Jealousy. A simple 8-letter-word and a not-so-simple feeling; this is by far one of the worst sensations you can feel as a girlfriend or even as a boyfriend (not judging). I wish I had kept count of the times I have been called a “jealous freak” or a “crazy b****” even, but honestly, it just doesn’t faze me anymore.
If you’re reading this, you’ve been in this situation, and I get you, it’s not pretty; it’s the most annoying position to be in, because truth is, you’re probably right about your instinct, but your partner just doesn’t get it because they’re not in your shoes. This honestly puts you in a lot of pressure, since it’s not that you don’t trust them because you do (if you don’t, leave!) but as cliché as this sounds, you don’t trust the girl/boy you’re jealous of (mainly because you don't know them); your S.O really doesn’t get it, and you start questioning yourself if their IQ drops by 20 points when asked about their little “friend”, because they don’t see the "signs" you see (or sometimes made up signs in your head because you can’t be right all the time, right?).
Let me put things into perspective for you guys: lets say your S.O makes a new friend (average or above, you know this since you have obviously stalked her/him), and they suddenly start texting 24/7, it’s practically obvious that you are going to get jealous, but they don’t understand that; So, you don’t say anything because you don’t want to get called jealous freak again, since you start questioning yourself and asking if you have psycho issues, hence the fact that you actually believe you have something to be jealous of (of course your S.O can have other friends, but texting them all day everyday even when they're with you, is not the business) Anyway, since you didn’t say anything at the beginning, now you start questioning if every time your partner picks up the phone is to text their “new-found-friend”, so you start making up possible scenarios in your head and then one day, all of the sudden, out of absolutely nowhere, you explode when they mention them, among other friends, in a totally innocent anecdote they’re telling you and that is when you get called jealous freak.
Lets be honest, maybe we did deserve to be called that, just a tad bit, because of the way we explode out of nowhere triggered by made-up-stuff our own mind creates, but you could still probably be right about your instinct, so follow it if you feel like something is wrong, but as I said, you can’t be right all the time, sometimes your gut instinct just fails you and that’s okay.
Perhaps we are a little insecure, but not everyone has Beyonce’s confidence (or looks) and maybe we should work on that. But I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to get jealous, you’re not crazy and it happens to almost everyone. If you on the other hand have a pathological-kinda-jealousy, the type that prohibits your S.O to dress a certain way, go out without you, etc; I’d suggest you get some help, because it really says a lot about your confidence and you could have someone help you work on that.
You have to tell yourself that you’re the best damn S.O out there and believe it. You are you. If he/she picked you, it’s because of something, it’s because you are great and you have something that no one else has. If they do end up cheating, they were never worth it, so why even care?
So, now you know, next time you get called this, embrace it and laugh it off because you’re not the only one! It’s something natural and a thing you can’t really control. The one thing that should be controlled, though, is letting your S.O know that a certain situation makes you feel uncomfortable, you know, before you start making up scenarios in your mind.
As Beyonce would say: "what's worse? looking jealous or crazy? Or like being all walked over lately. I'd rather be crazy"
