Some people in relationships usually think of boundaries as useless. Some individuals accept that having boundaries implies not having cherishing emotions toward their partners. However, it's literally the opposite. All healthy relationships have boundaries. It doesn't always mean differentiating yourself from your loved one. It is a procedure of figuring out what behavior you will accept from others and what you will not. They're used to ensure your relationship is mutually respectful, supportive, and caring, which allow you and your partner to be treated well. More often than not, without healthy boundaries, individuals allow others to determine their own desires.
Boundaries are an interpretation of self-affirmation, which starts by pausing long to see what reverberates for us and what doesn't. Through the craft of pausing, we build up the ability to stop covering up, to prevent fleeing from our experience. We start to trust in our collective knowledge, in our naturally wise hearts, in our ability to open to whatever emerges in our life. Like waking up from a fantasy, at the moment of pausing our stupor subsides. On the other hand, rigid boundaries in a relationship are frequently an outflow of a dangerous cycle where we continue demanding things for ourselves that don't generally support us. Inflexible boundaries originate from being misattuned to what others need.
First, with the end goal to define viable boundaries, you should be prepared to recognize what it is that you are feeling. You should make your boundaries known to your partner and talk about it. Remember that if there is any reaction from the other person or in the event that he/she needs to contend, at that point, it might be best to just simply leave. Deal with yourself to abstain from going through emotional breakdown if you are an enthusiastic individual who is okay to be one. By having boundaries in a relationship, you can delicately hold what you need while being mindful to what others feel and need.
You can keep your thoughts in your pocket for reinforcement while participating in a respectful dialogue. By doing so, you enable yourselves to be affected, yet without humiliating yourself. You move smoothly in the space that lives among yourself as well as other people. You may say that it's easy to say than done but it accompanies your effort and involvement in your relationship. It's one of the endowments of maturity. Through the act of participating in discussions where you respect your emotions and necessities while additionally regarding other's understanding, you make an atmosphere for the cozy, loving connections you ache for.
By practicing mindfulness and keeping up pliable boundaries, you can create new, supporting connections and elongate existing ones. Acknowledging and cleverly establishing boundaries in a relationship is an indispensable ability for moving on with a pleasant, connected life.
See you next week!