Capturing Vs. Living In The Moment

Capturing Vs. Living In The Moment

Life is about so much more than the perfect Instagram or Snapchat.

Today, I asked one of my friends what caption I should use for an Instagram photo. It was a candid of us, in weird poses, not even looking at the camera. The moment before the seriousness. We were very concerned with getting a "cute picture" together that night, most likely because it was one of the rare occasions when we weren't just wearing a t-shirt and norts (Nike shorts).

Like many people of our generation, remembering a moment is as easy as touching an iPhone a few times, occasionally using a flash. We think that we will go back and look at all of the pictures that we’ve taken, but odds are that we won’t. It will sit forgotten for the most part in our camera roll. We fill the storage space on our phone with selfies, memes, sunsets, food, blackmail, and everything else we can capture with a camera, as if we won't remember our friend's wedding or the best crab cake we've ever eaten without a photo. Instead of having fun with our friends that night in that moment, we probably spent too long deciding if we had gotten any presentable pictures to later be displayed on social media.

We should have been less concerned about getting a good picture and more concerned with enjoying the moment. Most of us don’t know how to go through an evening of any kind of significance without pulling our phones out to take a picture. Snapchat is an app that has really encouraged us to want to capture every little thing that is happening. We think that everyone who watches our story will most likely find it interesting. Most of us just tap through the story without even really looking.

Just because we can capture the moment, doesn’t mean we should. We think that the more interesting photos that we have on Facebook, the more interesting our life must be. We attribute self-worth to the number of likes we get on social media… This really needs to stop, and it all starts with a need to be taking pictures all of the time. If social media were suddenly shut down, what would we all do with ourselves? We would have nothing to check, nothing to post on, nothing to like. Our daily routine would be vastly different.

Live in the moment. Don't stop a good time just to pull out your phone. We need to stop and take things in with just our eyes, not through a lens. Sometimes, the camera can be a barrier to the world around you. I'm not asking you to never take another picture again since that would just be impossible in today's society. Holding on to memories through photographs is a beautiful thing, but when those memories start and end with photographs, that's where the problem is. I am just advocating not living through the lens of the camera on an iPhone. Your eyes do much better justice to a sunset than the best filter, I promise you.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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