I want to start this off by stating that there is nothing wrong with calling a girl beautiful (it’s nice to hear), but after a while, we want to hear something more. “Beautiful,” “pretty,” “hot,” and “sexy” are possibly the most common adjectives used to compliment a woman, but they’re superficial observations that say little about who we are.
You can call us pretty all you want at the start of the relationship, but as you get to know us, let us know that there’s something more to us that you like. Tell her you like how passionate she is about certain topics. Call her smart, dedicated, kind. Compliment her for the way she treats people or say something about how you love her empathetic heart.
Tell her you love her mind and that you sometimes don’t understand the crazy things she says, but you still love to hear her when she says them. Tell her you love how hard-working she is. Compliment her goals, her achievements, her strength. Call her brave, a warrior, independent. Compliment her quirks.
Now if you must compliment her on a physical level, be more specific. You think she’s pretty – that’s great, but why? Tell her you love the way her eyes sparkle when she’s really into the topic she talks about. Tell her you love the way her nose crinkles when she doesn’t like something. Tell her you love the way her hand moves when she tucks her hair behind her ear.
Compliment the dimples on her cheeks when she smiles, or that silly laugh she has only when she’s with you. Tell her how you love to look at her when she’s in deep thought. Say you love how it feels when she holds your hand, when she kisses you – tell her what she does that makes you weak. Find something about her that lets her know that you take notice of the little things she does and you love them.
We are more than just pretty, so tell us! Call her ambitious, brilliant, confident. Tell her how comforting she is. Tell her how much you love the way she says certain words or reacts to certain things. Tell her you love how she not only pushes herself but also encourages you to be better. Compliment her creativity, which she uses to solve her problems.
Tell her you love the way she writes or how amazing she looks when she’s reading her favorite book. Tell her you love her when she’s in her element and how she seeks comfort in you when she’s not. Call her compassionate, honest, reliable or trustworthy. Pick out those things about her that are unconventional but drive you crazy. Whatever you do, make sure to call her something more than “pretty.”
