While searching through the Apple app store, I stumbled across an app called Bumble. I read the description, looked at the pictures, read over some reviews, and my curiosity got the best of me. I quickly downloaded the app and made an account to see what the rave was all about. It has a lot of the same properties as tinder, in which you rate people that live near you based on their looks by swiping left and right and get matched with them if they liked you too. But girls listen up, there is one major difference!
The men are not allowed to be the first to start the conversation to the girls they got matched with. Now if you’re anything like me, you would see this as a blessing. The girls now have complete control. If you are just going on the app to get some self-confidence and have no interest in meeting any guys, then so be it. Wait twenty four hours and they will disappear forever. But if you are going on the app to learn how to get better at talking to guys, then all the power to you (literally). Startup that conversation and see how it goes! Who knows what could happen.
But needless to say, I eventually found that the girls having “all the power” is not all it’s cracked up to be. You never realize how many creepy people there are on the internet until you start the conversation with them. At least with tinder, you have the ability to see what they say first and if it’s creepy you can ignore them. Or on the other hand, what if you’re missing the sweetest guy ever because he never got the chance to sweep you off your feet by how he started the conversation.
As with all apps, there is of course positives and negatives to it, but overall I found my experience pleasing. It boosted my self-confidence and made me appear more suave than I would have appeared if I met them in person. One feature that I found the most exciting and interesting was the idea that the men get one chance to extend the chance for you to start a conversation by giving you an extra thirty-six hours before they disappear forever. I can’t explain how good it feels when you go on the app and men used the one and only chance they have for the day to extend your chance to start the conversation. I’ll tell you from experience that it definitely boosted their chance of getting me to reach out.
Now I do have a boyfriend so downloading this app was totally for experimental and article purposes and I can tell you that I never met up with any of the guys (or had the interest too) and will be deleting the app soon after finishing this article. But if I didn’t have a boyfriend, this app would definitely be something I would be using. I matched with a lot of guys that went to my school that I never even knew about and the app could definitely be a way to make some new friends. So try it out and make your own opinion. What do you have to lose?
