If you know me, you know I'm not a romantic person. Hell, a majority of the time I'm not even a people person. So why is it that so many guys find my cold personality and indifferent attitude attractive?
If I had a dollar for the number of times a guy has laughed off my insistence that I wasn't looking for a relationship or scoffed when I told him I'm a bitter person who doesn't know love, I would have enough money to pay someone to keep these boys away from me.
I'm just not looking. End of story.
Maybe I'll find someone one day who makes me want a relationship and I'm totally open to that idea, but I'm going to be upfront with you: if I don't like you, that's not changing. Not that I think you're a bad person, I just don't feel like leading a guy on knowing that he'll get mad at me down the road because he expected something I clearly explained was not going to happen.
This isn't a rom-com. I'm not going to fall in love with you after avoiding your insistent texts and calls for a month because I find your eagerness quirky and charming. In actuality, I'll probably get a restraining order against you.
No means no, and that doesn't just apply to sex.
That's for every single part of a relationship, including even having a relationship. I don't want you to pursue me. I'm not playing hard to get. I AM hard to get and you're not going to be doing the getting anytime soon.
I must seem like an egotistical brat. Seriously, complaining about having guys who are into me? Trust me. I don’t exactly have boys falling at my feet. But on the rare occasion that somebody is interested in me, it’s frustrating that I feel like I’m expected to reciprocate those feelings.
I have more than once told a guy that I am not interested in dating/flirting/hooking up, only to have him turn it around on me, getting angry and accusing me of leading him on.
I’m sorry for being polite and friendly, I guess?
I just don’t understand how it’s my fault that you’re so full of yourself and you expect any girl you look at to start swooning.
Not only was I not interested to begin with, but now I don’t even want to be your friend seeing as your self-righteous attitude is probably going to get in the way of any real human connection.
The absolute worst though is when a boy tries to guilt you into giving him a chance, with whatever sob story about how he’s a nice guy and he’s just looking for someone who can appreciate that. I don’t care how great you think you are. You stopped being a nice guy the second you took my no and tried to turn it into a yes.
Listen, I’m not a b*tch. (Come on – you know you’re thinking it.) I am, however, someone who is not ready to let another person into her life right now. A healthy relationship with myself is hard enough. I can’t even imagine bringing another person into the mix, especially not one who seems to have no respect for my decisions or boundaries.
Guys, I’m not blaming you. You’re not all that bad. Actually, you’re pretty great. You know, when you’re not trying to guilt trip me into your arms.
