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Canceled Culture Is So Toxic, It's Doing Way More Harm Than Good

Everyone should just mind their business.


In light of the recent videos posted on YouTube this past week, I can honestly say this canceled culture may destroy someone's life physically and mentally.

Tati Westbrook and James Charles have had a very public falling out, which is causing some serious headaches and confusion for the many viewers that watch them. Tati Westbrook made some serious allegations about James Charles in her recent video "Bye Sister." This video basically exposed James Charles about some things he did to her like signing a contract with her competitor (her brand is named Halo Beauty), Sugar Bear Hair.

Not only was she upset about this, but she also said that she was tired of James manipulating straight guys with money or blackmailing into behaving sexually with him. She also vividly remembered that there was one specific boy in Seattle that James had an encounter with, and was very explicit about what James wanted to do with him. In response to the video, James Charles made a quick eight-minute video apologizing to her, and it was honestly quite pathetic. She had put so much thought into her video, which was 43 minutes long, that it didn't seem really genuine.

There's so much background detail that's way too hard to follow, but the following events have spiraled into one big mess. After that video was posted, many influences (including Zara Larsson) have come and said that they have felt uncomfortable because James Charles has pursed them. In Zara Larsson's case, he sent her model boyfriend "several DMs when he knew damn well he was straight." Many other regular people have come out to say that James Charles has catfished a whole soccer team in high school.

Another serious allegation came out basically saying that James Charles had sexually assaulted someone in a urinal while he was still in high school. The Seattle boy, also known as Sam Cooke, also did a video (that's now been deleted) about his encounter with James as well, saying that James had said he was gay when Sam said he was straight. Many of Tati and James' friends have come in their defense as well. Jeffree Star has responded saying that what Tati said was 100% true, while Gabriel Zamora has also been public in defense of James and said that he was there when James was explaining the Seattle boy story to Tati. James Charles has been losing subscribers so rapidly that he was the first YouTuber to lose a million subscribers in 24 hours. All of that changed up until yesterday when James Charles was finally back on YouTube after a week of silence.

He made a 41-minute long video with a handful of "receipts" calling out both Tati Westbrook and Jeffree Star. This video also included explanations of the DMs with the Seattle boy and the other allegations that were said about him. Zara Larsson finally cleared up afterward that it was one DM and a few comments. The urinal allegation was a total lie, and claimed to be a "social experiment." James Charles took the time to message many of the influencers that said they had felt uncomfortable with the messages that he sent and apologized to them.

James also tried to clear up the situation with Sam Cooke, saying that Sam told him initially he was bisexual. He further explains that after they hung out and kissed, Sam told James he was straight. After a few weeks of not talking, Sam ended up telling James he was fully gay and told James to FaceTime. Sam then told James that he was not, in fact, gay and that he just wanted to know if James was talking to him and another guy at the same time.

Jeffree Star was the highlight of the video, though. After Tati's video came out, Jeffree Star basically sent him a message saying that various people would be going on camera to expose him. These people included Grayson Dolan, Jeffree Star's boyfriend's brother Zach, Sam Cooke, and another guy named Cameron. James stated that the Dolan Twins were the first people to call him when this entire thing exploded, despite them unfollowing James. He also stated that there was never any "flirting" with Zach and that Zach was straight up with him about his sexuality. He just claimed to not know who Cameron was. This isn't the full story, but if you watched both… these were the highlights.

I can't say I didn't participate in canceling James Charles because I did. But recently, it hasn't been doing any good to anyone. Everyone was so hung up on what was happening next with this that they started to believe the fake allegations that were construed against James. So many people sent him so many hate messages. The only people that were really gaining from this were drama channels that were getting insider scoops and more subscribers.

Before this, I subscribed to none of them. After all of this, I will still be subscribed to none of them. They should've handled this privately and in a more mature way than just posting a video or tweeting some bullshit. They're both at fault for this. We live in a society where we're heavily influenced by what we are shown and the claims that are given to us that we do not have the hard-based facts. We are not these individuals. We do not know what really happened. We shouldn't be taking sides at all.

The fact that this isn't over and that Jeffree Star will most likely be posting a video about this is really problematic. With that being said, do not feed into all the drama because you're not these people. You cannot have a fully knowledgeable opinion if you're not even one of them. I don't even like any of them and I ended up being way too deep into this drama. All I can really say is that do not feed into this canceled culture. It can really end up hurting someone's relationships, career, and mental health. If you're not involved in the drama, just don't say anything because you weren't there.

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18 Times Kate Middleton Was Actually All Of Us In College, Beside The Princess Thing

Every girl has to go through her clueless college stage before she reaches Duchess status.

Kate Middleton is basically a household name by now, and how could this not be the case when she has the gorgeous hair, kind smile, and incredible fashion sense. With her constantly in the spotlight looking so put together, we sometimes forget that the Duchess was actually all of us in college!

Here are 18 times that Kate proved she was just like all of us.

1. Going all out in the name of school spirit

There is nothing like breaking out the war paint and screaming for your home team. Like Kate, we all love to get a little messy and make some memories with our friends.

2. Hanging out with the roomies

Some people may not get lucky in this area but for those who are best friends with their roommates, they understand the love. It's a dream come true for everyone who has always wanted to live with their best friends. It's like a sleepover that never ends.

3. Dressing up cute on the first day of school...

You got to make a good first impression on your way to school. Whether it's during your 7 A.M or 4 P.M., it's always best to dress to impress.

4. ...and wearing yoga pants for the rest of the year

And this goes all the way until the last week of school when you don't bother getting out of bed to wear pants at all.

5. Going grocery shopping and throwing in cookies, ice-cream, and every type of Pringles because your mom isn't there to say no

You'll probably regret that in a few months when the Freshman Fifteen kicks in.

6. Walking for miles from your car to your dorm carrying groceries

We can't park by the apartment for a solid five minutes to carry our groceries up to the kitchen or we will risk a ticket, but we can walk a few miles carrying food that gets heavier, and heavier, and heavier with every step.

7. Going out for a night on the town on a Friday night

Dancing, laughter, and fun? Everyone in college has been to a party or two. It's a classic part of the college experience. Sometimes you just need a distraction from all the essays and tests.

8. Being so late to class you threw on whatever your hands grabbed next

We've all been there. Our alarm doesn't go off, we press snooze a few too many times, or forget to even set an alarm and next thing you know we are running around the dorm room like Taz from Looney Toons. You throw on whatever, then run to class.

Unfortunately 9/10 times our outfits don't turn out. Although, Kate can certainly pull off this look, no matter how mismatched.

9. Pretending your walking to the same building as the cute boy you met so you have the excuse to keep talking to him

I am very guilty of doing this. Although I missed my class, at least I got to talk to the really cute boy who has class at 9:45 in the STEM building. It was worth it.

10. Sitting on the floor or standing because you're a poor college student who can't afford chairs or tables

Eating on the floor? Always. Being a college kid is tough and sometimes you have to sacrifice some things to obtain the others. Such as choosing chocolate milk and Halo Top over vegetables and hair conditioner.

Judging by Kate's beautiful locks, she chose the conditioner.

Probably the vegetables too.

We should just all follow her example.

11. Going on cute date with the boy you followed to class-turned-boyfriend

Now my short-lived romance may not have extended farther than us talking and walking to his class, but Kate and William obviously had a better ending. Nevertheless, college is the place to grow and date and possibly find the one.

12. Keeping your hair long and growing because you can't afford to get it cut

Don't trust your roommate. No matter how many times she begs you to let her cut it. Don't.

13. Turning 21 and getting dressed up and going out with your best friends

While this one probably doesn't apply to Kate, since you can drink at age 18 in most countries, all my people in the United States know the sweet freedom of turning 21. It's an iconic time in a students life and marks a huge milestone as well.

14. Passing out flyers for some type of movement or protest

Everyone wants to be a part of something bigger - which is why college is the time to stand up for what you believe in. May that be RedforEd, Planned Parenthood, anti-Abortion, Trump, the Wall, pizza bagels, it's all an exercise of the first amendment.

15. Ranting to your friends about the professor that just "doesn't understand you"

You know your thinking about that professor right now as you read this. And you know that that's your reaction whenever they give you a bad grade or say something you disagree with at the tiniest degree.

16. Getting glammed-up for those senior photos

Pick out your best outfit and make sure it's a good hair day because everyone will be viewing these photos forever... and in Kate's place that is more than true. Luckily she looks as gorgeous as ever. Does she ever have a bad hair day?

17. Walking out of your last class knowing you'll never have to write a single paper again

And purposefully not thinking about how you will be going into the real world in less than a few days.

18. When you've graduated and realized you have no idea what you're going to do with your life

Maybe a prince will be right around the corner to sweep you off your feet so you won't have to figure your life out.
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The Kate Spade Foundation Follows Through On Their Million Dollar Promise

One year and a million dollars later, the fight against mental health issues continues.


Going through a mental illness can be one of the most isolating and lonely feelings known to man. When you're in that state of mind it's hard to imagine that anyone could feel as bad as you do right then and there let alone have gone through something similar. Not only that, but many people will suffer in silence, avoiding speaking up or asking for help. Which, if anyone who's battled a mental illness would know, is not an uncommon feeling.

It's hard to speak up and ask for help, especially with something that feels so deeply personal and at times hard to describe. Many people find ways to cope and regain a balance in their lives. Many others never find that balance.

Roughly one year ago, on June 5, 2018, Kate Spade took her own life after battling depression and anxiety for nearly her entire life. It seemed completely out of the blue and nearly everyone was taken aback. But that's the nature of mental illness in some ways. We don't understand the severity or how deeply someone may have been struggling with their mental illness until it's too late.

The reality of mental health is often harrowing, especially when it comes to access to help. An increasing number of Americans are seeking help for a mental health condition but millions still remain with unmet needs or an undiagnosed condition. Many states with a mental health work provider workforce have only one worker for every four individuals requesting therapy.

But there are organizations across the nation who are working to make mental health care not only more accessible but affordable as well. The Kate Spade New York Foundation has just completed their $1 million donation pledge to mental health services such as The Jed Foundation and the Crisis Text Line.

Kate Spade's death, alongside those such as Anthony Bourdain and Robin Williams, proved to many of us that mental health issues affect us all regardless of our wealth, fame or status. In the time following their deaths, I felt that we've become more honest with ourselves and worked hard to destigmatize mental health as a whole. Her death raised the conversation surrounding mental health to new levels that I don't think had previously been touched. Regardless, there's always more work to be done and we should all aspire to live in a world where those affected with these illnesses no longer feel alone.

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