Originally this was going to be one of those "open letters" where I shame and yell at the boy who broke my best friends heart. But, as I began writing that letter I realized that this is not what I should be writing. I could write this guy one thousand letters and he, first of all, wouldn't read a single one and even if he did my words would not matter to him. Most importantly, they wouldn't change anything. They wouldn't change how I feel about him and what I think about him because ultimately he will forever be the first boy to break my best friend's, heart and while doing so kind of broke mine too.
So, I am writing this to let every single person out there with a best friend know that letting somebody break your best friend's heart is absolutely the worst thing you could ever do, to the both of you.
Let's be honest, we have all been there. You're laying on your bed listening to music, doing homework, or making some food when you get the text: "So-and-so broke up with me" or "so-and-so cheated on me" and sometimes even after time has passed, "I really miss so-and-so. My heart physically hurts." When you receive one of these texts (or any of the other countless ones) you literally drop everything, even the knife you were using to spread peanut butter onto your sandwich and you go to your best friend.
In my particular case, when I saw my best friend after the text, my own grieving process began. This is the grief of watching my sister, my partner-in-crime, my best friend break and bring completely and utterly powerless to fix it.
Just like I did, you will do what you can and cheer her up for the moment. You will tell her that everything will be ok, even though you know that a giant "eventually" should be added to the end of that saying. You will tell her that she deserves better because you know that she does. You will lay there with her making her laugh, eating her favorite foods and listening to her favorite songs and even sit in silence for a while. You will most likely stay the night and will head home in the morning.
You will eventually hit an anger stage, but you won't show this in front of her. You will be angry that he was at one point good enough for your best friend to fall, and fall hard for him and that you encouraged it. Mostly you will be angry with him taking advantage of that and completely breaking her heart. You will blame the universe and most likely yourself as well. You will think about driving to his house and screaming into his face and venting all of your anger at the person who truly deserves it, but you won't because you know it will just make matters worse.
A few days will pass and you will continue to try and cheer her up, take her out, go shopping, do anything that can possibly get her mind off of him for even a few moments. You will make her laugh and she will tell you that she's fine and that she's over him. But you know her too well. You know that she isn't fine and her laugh currently is fake and you can see the hidden sadness beyond her fake smile. She might not even realize that she is doing it, but you do, because you should.
Most likely once things start to get better he will do his thing and start trying to crawl his way back in. You will do what you can and tell her to stay away because you know that its the best thing. She will most likely not listen to you because for some reason all that matters to her is that boy, the one who completely shattered her heart. When he comes crawling back she might even try to push you away, the only person who was there for her when he just recently walked away, but you better not let her. She will need you and you will need her and as her best friend you cannot take it to heart (which will be incredibly hard) because it is the time where you need to be strong. For her. For your best friend. You need to find it in you to be supportive even though you don't believe that you should.
He might break her heart again, but maybe he won't. If he does, you will be there for her again and that is what matters. If he does happen to break her heart I promise that slowly things will begin to get better and you will finally recognize your best friend. You will get her back. You will physically and mentally see the stitches in her heart heal. She will want to go out with you and do all of the things that you used to do. You won't even know what it was that finally helped her heal. It was most likely just the fact that you were always there and you hope she knows that you WILL also be there for every other loss, new relationship, and new break up that comes her way because she's your best friend.
Now to end this, I will just leave a comment to the boy who decided that it was ok to break my best friend's, heart:
I am so sorry. Yep, that's right I am apologizing to YOU. You must not have known that my best friend was the best girl that will ever come into your life. I have no idea how you couldn't see it. I feel sorry for you, but honestly, I am beyond happy that this will give a new guy, and hopefully the right one to love her endlessly like she deserves. My best friend deserves happiness and you have taken that away from her for long enough, so let her find some of her own because that is the least that you can do. I really do wish that things would have worked out differently because I DID like you and how happy you made her. You filled a place in her heart that I couldn't but in the end, I just don't think I can ever forgive you for causing her so much pain. You weren't the one there to help pick her up when she was down, I was. You were just able to leave and not look back as if you didn't shatter her heart and that is not ok with me.
