I believe that caring too much is better than not caring at all. Those nice people who may be categorized as “caring too much” bring so much light into some of the darkest times. They care for others who need it, which is not something to be ashamed of.
I know many people who look at caring “too much” as a flaw, and sometimes I feel the same. But at the end of the day, you have to acknowledge the fact that you have a big heart and that is okay! There is something inside of you that makes you want to be a good person, put others first and make them happy. This is a wonderful quality.
Somebody always has to care more, it’s just how relationships work. Being the one who cares more can bring a feeling of desperation. Whereas the person who cares less may feel laid back and “cool” but never anything more than that. Nothing compares to the excitement you feel when doing something for someone you love and being crazy about them.
One of my favorite quotes says,
“Just be the freaking person who cares more. Be the person who tries harder, loves stronger, gives more of a shit than all of the half-alive people who surround them. Be the person who answers their messages, shows up to their commitments and doesn’t leave others hanging or guessing at their eternally vague intentions. Be the person you wish you were dating. If you’re sick of the game then stop playing it. If you’re tired of the bullshit, then cut it. Because the last thing this world needs is one more indifferent person. If you’re the only one left with passion, then use it. Use the hell out of it. At the end of your life, go out with a bruised-up, worn out heart that gave too much and loved too strongly and felt too fiercely. Go out with the certainty that you gave it everything you had and didn’t hold anything back. Go out empty-handed when it comes to should-haves and might-have-beens. Because it’s an infinitely more fulfilling way to live than the alternative. It will always be more honorable to be out in the field getting trampled on than to be on the sidelines feeling superior for never having tried.”
There may come a time when you are tired of the constant giving and not receiving much in return. During these times, keep in mind that those people in your life are probably very grateful for you. These people may be conditioned to your kindness and take it for granted, but this is not your fault. If you care for these people “too much” it’s because you love them. You love being there for them and helping them in times of need.
This is the person you are and we need more of these people. We need more people with passion.
