I Don't Care...Or Well, Maybe Just A Little Bit

I Don't Care...Or Well, Maybe Just A Little Bit

Sometimes it's better to just not care, but that doesn't mean not caring at all.

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I don't care, at least not about the little things. I don't care about the problems that in the large scheme of things won't matter. These little mistakes won't affect my future or even matter in the next few hours. You see, worrying about everything only makes you more stressed, and I think we have enough stress in our lives already.

So yeah, I don't care if I run out to the grocery store looking like a train wreck - hair in a messy bun and XL T-shirt wrinkled to hell. I don't care if I accidentally spill the cup of water off my desk or if I break a nail. If I cared about every little thing that happened to be I'd be drowning. I have bigger fish to fry and more important stuff to worry about than little mishaps that pop up in my day. I didn't always use to be like this though. There was a time where every spill, every mistake, every mess up use to send me over the edge. I spent more time being upset about what happened then figuring out how to fix it. So now when I knocked over my water, I wipe it up. When I break a nail I cut my losses and clip the rest of them.

There are times to care and times not to. Your reaction to something can illustrate to others what is important in your life. When EVERYTHING is important than nothing is worth more than something else. This can lead to explosions of emotions and unsure feelings which only make the whole situation worse. This also means making yourself so much more stressed out than you need to be.

Your hair doesn't always have to be perfect and your clothes don't always have to be ironed. Sometimes it's okay to just not care. Not caring releases a lot of stress and allows you to focus on more pertinent items. Yes, sometimes it's the "little things" that make life meaningful and unique. I'm not talking about the good little things but rather the little errors along the way. I'm in no way saying that you should not care at all. What I'm saying is not everything is a personal attack on you, even though you might see it that way at the moment. Try and take a deep breath before expressing emotions that might not be as an appropriate reaction as you think.

And yes, there are things you need to focus on and should evoke certain emotions when they happen. You should care about how you look for a job interview or when meeting your significant other's family for the first time. So find out what you should care about. If you realize that it's every little detail than maybe you need to step away and look at the big picture.

Save the sadness and stress for life's overwhelming problems. If you find yourself upset over every flop that happens then you might need to sit down and reevaluate the significance you place on each thing. It's okay to be dramatic sometimes and over the top, but you should also work to understand why you act that way. Trust me, I'm one of the most dramatic people you'll meet but most of the time it's just for show. I can't remember the last time, a little bit of spilled milk, actually ruined my day. And if it did, then there was probably an underlying problem.

Just try it. Next time a little accident occurs, don't care. Fix the problem and be on your way. Trust me, it helps to decompress and not be so hard on yourself sometimes. I don't care, well I mean maybe I do a little bit, but only with the situations that truly matter.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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To The High School Senior Wishing She Could Fast-Forward To Graduation, Careful What You Wish For

Don't wish this time away.

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As the last stretch of my freshman year of college stands before me, I've been thinking a lot about where I was a year ago today. I've thought about how fast the time has gone, but also how much has happened in that year.

A year ago, I decided what college I was going to and was getting ready to graduate, and honestly counting down the days until graduation. Senior year was almost over, and I couldn't wait to walk across that stage, get my diploma, and FINALLY get to start my real life. However, now that it's a year later I honestly barely remember all those little moments and it feels like literally a world ago when I was in my high school and making my Senior Board full of pictures of my childhood. And part of me wishes that I hadn't wished all that time away.

So, to my high school seniors out there — I encourage you to cherish all the memories you are making. I encourage you to spend time with your parents and savor the meals you have with them and enjoy the conversations where your mom asks all the mom questions about your day, and your dad tells a story from his childhood that you've heard a million times before. I encourage you to appreciate the friends you have, and whether or not you plan to stay friends with them after graduation, be grateful for the time with them in this season and the role that they played in your life.

I ask you to look around your high school, stop and stare at the walls that you've probably been praying to get out of for a few months now and appreciate the memories and times you've had in those buildings. Whether or not high school was a great time for you or a bad time, it was a time of growth and the place where you matured and made mistakes and succeeded.

Seniors, enjoy these last few months because before you know it you'll blink and it will be a year later and you'll be miss those days that you complained about, those teachers you rolled your eyes at, and those friends that you shared that time with.

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