I Can't Say Tinder Never Did Anything For Me

I Can't Say Tinder Never Did Anything For Me

The tragically embarrassing beginning of my relationship.

Let me tell y'all about the first time I met up with my mans before he was actually my mans. I've been dating this dude for a little over a year and two months. Y'all probably think this is gonna be a mushy story, but just wait... y'all going to be shook.

So, I was never the dating type. Yeah, I liked to flirt with guys and all that, but dating just wasn't for me. It was senior year of high school and I was about to GET OUT!!! Tinder was a big thing and it was so fun. If y'all reading this, shaking your heads you better stop! I know y'all were on there too swiping and what not.

ANYWAYS... I was swiping and doing my thing when this boy matched with me and sent me some cheesy pickup line. I am a SUCKER for cheesy pickup lines. So I play along and all that knowledge for dang sure that this was not gonna go anywhere. This goes on for like a week and this guy really trine meet up and hang out. I was like "no, this homie gonna snatch me and sell me off." all kinds of crazy stuff.

But, one night I was at my best girlfriend's house and YOU KNOW we were both on tinder messing with these dudes' heads and one wanted to come pick her up and hang out. THIS GIRL SAID YES. No joke she was gonna leave me at her house while she snuck out. I was like heck no. If you going then I'm going. So we both leave. She goes with this guy to Sonic or something and I drive down to Coastal. It's the college in my hometown. I roll up dressed in an XL t-shirt and running shorts, my hair in a braid, and no makeup. I was the honest-to-God definition of raggedy.

Let me back up for a second — before we left my girl's house she got nervous and threw up. Okay, cool now you know I got sick because she did. Disgusting, I know, but this is crucial to the most embarrassing moments of my life coming up.

Back to the story — I pull up to Coastal and this dude waiting outside for me. I walk up and the first thing out of my mouth was "I just left this girl's house and we both threw up before we left, but I brushed my teeth!" I swear on my life y'all. I was so nervous I was saying whatever popped into my brain.

Bless his heart he just laughed. So we go and sit in the lobby of his dorm building??? That was awkward. I mean I wasn't planning on doing anything with him, but it was weird. So we're talking about our families and lives and all that and he asks me what was wrong with my legs...

Y'all I tried to shave my legs before I got there with a SINGLE blade razor and it cut off the tips of my hair follicles. It looked like I had leprosy. And my dumb mouth told him exactly that. No lies.

At this point, I just wanted to go. My dignity was in shambles. So we are heading back out to my car and he was telling me more about where he worked over the summer with his uncle. He was a plumber. As I was getting into my car my last words were "Alright goodnight GOLDEN PLUMBER BOY!" I swear if I could've made it happen I would've had the ground split and suck me up. I went back to my girl's house and contemplated plastic surgery to change my face.

But, months later we started dating — so yeah. The unfortunate thing is that this is not the most embarrassing thing I've ever done that he has looked over. God bless him for it. Maybe y'all will find those out another time. This story had enough embarrassment in it for now.

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Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

No, checking his location every hour does not make me psycho.

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He has come up with describing my actions sometimes as “psycho girlfriend.” As much as this bothered me at first I started to realize there is nothing wrong with my “psycho” actions.

I don’t monitor who my boyfriend hangs out with and I don’t care who he texts, I trust him, but I do watch other things he does.

I probably check his location about once an hour, maybe more if he isn’t texting me back.

This isn’t some way for me to find out if he is with another girl, it’s so I can ensure he isn’t dead in a ditch somewhere. If he was on Snapchat five minutes ago but hasn’t texted me back in 45 minutes, yeah I’ll call him out on it but I'm not actually mad. If he is with friends and not answering me, it’s cool. I just want to be able to make sure I know where he is and that he is alive on a regular basis.

I make him keep his read receipts on for me.

I don’t care if he leaves me on read, I just need to know he is seeing what I’m saying. Half the time, I text him random facts or thoughts I have throughout my day, those don’t always need a response back. However, I do want to know he is acknowledging me through reading my texts.

Yes, from time to time I will spam him and make him respond to my messages so we can make plans or I can know what he is doing with his day but it’s not like I plan out his every move for him or care if he is getting drunk with the boys on a Wednesday, not my issue.

I don’t ask for all of his time or anything. I know he is a busy person. All I ask for him to text me back on a regular basis (once an hour to be exact), for him to allow for me to know where he is at all times and to get one night a week with him.

I don’t plan to show up where he is or anything, I simply just like to know information and get a weekly time with him. I don’t care if I only see him that one night a week, I just want one night with a movie or dinner or snuggles so I can get my boyfriend time.

The rest of the time he is his own person, and I couldn’t really care less about what he does in that time.

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To The Girl Always Flying Solo, It’s Time To Own Your Relationship Status

Don’t hide it. Be confident in being single.

Raise your hand if you’re the girl who always flies solo.

You go to parties alone and stand in the back because you don’t have a date.

You go to weddings by yourself and people say, ‘don’t worry dear, your time will come.’

Then, there are the everyday activities you do alone. You go grocery shopping alone, eat out alone and maybe you even sit in a movie theater alone.

After a while, you get tired of being the one who is always single and never has a date. Friends start to feel bad for you, so they try playing matchmaker. Even that tends to get old.

In today’s world, it’s incredibly hard to not feel the tiniest pang of anger when you see the flood of cute couples pictures on social media.

Sometimes, it may feel like it’s all in your face, but no relationship is ever perfect. Even if the couple looks like they have it all together, odds are they don’t.

Don't let what you see on social media get you down.

There is no shame in having your Facebook relationship status set on single. Yeah, it’s been set on single for years, but who cares. Maybe it’s been set on single since the day you made your account.

The only person who notices is YOU.

The person you are is more than enough, and you alone will outshine any relationship you see on social media.

Over the years, I’ve gone to my fair share of weddings and parties alone. It’s not that I didn’t want a date or I didn’t have anyone to ask. I simply chose to go alone.

Now, I’m not going to lie because there were many times I felt uncomfortable being alone when everyone else had a date. There was a point in time where I let that feeling get to me, and it kept me from going out.

I was tired of people asking me if I was seeing anyone, and when I replied no, the next question was why. Suddenly, my personal life was their business, and it made me feel even worse.

That's when I realized how INSANE it was for me to feel bad about myself for being single.

There is nothing wrong with not having someone by your side. You don’t need a boyfriend or a date to make you feel confident.

Now, it’s time to be confident in yourself and proud of who you are. You are the girl who flies solo, and it’s time you own it. You can turn heads all on your own. Your confidence will show others you are comfortable in your own shoes.

Your relationship status does not define you.

Instead, you should be shouting it because you are you, and you are amazing. There will be times you wish you had someone, and you might even feel lonely. There will be times others might judge you, but no one can take away your confidence.

If you’re one of the many who always flies solo, keep your head up, and keep living that single lady life.

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