Capturing the Moment Vs. Capturing the Memory

Capturing the Moment Vs. Capturing the Memory

In our modern technology based world, there is a constant struggle between capturing moments on camera, and capturing memories in our hearts.

Nostalgia comes in waves. On some occasions you find yourself so wrapped up in the here and now, that you forget to miss things from the past. And in other circumstances, you long for the ability to re-experience the most incredible days in your memory. Ah, sometimes I wish time machines truly existed.

But then again, maybe I don't. What if the power of a memory comes with the fact that it can never be replicated? That no matter how hard you try to put together the same exact sequence of events, you will never be able to fully reconstruct your thoughts and feelings and emotions revolving around that one moment in time. I think that's what makes memories so special. Although nostalgia is realer than real, and it may hurt to know you will never experience certain things again, it's all just part of the mysterious rhythm of life.

If you are anything like me, then you love to discuss fun events of the past. After a crazy weekend, a life changing experience, or anything in between, all you want to do is rehash the day's events and try to keep the memories as fresh as possible. You tell the stories numerous times, and scroll through the pictures as often as you find appropriate, to enhance the power of your stories. This is so natural for all of us. We get so wrapped up in the magic of moments and making sure we are documenting them through photos, videos, and Snapchats, I fear we are approaching the possibility of becoming unable to create memories without the assistance of modern technology.

Don't get me wrong, here. I am an Instagram-obsessed college student who (like most of you) scrolls through her phone's photo album on an almost-daily basis. But I cannot say I am proud of this behavior. Often times, when I am out with my friends, I struggle between reaching for my phone to add a funny moment to my Snapstory, or keeping it in my pocket and just enjoying the moment, photograph-free. Do you snap a picture to keep the memory for yourself? Do you do it to show others how much fun you are having right now!? These are the questions we must ask ourselves before we snap (Snapstories and regular photos).

As Dr. Seuss once said, "You will never know the true value of a moment, until it becomes a memory." So, yes, of course it is important to take pictures and videos and capture moments when it's appropriate, but never underestimate the importance of being in the moment without technology, and just having the memory survive along with you after the moment has gone. Photos, videos, and Snapchat stories can disappear, but what you hold dear in your heart and in your memory is what matters the most.

Next time you pull out your phone to capture a moment, think about why you are doing it. If it is to show others how great your life is, then don't do it. Leaving some mystery about yourself is much more appealing than over sharing your life! Quite frankly, if your Snapstory is more than about 40-seconds long, chances are nobody is actually watching it. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but people are most likely just clicking through to make the notification disappear.

However you find it necessary to capture a memory, I fully support your decision; to each, his or her own. Just make sure to never underestimate the power of your brain capacity, and of your own memory. If it is a truly special moment, I promise that you will remember it, whether photographed or not.

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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