#BlackLivesMatter: A Guide For Confused White People

#BlackLivesMatter: A Guide For Confused White People

Don't all lives matter? Doesn't pro-black mean anti-white? Why can't I say the N-word?

Here are seven helpful ways to begin lifting our impenetrable veils of white privilege in response to #BlackLivesMatter. I ask that you please consider these steps before changing your statuses to #BlueLivesMatter, or absentmindedly scrolling past the video of Philando Castile’s spontaneous public execution at the hands of a fatally overzealous police officer.

1. First and foremost, saying that #BlackLivesMatter does not translate to #WhiteLivesDoNot. Our comfy privilege blanket makes us feel like we’re being attacked by anything that doesn’t explicitly include us, but this isn’t the case. No one is suggesting that black lives are more meaningful than those of non-black individuals. If it’s helpful for you, maybe mentally attach the words “too,” “also,” or “as much as mine does,” to the end of the phrase. And in case you’re inclined to snidely retort that all lives matter – of course they do, but America can’t credibly make that case until we stop treating our black citizens as if they’re second-class.

2. Before you use the Dallas police shootings try to write off #BlackLivesMatter as a terrorist organization that spews anti-white or anti-police rhetoric, I want to remind you that we did not blame all white Christians for the actions of the racially-motivated attacks by Dylann Roof in Charleston last summer. The movement is pro-black, undoubtedly, but contrary to what we might be quick to assume, this does not at all mean anti-white. Instead, being pro-black is to ask white people to do the untidy, uncomfortable job of assessing how our whiteness positively impacts our lives at the expense of fewer opportunities for black Americans.

3. It’s time to acknowledge our white privilege and all of the things it does for us and absolutely nobody else. If you’re confused by what it means, check out Peggy McIntosh’s quintessential 1988 essay on it. If you’re from Chicago and you demand proof, you can see how whiteness is actively working for you and against people of color in neighborhoods such as Logan Square and Pilsen. These historically Latino communities have been gentrified, meaning white people moved in and took advantage of the low-rent costs, but as our presence increased, rent skyrocketed, which pushed Latinos out and effectively erased their ties to these areas. Just thought I’d throw that one tiny example in for anyone building a “Whiteness is a Plague to the Earth” evidence portfolio.

4. Straight, white, male readers, this may be a difficult pill for you to swallow, but you are not the arbitrator of what is and is not oppressive towards minority communities. The designated oppressor does not define the realities of the oppressed. So, if your female coworker tells you that your “harmless” joke was sexist, believe her. If your gay cousin informs you that your usage of the word “gay” is offensive, believe him. If #BlackLivesMatter tells you that our society is so structured in a way that relies upon the oppression, incarceration and extermination of black and brown men, women and children, believe them.

5. If you’re over the age of fifty, or you’ve only ever read history books written by white dudes, you may find yourself puzzled by the movement. #BlackLivesMatter seems superfluous, you may be thinking; after all, black people have “come so far.” To be sure, nixing water fountains and lunch counters “for coloreds” was an important milestone, but white supremacy was not dismantled the moment John F. Kennedy shook Martin Luther King, Jr.’s hand after his “I Have A Dream” speech. I, too, was shocked when I heard the news that the Civil Rights decade didn’t totally undo centuries of oppression. Alas, the struggle lives on, mostly because white people aren’t ready to say that it does.

6. The predecessors and contemporaries of #BlackLivesMatter, such as the Black Panthers, the NAACP and #BlackGirlMagic do not seek to erase the contribution of other cultures to the fabric of American life. Rather, they are asserting their creativity, intelligence, beauty, worth and humanity into the spaces (music, television, film, art, broadcast news, etc.) that have rejected them for centuries. Our cute, “Kim K-Inspired” cornrows appropriate the black culture that we ridiculed until we ripped it off of a black girl’s head and crowned ourselves with it. As Jesse Williams explained, the black experience is not one that we are allowed to try when it suits us and take off when it doesn’t. And just while we’re dancing around this subject — being Biggie’s biggest fan doesn’t give you a pass to rap along to, “If you don’t know, now you know, n****.” Just permanently cut that word out of your vocabulary.

7. Finally, white readers, please don’t ignore #BlackLivesMatter just because you can. The post-racial, land of the free American dreamland that we all lie about has no chance of becoming a reality if we can’t even acknowledge the ways in which we’ve thwarted the efforts of anti-white supremacy movements. If you’re unsettled by the loss of any human life, please write your legislators and implore them to restructure our militarized, quasi-genocidal police departments. Talk to your black and brown friends and peers to understand the ways in which racism still hurts them today, right now, this moment. A thorough understanding of the problem will lead to a proper diagnosis and, fingers crossed, an eventual cure to the racism and xenophobia that has plagued our country since its conception.

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Throwing Shade At Makeup Companies For Their Inequality

Why should shades of makeup be limited to a particular race or gender?

I love makeup. It is something that I have fallen in love with over the years.

It gave me the boost of confidence I needed when I was feeling insecure, and it allowed me to be creative. Many other men and women have used makeup to find for the same reasons. People of different backgrounds, genders, race, and social classes.

But for some reason, we have only opened up the color range of foundation to the middle group of people.

Recently, Tarte released their Shape Tape Hydrating and Matte Foundation. They shared a picture that had 11 light shades, two medium shades, and two dark shades.

Excuse my language, but this is complete bullshit. The lack of darker shades is a slap in the face to so many people and so many other lovers of makeup.

Personally, I have never experienced this. I fall in the 11 light shades. Yeah, my shade has been sold out, but I could always order or get it somehow, but a brand has never made my shade entirely.

Even the shades names are exclusive to one race. In the hydration and matte foundation, they have three fair shades for each. Then for a light category, there are five light shades in the hydration foundation and 4 in the matte foundation.

If you are keeping count all together that is 15 shades for pale, white people. Different undertones and small differences between the shades, just for Caucasians.

Now getting into the medium skin tones that still include a lot of white people with tanner skin. Between both foundations, there are ten shades.

Right now, we are at a whopping 25 shades for white people or people that have medium skin tones.

Now for anyone darker than that there are five shades between both foundations for you to pick from and none that include different skin tones or shade names that guide you to select your shade.

Please, someone, inform me what shade Mahogany looks like because if someone gave me a name of a word to describe my shade name out of 30 different shades, I would be lost.

For a brand to be adamant about treating animals fairly and making sure their products are vegan — I would assume include all races in their product range.

For a brand which is making a way and encouraging men in makeup, I would assume again; they would include all races in their product range.

For a brand who sends YouTubers and Bloggers with deeper skin tones on brand trips to Bora Bora, I would assume they would include all races in their product range.

This has to change. Everyone deserves to have a shade that makes them feel beautiful. No matter backgrounds, genders, race, and social classes, everyone should have their shade.

Being a makeup lover, I would rather wait years for a full shade range to release than get a crap release for only white people to get to.

Tarte and several other brands have to step up their game because these shit releases are getting old.

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A POC Response To 'Being A White Female In Today's Society Is Not All Fun And Games'

Freedom of speech does not excuse this article.

Note: I am not here to bully anyone, I’m actually here to educate. I’ve taken many classes regarding colorblind issues like this. Prior to this article, I did have a conversation with this author and it has pushed me to write a response in order for her to realize what she has said.

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In response to: "Being A White Female In Today's Society Is Not All Fun And Games, Fact"

The minute I read the title of this article, I knew it was going to be very colorblind. What’s funny is that I do not get what you were trying to say, but it had nothing to do with you being white, and it was a “woe is me” article.

“Being a white girl living in the middle class makes these situations that occur in society much more difficult. We are held to a certain standard, life stories are assumed about us, stereotypes and stigmas are enforced without any valid reasoning.”

So, the stereotypes, stigmas, and life stories assumed about people of color are validated? Because those aren’t either, there are stereotypes for everyone.

In America, white is not considered a color, it’s normal. Being of a different color is considered a disability — unless it’s for sports, math or to clean.

You go on a tangent about people holding you to a stigma because you’re a white woman and your major is engineering. You’re also considered a “minority” because there are not many women in your career.

It also seems that being a minority is considered at a lower level than your male counterparts, this is what it feels like to be of a different color surrounded by those who are of the majority, lower-level.

“In most of my classes, there will be a mere four or five in a classroom of 30 or more people. Most people have said that I am at an advantage because I am a "minority" attempting to succeed in this career field. I do not feel that is true. I feel that, as a female, I need to prove myself more than my male peers, that I have to make a name for myself and show others that I can succeed, regardless of how much I may struggle.

No one is saying you do not work hard.

The reason there are fewer women than men in your class is that society pushes women towards dolls, easy-bake ovens, and toy kitchens. Whereas boys are given toolsets and cars, which can later develop into a career interest. Kudos to you for overcoming the manipulation of gender roles.

“Yes, I have a scholarship that allows me to have some comfort in paying my tuition. But, I have never received a scholarship for the color of my skin or my gender.”

Neither have I, neither have most of the people at school and if they have it’s because over 65% of FGCU’s student body is of Caucasian descent.

This comment can be considered as a macroaggression, looking down on others for getting a scholarship based on the color of their skin and assuming they haven’t worked for it.

You don’t seem to think that being a white woman is an advantage because of the struggles that all women go through. Being cat-called, inequality, and sexism.

My friends and I are affected by inequality every day because of the color of our skin. Some of us are not considered pretty because of the lack of western features. Some of us are sexualized by the media for looking the way we do.

Newsflash, white women are not the only women who get cat-called.

“I am here to explain how every culture and gender and background and community has their own ups and downs. One community should never be targeted for a specific situation or event. A small group of individuals should never define a whole community. I was called vulnerable for the way I portray myself through my writing, and I take an immense amount of pride in that. I am not afraid to share how I feel or how I view things.”

The white community is not targeted for specific events, no one is going around killing all the white people because another white boy shot up a school.

You are right, a small group of individuals should not be targeted for specific situation or event.

But you in-turn have targeted other individuals because it’s not all fun and games being white. You obviously know it’s not all fun and games being black, Hispanic, or Asian.

Did you hear about the black girl who was hung by two white boys on Facebook live?

Or the boy who was hung by his white classmates?

What you really seem to be angry about is that you were called vulnerable, make that the point of your argument- do not bring race into it. Because at the end of the day, you are not considered a race by societal standards. You do have greater life chances than any other women of color in your major.

You may think this article is being racist towards you, but reverse racism does not exist.

I feel as though you need to apologize to your viewers of color for the ignorant message you’ve sent out. I do not feel you meant harm by it, but you don’t understand that there are so many people today who are in the same boat as you and aren’t white.

I’m a middle-class individual, with scholarships, I work two jobs, my parents do not pay for my schooling or anything of the matter. I did not get a scholarship for the color of my skin.

You are not special or excluded because you are white.

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