There comes a time in every girl’s life when she is presented with the Bible. No, not that actual Bible with Jesus and the forbidden fruit, but the Bible featuring every season of Sex and The City and all the advice us females could ever need. Between her annual debacles with Mr. Big and legendary comebacks, Carrie Bradshaw became an idol to me. To put it lightly, she’s a bad ass and has some great tips to survive.
1. Sometimes… He’s just not that into you
Not only did the legendary book turned movie, He’s Just Not that Into You, express and share these sentiments, but so did Miss Bradshaw. If a guy likes you, he will make it happen. If he doesn’t call you, he doesn’t like you. Or for the college version, if he doesn’t snap chat you back or respond to your texts, even if he has the read receipts on, he doesn’t like you.
2. Your friends are family
They know everything. They see through your lies, and they will get pissed at you. In the end though, they’ll always be there for you with a drink (preferably a cosmopolitan) and ice cream, until they've decided you’ve mourned long enough and that a GNO is completely necessary.
3. On-And-Off again relationships suck
Look at the pain that Mr. Big caused Carrie! She would meet new suitors, but always thought in the back of her mind what he was up to or if maybe he would come back to her. She never let herself open up to a new experience because she was so in love with Mr. Big (who eventually committed after a grueling 10 YEARS.)
4. Everyone has a past
It’s called baggage. It doesn’t need to be bad, but baggage and our past experiences make us who we are. Nobody should hate on your past and what you did before they met you because you wouldn’t be the person you are today without these experiences. The people you let into your life need to understand your past in order to see how it affected the person they love today.
5. Don’t lower your standards
Just because you want to be with someone and are sick of being lonely is no reason to settle. As she said, you should “never settle for anything less than butterflies.” There’s no reason to lower you standards just to have a significant other. When the time is right, it’ll happen, and in the mean time, be single and have fun.
6. Cheaters cheat. Again and again
Look, it’s what they do. It’s what they are good at. Maybe they get a sense of a thrill from it or maybe some of them are scared of commitment. Don’t get involved with someone who is a serial cheater, and if you do, get ready to swim with the sharks. Or maybe you can hold onto the glimmer hope that you’re the exception, which you very well may be.
7. Don’t be afraid to be unashamedly yourself.
At times, everybody is psychotic, girls and guys. We have our moments where we break down under the stress and pressure of trying to be perfect. But by trying to be who everyone else wants us to be, we lose a sense of ourselves. We lose the thing that makes our eyes twinkle… we lose the thing that makes us special.
8. You need to love yourself to be loved in return
As a wise Carrie once said, “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” How do you expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself? We need to learn to love ourselves and to stop being so hard on ourselves. We will never be perfect, but maybe we can be the perfect version of ourselves.
