Let's admit it, what we all crave, whether we want to admit it or not is to be delighted in, been seen as beautiful, and loved.
Now, I'm not all saying we are consistently dying to have a relationship, but I am saying that these longings are essential to our being.
So let's jump in and tie this together within the Fall. Due to this error in humanity men's worst fear is failure and women's worst fear is loneliness and lack of control. Think of those around you, both genders, it seems clear that our fears stem from these things, deep down.
As women try to protect themselves from this fear of loneliness and lack of dominance, we begin to build walls. We guard our hearts. We hide ourselves in order to keep a sense of control and security.
Why?
The answer is that women form a wall of self-protection.
We fear our vulnerability.
In this shield of protection we wear, we are putting our trust in ourselves rather than God. We are not trusting that His plan will shape and form us, instead, we follow our gut and respond to the world with our woman-made shields.
In Romans 14:23 it states "whatever is nor from faith is sin."
As women when we are creating this essence outside of our created intent, we are stemming away from our faith and creating a shield of self-reliance, sin.
A sense of control and dominance that many women try to obtain is a refusal to rely on and trust God with or out realizing it.
However, there are also many women who physically hide themselves in ways that will not draw attention to them. They stay in, stay guarded, don't speak out, they are seen as quiet mice. This suppresses the beauty and the uniqueness you may bring the word.
So, regardless if you are a dominate, controlling women or a guarded, quiet women you are hiding.
In Genesis 3:10 it states, "I was afraid because I knew I was naked; So I hid."
We are hiding, ladies.
We hide under makeup, sharp humor, witty attitudes, silence, and other traits other than our true, raw personalities.
But why? Ask yourself why you are hiding the beauty God created within you and within your femininity.
The answer is simply the fact that we are scared, we are broken from Eve's nature. We refuse to look foolish, so we build a baseline that keeps us safe and from hurt. In all, we are taking matters into our own hands, not God's.
So while we are hiding, dominating, and controlling we feel this ache in our souls. What do you do when you feel internal pain?
We escape.
Many times we indulge in things such as shopping, movies, workouts, fantasies, and substances that momentarily seem to lessen our pain. They don't last. We are leaning on these indulgences instead of God. These small indulgences become addictions, and they are a reflection of the bondage our soul experiences.
Stop hiding ladies.
Reveal your beauty, your sensitivities, and your love God created inside of you. Living on a flat line of controlled pain is the essence of not believing God has your back.
Love yourself, love others, don't be afraid to take your mask off, and be beautiful through the Lord.
