There comes a time in all of our lives when we decide it's time to make a change. Sometimes making those changes means letting go of people you thought would be in your life forever. Letting go is one of the hardest things anyone will ever have to do. As we grow and mature into adults, our views and values begin to change. Some of our biggest value changes in life is letting go of the toxic people. Your heart aches because you didn’t want to make the decision to let go of that best friend or that group of friends you’ve known your whole life. But you realize that is whats best for them, but more importantly, what is best for you.
It's funny how different a person can act when they surround themselves with toxic people. Their whole attitude goes from sweet and loving, to angry and hateful in a matter of seconds. Why does this happen? People don’t realize that when you are constantly around negative people, that negativity begins to rub off on you. We all have that one friend that is constantly in a pool of drama. They are overflowing with negativity and a majority of us feel obligated to help them try to fix it all. Being a support system for your friends is amazing and you should always be there for your friends when they need you, but you also have to take care of yourself. These types of people are mentally and emotionally draining! You begin to see yourself feeling their pain and troubles on top of the pain and troubles you are dealing with in your own life.
Imagine a bowl of water; the water is clear and clean. Now imagine someone dropping a few drops of black food coloring into the water. The swirls and designs as the drops sink to the bottom are beautiful for a moment, and then the water turns black. The clean and clear water represents you and all the things you want to be successful with in life; it is blissful and serene. The black food coloring represents all the people you surround yourself with that have a negative impact in your life. When you bring in negative people and continue to surround yourself with emotionally and mentally draining people, your life begins to look like that bowl of water, nothing but darkness.
Don’t be sorry or apologize for letting go of those toxic people. You made a decision to better yourself and to better your future. If anyone makes you feel bad for trying to better yourself or tries to make your feel like the bad guy, you just remember: you are going to succeed and be happy. It's everyone else’s choice to decide whether they want to be a part of that journey or not.
