Cardi B And Offset's Split Isn't A Surprise, Their Relationship Was Unhealthy From The Start

Cardi B And Offset's Split Isn't A Surprise, Their Relationship Was Unhealthy From The Start

It just doesn't look like their level of care for each other was equal. Without saying any names, it's clear that one person was more in love with the other.

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Is love dead?

That's a question I found myself asking today.

Well, about five minutes ago, actually.

I made a vow to start reading the news regularly... real news, that is: The Associated Press, Reuters, Democracy Now. Things of substance. But because I am a slave to social media and trashy celebrity gossip, I found myself scrolling the blogs this afternoon and was quite surprised to see that Cardi B and Offset have reportedly split.

I honestly was not expecting it.

Of course, I expected them to separate eventually (celebrity relationships never really last) but I didn't think it would be this soon. I would be lying if I said I'm not confused by my reaction, but I actually felt kind of sad reading about it. I'm not one of those people that emotionally invest themselves in celebrity relationships or any other person's relationship, that is, so I don't feel bad because I "shipped them." I feel bad because everything I'm seeing and experiencing lately when it comes to love and relationships has been extremely negative and disappointing. Has love, dating and marriage always been this terrible, or is this some type of 21st-century thing?

Maybe the question I really should be asking is whether or not true romance ever existed. I'll be the first one to admit: most of my ideas of love come from movies and TV shows, music, and literature. I know that it's unrealistic, but a huge part of me still yearns for that picturesque version of love, where the connection runs so deep you know what the other person is thinking. To be so passionately in love with someone that it physically hurts to be without them. But a perfect love can only exist if you work for it. The foundation of the greatest relationship is made of respect, trust, honesty, and vulnerability (the latter being the most important, yet the one I think is least emphasized). A relationship becomes love when you're not afraid to show your whole self to your partner, to let them in and give a part of yourself, knowing that you may just end up hurt in the end.

When you respect someone, you don't lie to or betray them. When you trust someone, you don't have to play games. And when you're honest and vulnerable, you can connect with someone deeply and intimately. Love is an extremely positive experience, yet lately, all I've been saying are the worst parts of it. I see cheating left and right, people who have no pride in their relationships and air their troubles on social media, relationships that only exist because their partner wants to scam them, and a whole lot of fake commitment. For as many good relationships that are out there, there seem to be at least five more bad ones. So I wonder, is timeless and unconditional love just a myth, or are people just bad partners?

I've come to the conclusion that a relationship doesn't work out because a couple can build and maintain a good foundation, but rather because a couple cares so much about each other that they want to. I only know as much about Cardi B and Offset's relationship as has been on the gossip blogs, but I have to say that from what I've seen, it just doesn't look like their level of care for each other was equal. Without saying any names, it's clear that one person was more in love with the other. Honestly, I wouldn't even go as far as saying what they had was love.

At least, it wasn't my conception of it.

So is love really dead? I guess it depends on what you consider love. Following celebrity relationships and being exposed to others' on social media makes me think that a lot of partnerships these days are infatuation rather than love. Following celebrity relationships can also make you really pessimistic, not to mention the negative experiences you may have in your own life. Seeing it over and over — experiencing it over and over — has made me feel like even if love does exist, it just dies out over time.

Or maybe I just have to accept that not every relationship is love.

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28 Reasons Why You Should Be Single In College

To all of the single ladies, put your worries to rest. You're right where you are supposed to be.
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No matter what college you go to, there is an occurrence people tell you will happen during your four years of "education." College is the time when you will find yourself. As a senior, I cannot agree more with this statement. There are so many qualities about myself I have discovered during my college experience. I have realized who I am, what I like and what I want to do with my life. This doesn't always happen for everyone, though. There is something you have to be in order for this all to come together, and that is completely and utterly on your own.

This is the time to be single, and here are 28 reasons why.

1. You are still figuring out who you are, and you can't do that unless it's just you, your goals, your dreams and that's it.

2. Nothing should ever be holding you back, whether it's studying abroad, going out to the bars Saturday night, or hanging out with friends.

There shouldn't have to be another factor to consider. "Well, I'll miss him," or, "What if we can't spend time together," blah blah blah, you don't need that.

3. If you want to make out with someone at the bar, you can do it.

4. If you want to go on a date with five different people in a week, you can do it.

5. You form a special bond with all your other single friends, and these are the ones you'll stay close with forever.

6. If you want to go somewhere, you can, and you don't have to blink an eye if your significant other wants to go or not.

7. Focusing on you and building yourself is a better way to spend your time than figuring out why he hasn't texted you today or if that rumor of him kissing someone else is true.

8. You don't need self-doubt or wondering what it would have been like to experience these years on your own.

9. If the relationship is really worth it, it can wait.

Put it on hold, let each other do whatever and know when you do get together, you'll never have any what-ifs.

10. You can have a Tinder or a Bumble and use it seriously or just as hilarious entertainment.

11. That queen bed you have? Yeah, it's all yours to sprawl out on.

Still in the dorms? Yeah, you definitely don't even want to try to share that. Then again, maybe you do want to, but the option is all yours. Amazing.

12. Part of being in college is being selfish.

Spend your money, time and energy discovering who you are.

13. You get to be the lead role in your own movie.

14. This is the perfect time to fall in love with more than one thing and more than one person.

15. Oh, and girls, did I mention the endless amount of free drinks? And the front of the line admission into bars and clubs? That should be a selling point on its own.

16. You can flirt with the nerdy guy in your class, the frat guy at the bar, basically whoever and whenever.

17. You won't need to apologize to anyone for the ridiculous and downright questionable actions you made at the bar this past weekend.

18. Your best friend can be a guy or a girl, and there is no drama that comes along with it.

19. Your self-worth comes from you and no one else.

20. You can have as many girls' nights as you please.

21. You don't need to make sacrifices.

Want to go out all night? You can. Want to cry over "The Bachelor?" You can do that, too.

22. You are not someone's property.

You don't have a label.

23. You can go to Vegas with a fraternity one weekend, a date party the next with another and take someone completely different to your barn dance.

Who doesn't like options?

24. You're looking for your bridesmaids in college, not your groom.

25. You're not depending on anyone else.

Your happiness is your own.

26. You're more confident and less psycho (well, hopefully).

27. You get to go out and be excited over the fact your night can end in an endless amount of ways, it will always be a new experience.

28. Freedom – let it ring.

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be A Dirty Rotten Cheater

Now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you.

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I just spent the last week with my jaw on the floor after the discovery that my best friend spent the better part of 2 years with a guy who was actually cheating ( a lot ) basically the entire length of their relationship. And now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you. If you encounter any of the following 5 signs, then girl you better get the hell outta dodge.

1. You NEVER get the invite to family gatherings.

Holidays

Brunch with the fam? He's not calling you. Christmas Eve at Aunt Sheryl's? He's not calling you. His sister's birthday party? He's definitely not calling you. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but if he has met your mom, your dad, and your cousins and still isn't inviting you to come along, it's probably because he doesn't want his mom to get confused that he had a totally different girl over last week.

2. He can't stand you being anywhere near his phone.

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I would think this one is an obvious red flag, but you'd be surprised how many people believe guys who say they just want you to "respect their privacy." If he is constantly texting, snapping and shoving his phone into his pocket immediately after hitting that lock screen, you may very well be in for a world of hurt. If it's going off at 2 AM, well girl, I shouldn't have to say more to convince you he's cheating.

3. You rarely go out in public.

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I know, I know, he's told you a hundred times that he's just a homebody and would rather be snuggled up watching "Catfish" with you than going out anywhere, but that's probably because he is just scared you guys will run into his other girlfriend. If you do end up going out, it's always out of town or something loud and crowded like a concert where you guys would be hard to spot.

4. He NEVER wants to post about you two on social media.

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He says stuff like "Oh, I just don't feel the need to publicize our love." or maybe "I have a crazy ex and I don't want her to harass you online." Those are both actually just lies. What he really wants to say is "I just don't want evidence and time stamps of our relationship in case I get caught." The best is when they tell you about how they like girls who are off the grid. Sounds like a cheater to me...

5. He's constantly accusing you of cheating.

Accusing

Most girls I know will chalk this up to him just being a jealous guy. But let me tell you something honey, nothing makes you more paranoid than a guilty conscious. If every time you two argue, it divulges into him saying he's not sure if he can trust you or that you have too many guy friends or that he wonders what you're doing on nights without him, well he's probably just manifesting his own fears.

There are no promises here that he is definitely cheating, and if you really trust your man then more power to you. But if any of these signs had you thinking about your own relationship, then I highly recommend that you move on to the next one girl. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, even fish who won't cheat on you!

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