gender equality, our actions and attitudes towards ourselves speak louder volumes and go against everything we stand for. While we march the streets chanting for a chance to play a bigger role in society, we go back to our homes and skips meals or spend hours at the gym so we can become smaller.

Our impact in this world is growing smaller as our bodies shrink; it seems as though we've forgotten that the only way we'll change the status quo is by taking up more space and not giving ourselves up to unnecessary societal standards. While it's perfectly ok to utilize diet and exercise for healthy living, it's dangerous to obsess over body image, and this obsession could be one of the big factors holding women back from social justice.

3. We prioritize our dating lives over our personal lives 

A young woman's love life is perceived as a crucial aspect to her college experience, and many female students are on missions to find their future husbands during their four years on campus. Although many college relationships are healthy and end up working out long-term, young women will put their dating lives before their personal needs since they are obsessively concerned with finding love.

When women willingly sacrifice their studies, friends, and interests in order to meet men and engage in sexual activity, they're giving into the stereotype that young women are looking for husbands and don't have any career or life goals. While we advocate for more control over our lives, we still let men influence our choices and even let them take precedence over the things we love and feel passionate about. Our willingness to give up our lives to men suggests that ending sexism isn't a priority, and this could prevent us from gaining a more respectable role in the world.

4. We put each other down

Young women have a tendency to treat each other poorly; we judge each other, exclude one another, and are constantly trying to find ways to be better than the woman next to us. This shameful behavior is a big reason why we aren't seeing much progress in our fight for gender equality. When we don't have respect for each other, how can we expect respect from our male counterparts? We've abandoned sisterhood in order to compete with one another. Instead of bringing each other down, we should be building each other up so we can be a unified unit and start changing the world together.

5. We dress to impress 

While it's completely acceptable to dress up because you want to, doing so to impress men or fit in with a group of girls certainly is not. Many young women have latched onto the idea that the way they dress defines who they are, but this notion is completely false and detrimental to the women's rights movement. While women are occupying their time worrying about what outfit to wear, they're taking time away from becoming more informed on what's happening in the world and in politics, making them less inclined to vote and represent the female population. Phrases such as "dress to impress" are big reasons why women feel more inclined to absorb themselves in fashion over knowledge, and the result is an uninformed female population that doesn't have the passion or insight for how to better their lives and the lives of their daughters.

6. We stay silent 

Most young women have the tendency to keep quiet even when they're faced with uncomfortable situations. When we're in the car and hear a song with cruel language towards women, we don't ask the driver to change it. When a man is being inappropriate, we don't tell him to stop out of fear of embarrassment. When we don't speak up and stand up for ourselves, we willingly allow sexism to prosper. Surely it can be difficult to be the woman that speaks up when she feels uncomfortable, but the only way we will see change is through women who aren't afraid to voice their concerns and put people with sexist attitudes in their place.

7. We don't identify as feminists 

Choosing to identify as a feminist or not has become a very controversial topic, and the true definition of the term has become lost in the arguments that are for and against the term "feminism." Recently, thousands of young women have come out bashing feminism and choosing not to identify with feminists, and passionate feminists have criticized them for not supporting women and their fight for equality.

This divide among women is toxic and certainly interferes with the efforts both sides are making to earn respect and equal rights. Let us not forget the real definition of feminism: women being equal to men. It is not about having more than men or preventing women from living traditional lifestyles; it's also not about being a trend that goes out of style that should be condemned by women who think they hold themselves to higher standards than feminists.

No matter what your other beliefs are, if you believe women should have equal respect and opportunities to men, you are a feminist. The drama we've created around feminism is no different than the drama we faced in high school; we are better than that. Feminism is a sisterhood, and the idea of women working with each other has been deeply damaged by our unwillingness to work together. In reality, we should all be feminists.

"Feminist" can mean something different for everyone, but we should all stand for each other and end the stigma that women aren't capable of making change because they're constantly in competition with one another. The only way we will make a change is by being unified and setting aside our pride so that we can accomplish something great. The time is now, ladies.

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