What Your Boyfriend Needs To Know About Your Anxiety
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What Your Boyfriend Needs To Know About Your Anxiety

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What Your Boyfriend Needs To Know About Your Anxiety
Kateri Hartman

To Your Boyfriend,

Look. Anxiety is a myth to those who do not suffer from it. However, for those who do have anxiety, it is all-encompassing. Sometimes you may not understand. She will do things that make no sense to you. You will watch as she cries over a two-minute conversation with a stranger in the park. She will beg you to order at the fast food restaurant so that she doesn't have to. She will get scared when you don't reply. She will wonder what you're doing when you take too long.

She will need reassurance. You may be confused-you tell her every day that you love her, and she will still not believe you. This is the anxiety. Never let her question you love. Always remind her how much you love her. If she makes a mistake, let her know it's okay. Do not let it eat her up inside. You will say it’s no big deal, and sit in wonder when she makes a big deal out of small things. She will read into everything you do.

She will love you. She will love you whole heartedly. She will love you so much it hurts. You won’t want her to hurt. You’ll want her to be the happiest human being on the planet. I want you to know this will not always be possible. There will be bad days. There will be days where she cannot do so much as leave the house. Be there for her. Be there for her when she feels like she is drowning.

The girl with anxiety will love you with everything she has. She will be difficult to love-she will not express her love in the same way as others. She will be a confusing, frustrating mess. But the best part of it all, is she'll be yours. And trust me, that's what you want. No one else will care or worry about you as much as this girl. If you love her, you'll have a great girl in return. Don't let her go. Have patience, and let her reveal her strength amongst this weakness. I promise, it will be the best thing you could do.

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